How To Not Be A Victim

Question:  I have been reading the information presented on not being a victim. I feel as though I have allowed myself to be victimized since I was a child. I did everything my parents wanted and I allowed myself to bullied as my parents taught me just to take it. Of course I ended up in abusive relationships. Later, in a stressful situation, I had an abortion rather than stand up for myself and head out to be a single mom. I feel that this was a test- a test where I was supposed to finally stand up for myself. Instead I killed my baby. It was my chance to make my life good. I didn’t do it and I suffer everyday. I have a baby now and feel terrible grief knowing that I can never cuddle the child I aborted. But apparently I am not a victim. I was always so trusting and assuming that if I did everything right, that my loved ones would cut me some slack. Can you tell me why I would make so many terrible choices and allow myself to be overpowered by everyone in my life?

Higgins:  Each person chooses a life experience that will  help them grow spiritually. Family members are especially important in helping us with that. Sometimes they help us negatively. A victim looks at life and says, “Why was this done to me?” A person who is not a victim says, “Why was this done for me?”

When you are little, those around you with the stronger emotional set point (unknowingly and unconsciously) will find a way to ‘force’ you to align vibrationally with them. If your parents bullied you into doing their will, all they were doing is getting you vibrationally into some kind of alignment with them. Remember, adults have been on the planet long enough to develop a negative baseline emotion. Babies and little children have not. Babies and children, in all their newness are still happy and filled with wonder. Negative and positive emotions clash. You never did anything to ‘deserve’ mistreatment. Your parents and you simply responded to the attractive laws of the universe.

Now that you are an adult, your goal is to get into synch with the happy child self. The self that existed before emotional manipulation began. Sometimes, a person will continue to unconsciously put themselves into situations that maintain the abusive status quo because of that powerful, powerful requirement of the universe — like attracts like.

What you must do is clean up your emotional vibration. You don’t need to become the happiest person in the world today. In fact, you can’t. The laws of the universe can’t be applied that rapidly in the Earth realm. What you can do is carefully select your thoughts. Always choose the thought that is slightly better than the others. This will be enough to start shifting your emotional set point immediately. A little at a time is all anyone can do so this is the starting point.

In the meanwhile, stop beating yourself up. You followed the very, very powerful laws of the universe when you aborted this baby. Following those laws is the only thing any of you can do. It is impossible to exist outside those laws. You are expecting yourself to have done something that could not be done.

When you stop beating up on yourself, when you treat yourself with love and compassion, those around you will also. Any other option defies universal law.

It is important to note that you can never do enough to satisfy another and it is not your job to do so. Quit trying to do everything ‘right’. It won’t work to earn the love, respect and compassion of others because love, respect and compassion are not earned. They are ‘purchased’ using the Law of Economics.  Love, respect and compassion are who you are. When you represent these aspects of yourself clearly (Law of Economics), then others reflect (like a mirror) your love, respect and compassion (Law of Attraction).

Received 7/5/18

(Note to Cheryl: This is the first post from Higgins as Higgins Part 2)

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The Akashic Record

Question:  Can Higgins tell us about the Akashic Record? Is there a way us physicals can access it?

Higgins:  It is very difficult to describe something, using a human vehicle,  that is beyond the scope of human understanding but we will try.

The Akashic Record may better be described as the Akashic Field. Akashic Record makes it sound as though there is an invisible library that one might travel to, to visit and to look something up. That isn’t quite right. Instead, there is a field of cosmic consciousness. It is an energy matrix.

The matrix is consciousness. It is energy. The two cannot be separated. We will be so bold as to call this energy matrix the mind of God. You live within the mind of God. Life exists within the mind of God. All the memories of the past live here, too.

This consciousness can be tapped into very simply and the best way to start is with meditation. First, learn to relax the mind. Allow the mind to become still. For most people, this takes quite a lot of practice. Not long periods of practice, rather short periods of practice over a long period of time. It’s not hard, but thoughts do rise and when that happens, just let them slide by.

When you are able to still the mind you can begin consciously accessing the Akashic Field. Sit with your question in mind, still your mind to allow the answer to flow to you through the field. Some get answers very quickly, others may sit for hours. Either way, life is different when you know how to get the answers you need, more vivid and exciting somehow, even though it will still look much the same as before.

Received June 28, 2018

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It’s Not About Your Spouse

As I proof read Ask Higgins Volume Two for the final time I found this very helpful post:

Offering from Higgins:

Nothing your spouse does or doesn’t do is about you. Everything your spouse does or doesn’t do is about your spouse. The way you respond to what your spouse does or doesn’t do is about you.

