H: As we are coming in bring yourself together. Breathe more fully.
We would like to talk about responsibility. In this country we do not hear a lot about responsibility. We hear a lot about rights. Because it is not the common pathway of thinking we want to bring to your attention that your energy and how you carry yourself is YOUR responsibility and no one else’s. You do this for yourself. We can coach you but you have to do the work. It isn’t much work once you get the hang of it.
As we come together in this group tonight, we will give you this responsibility: intentionally get your energy flowing head to toe. If you are concerned about your nephew or your physical health or if you are thinking about something else, your energy is dissipated. Bring your energy back to center (emotional balance). We will also connect to any of your pets that want to connect. We will interact with them not through the entity but through a separate channel. Bring yourself in. Tell your energy where you want it to go (head to toe).
P: I have been having some very good days with the pre-paving of my days. At the end of the day I recognize and am grateful for the things that went a certain way. One thing that is not so good is the traffic. (participant really meant to say drivers. But Higgins focused on traffic). H: (retold the story of entity and mom going to see nephew lift 500 lbs.)
He did not start out lifting that much. When you feel something that you can’t control, that is your 500 lb. issue. As you were talking we were applauding all your successes and then you said things not going well. We do encourage you to continue to practice setting your intention and being grateful for the things that do happen. The entity has been practicing with parking spaces. Envision the parking lot before you go and where you want a slot. Doesn’t happen every single time. Practice and appreciate. Practice and appreciate. Practice and appreciate. Why? B/c is takes a while to be able to lift 500 lbs. Traffic/drivers. You cannot shift another person. You have to shift you. Then think about you attracting the right people surrounding you whenever you are leaving in your car. Are you leaving when you are inspired to leave; coming home when you are inspired to come home. Are you being quiet and still inside so you can hear the inspiration inside that sends you out the door at the right time or tells you to turn left today instead of right. Crazy drivers may be b/c the traffic is so slow that they can’t get from here to there and this causes frustration. Improving roads takes a long time.
When you intentionally envision roads with traffic moving smoothly along and other drivers that are courteous and thoughtful, you are pulling out of the Universe the reality of having new roads built and old ones improved. Your pull inspired those people who have the ideas about what to do to a certain road to improve flow of traffic. Your wanting is drawing a response from the Universe but the material form takes time to arrive. It takes time for the answers to show up in physical form.
P: I’ve had some weird things happen and want to know why. Is it something I should be learning? Years ago when I was a teenager I had a ring given to me that had a 4 carot amethyst. I was doing laundry and then my husband and I were getting ready to go somewhere and I saw the amethyst wasn’t in the ring. We looked everywhere. Four months later it shows up right on top of the clean laundry, happy and clean. I never would have expected to find something that small. I also had some special sunglasses that I put down on a place. I went to do something and I came back in and they were gone. My husband usually finds everything and he looked everywhere and moved everything around. He said I really didn’t leave it where I said. Several months later they show up. My joke is that they went to a different dimension. Haha. But, I really don’t know what is going on. What am I expected to be learning?
H: There is so much laughter and back slapping and guffawing on this side. These are two separate incidences. The laughter comes from spirit guides or something along those lines. With the stone, whatever the mood you were in at the time the stone fell out and came back and this was unconscious creation on your part. It came back b/c you wanted it. You were able to draw it back. B/c of your success with that, later when you needed to learn something your guides and the group around you said, “We could disappear these sunglasses and bring them back.” We could reinforce for her the ideas that she already has about parallel universes and other realms and other beings that we can’t see that interact with us. It will be a sort of reinforcing gag if you will. Truly they are laughing so hard. They are really pleased you made the connection that there are other things going on that we don’t see. They are very pleased with you and anxious to continue with you and expand your spiritual connection any which way you want to go.
P: I lose something about every 2 hours and always ask St. Anthony to help me find it. It won’t work if I’m upset. Usually I will get a prompt and I find it and I’m thankful. Happens a good percent of the time. So, I asked him to find me the perfect girlfriend -and yes I know that is different than lost car keys but could it work with bigger things?
H: This is really two different things we are talking about here. If you misplace something and you ask anyone to find them, the most important thing about that is can you be quiet enough to hear the responses? Be quiet in your mind. Let your mind be still and allow the response to come, and allow yourself to hear it. If you get angry or flustered it is likely you will not receive the response you are asking for. Not that it won’t be given to you, you just won’t be able to tune into it. If you misplace something your mind is unquiet. This is the mud puddle that we are talking about. Quiet the mind, let the metaphorical mud settle to the bottom of the puddle so you have crystal clear water. This is so you can receive the response that is given to you.
