Question: What do you have to say about comparing yourself to other people?

Higg(in)s: You are here, in this physical representation of your broader, eternal self, to explore you and to express you. You are here to interact with others. You are here to create with others. You are here to explore your physical environment. You are here to interact with your physical environment. You are here for the spiritual growth and expansion that naturally occurs in this environment in which you are free to choose.

There is very little value in comparing yourself to others because you came here to be you and they came here to be them. Looking at others and judging them relative to your experiences and desires, or judging yourself against theirs has no benefit because the comparison has no validity.

It is like this. You are an orange. They are an apple. You judge them to be less than you because you are thick skinned, round and a glorious shade of orange and they are not. Or you judge them to be better than you because they have delicate skin, a denser texture, and an appealing, sensual shape.

The problem with this is that you did not come here to be an apple and they did not come here to be an orange. Yet you all keep expecting one another to be the same and you are not, to want the same things but you do not. You can’t because you are not the same and did not come forth to be the same. You came forth to discover you as whatever kind of orange you are, and then to be the best orange you could be in this physical environment.

You did not come here expressly to love, to be kind, to be helpful, to laugh, to have fun, to be interested, to be generous, and to master crafts and develop skills. You came here for the growth and expansion that you knew this environment would stimulate in you. You knew that no matter what happened here, you would grow, but you anticipated that because these things feel good you would pursue them vigorously. You knew that maintaining these sorts of positive emotions was the superior method for achieving your goals. You anticipated that you would express yourself in myriad ways and that you would do so kindly, generously, and steadfastly because you would be happiest if you did. Moreover, you knew that your happiness was the marker that you would use to judge whether you were successfully living the life of the orange you wanted to be.

Having said all that, as you are deciding how best to express the orange (or apple) that you are we anticipate that you will look around at others for inspiration. When you find another that inspires you to be your best self, we do understand that the comparison of yourself against that which you strive to be can be very helpful.