When you do this settling of the mind you can find things, you can find anything and have access to all kinds of information. When you are talking about manifesting something like a relationship you have to decide what it is that you want in that relationship and if you are muddy about what you want, you are going to have a muddy response. Most helpful thing for you is, if you are a writer, write down what you want in a relationship, if not, think it through in your head. What is it you want in a relationship? Sit down with pen and paper and maybe a cup of coffee and think it through. Not just in your mind but feel it in your heart. What are the qualities of a person that you want to spend time with? Once you are clear about the qualities of that person, take that piece of paper and light it on fire and let it go. Go on about your life as though it has been answered. This is where stillness comes in. If you have been still, you will be inspired to show up at the right coffee shop where she is or you will take a walk down the street and there she’ll be. The stillness comes in receiving and then responding to the inspirations you receive. “Inspire me to be where she is so I can meet her.”
You are the one who is responsible to choose the qualities you want in a person. If you have had enough experience that you think you know exactly what you want, you can go ahead with this. If you think maybe you haven’t had enough experience maybe you should do some dating. Ask, “Let me meet some girls so I can do some sifting so I can clarify the data.” Once you are clear on what you want, then there they are.
P: Maybe my higher self knows who would compliment me better than I even know. Someone who would open me up to possibilities.
H: It’s up to you. We want you to skip all the little details and go to bigger things. “I want to meet someone with whom I resonate. I want to have a deep connection with a person, someone that is able to grow in a relationship, so that we can grow together. I want someone with whom I am compatible.” Those kinds of statements are much easier for the Universe to work with to find you someone.
P: I am bothered by your “perfect” person b/c in my mind it is really hard to define and find a perfect person. I like Higgins’ idea of looking at the broader picture.
P: I disagree (about it being really hard to find the perfect person). I made the big list and found the perfect person. But, I have been married and divorced twice; I had 3 young children and I knew exactly what I didn’t want. I knew what I needed and what I hadn’t gotten before so I made a list and it was all the big picture = they need to be smart, have a sense of humor, be logical. I made a real written list and I’d meet someone on a date and he was nice but not logical and I realized that was really important to me. Next thing I know this person shows up in my life; gets along with my kids; they adore him and we have been married nearly 30 years. I think the list works.
P: So if I don’t make a list and leave it up to the Universe. Obviously my higher self knows me well enough (or better than I know myself) to know what person would be most compatible with me. I might change my mind the next day and say I would rather this than that.
H: What you are telling us, friend, is that you don’t really know what you want.
P: I like a variety and I don’t know if it is contained in one person.
H: All of this is telling us you haven’t been clear enough to the Universe. Your spirit guides are not going to do it for you. Higgins is not going to do it for you. There is no being: God or Jesus or anybody that is going to do it for you. You didn’t come forward for someone else to do it for you. You came into this physical body for you to figure it out and do it yourself. If you say you like variety, pick that. C dated someone and discovered that maybe this quality he didn’t have was more important than she thought, so she put it on her list. Maybe you haven’t dated enough people to have clearly decided what you want. We suggest you have dated a number of people and it would be best to now make a list of all the things you did not like and then turn it around and say I do like this, this, and this. This is an excellent creative tool. If you look at what you do not prefer, then consciously decide on what you do prefer and then you are clear.
Currently, you are putting out muddy water. Maybe you don’t want one woman. It’s the same for anything you want to create. In a planet of 8 billion people an awful lot would meet your requirements if you were clear about them. Let go of the little things and look at bigger things first. What have you thought of?
P: Travel, have own money, live separately to be centered and come together for fun and happiness.
H: You have not listed one thing about the person that you want. What do you want in a partner.
P: open-minded; open-minded to understanding me; have a good sense of self and how to center herself, physically appealing, funny (sense of humor), talented, inspirational, insightful, sense of adventure.
H: From what we are hearing, we would have you think about things like kindness, thoughtfulness, generosity, intelligence –qualities of human beings and continue to look at and decide which are important to you.
P: Maybe able to assess different things and think for herself.
H: We would have you look at what are qualities you admire in a human being. What could you stand to be around 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.
P: Well, we wouldn’t need to be around each other 24-hours a day.
H: So independent.
P: yes, affectionate too, sense of humor, open minded, fun to be with, likes to travel, flexible, into energy and the unseen and feeling of higher frequencies that we can exist at. Energy can be really powerful together.
H: Think about the qualities of the person you would like to be around. Think of the people you dated and about what was missing and add that into your list. And perhaps, friend, who do you want to be in relationship? Then choose someone who draws forth your best characteristics.
P: I also use a similar method for finding stuff. I ask spirit to help me. Then I find myself walking in a certain direction and I find it. I have 3 flashlights I bought and can’t find any of them and realized I forgot to ask spirit to help me find them – or at least one. I sat back down in my chair and here it is. Right after I asked.
H: It is all about being still and knowing. Meditation.