Let’s say you want your spouse to help with more of the around the house chores. Is this about him or you? It’s about you. If you choose to be a victim then you can be angry about the perceptions you hold regarding your spouse’s perceived unwillingness to do those household chores. But if you are a master creator of your life experience…then what?

A master creator would know that there is a solution, a beautiful solution, to every problem. Therefore, there are no problems only beautiful solutions and the master creator will enthusiastically begin sifting through ideas regarding possible solutions. Some solutions will be more immediately practical than others but there will be myriad solutions to any problem given thought and time.

The best part of this solution brainstorming is that (given thought and time) it will lead you inexorably to discover the very best of yourself, to uncover your strengths, talents, spiritual gifts and yes, your true purpose in life.

Remember, Friends, victims suffer in difficult times. In those same difficult times, master creators make huge, huge steps forward in creating blessed lives of pleasure and positive abundance.

Received November 13, 2011 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Ask Higgins Volume Two

Ask Higgins Volume Two is a compilation of the second one hundred posts from this blog.

It will be available next week on Amazon, along with Higgins’ Manual on Physical Existence, The Kindness Paradigm, and Ask Higgins Volume One.

Thanks for reading.

Cheryl

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Prosper Ndabishuriye Is in Town

Many of you will remember Prosper Ndabishuriye who visited the Everett, Washington area a couple of times about ten years ago. Prosper shares an incredible story of reconciliation between the peoples of his country. He is here sharing that story and raising funds to continue the reconstruction of homes that were destroyed in the fighting, and to build schools and orphanages.

His is quite an amazing humanitarian story that continues now for 22 years. From the beginnings of his story he has founded the non-profit organization,                             Jeunesse en Reconstruction du Monde en Destruction (JRMD) –
Youth in Reconstruction of a World in Destruction (YRWD)       

While his primary focus while he is here is to raise funds, he and I have been talking about how meditation might be helpful and how it might be applied towards this monumental reconciliation effort. For example, we think the school children might benefit from a school wide meditation program.

Whether he knows it or not, Prosper is applying the Law of Attraction in a significant and meaningful way. What I find most significant is that Prosper has found his life’s work at the intersection between the world’s deep need and his personal interests and concerns. This is something mentioned often on this site. Prosper embodies the very thing that Higgins suggests will bring happiness and fulfillment to our lives.

To review his work see http://www.jrmd.org.

If you feel inspired to assist in his fund-raising needs by donating, you may donate through his site, or in the USA you may mail a  check made to  FSN/JRMD and mail it to:   217 S. 168 St. Burien, WA 98148.

If you feel inspired to assist his effort in other ways, contact him at ndapros@yahoo.fr.

Prosper needs $4,000 USD this month to pay teachers wages at the school. His total fund raising goal is $166,500 USD.

Sincerely,

Cheryl Jensen

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Feels She Has Done Something Wrong

Question:  Please help. I hope that you are well. Since April I sustained bilateral ankle sprains, at least 1 foot bone bruise, a bruised tailbone and a wrist sprain. Only the tailbone has healed. At least two of these injuries were done by my ex-boyfriend being clumsy and rushing in some manner. Friday, after completing an appointment about when I can take my medical boots off, he rammed the front wheelchair wheel into my sprained ankle. And possibly caused another bone bruise. Thing is, I have been housebound for two months because the medical boot (he) has me unable to walk outside on my own and people haven’t been visiting. I can’t take this latest injury. It has to heal. I have to continue physical therapy because I have lost so much muscle mass. But I am scared that I will prolong any bone bruises or causes stress fracture if I do. I had to take a break from seeing my ex-boyfriend until I am someday stronger. I don’t understand … all but one of these injuries was caused by other people. I am frightened to be out in the world. I was very weak after a work injury in 2016 and I had cerebral palsy, and all of a sudden people are bumping into me stepping on me pulling me etc. and every time that I’ve made adequate steps to getting stronger another injury comes. And the doctor say that I have to rest. But I am losing too much muscle mass so please tell me how to heal and please explain why this is happening over and over. I am so scared and I think about suicide daily. Because the other thing my two best friend stop speaking to me. there was no reason given beyond something vague. I know they’re both going through something together but they have never let me in to see what that was. My family moved away a year ago and I can’t join them right now nor should I. Somebody told me to study a course in miracles but that says this world is false. But that was the only way to make the injury stop. Please tell me what to do. I feel like I must have done something very, very, very wrong.

Higgins:  We want you to clearly understand that you have done nothing wrong. In fact, you have done the only thing that any of you can do, and that is respond to the laws of the Universe. How you got to this point of desperation is irrelevant (not to you, of course, but in finding a solution).

The first step in solving this is to determine what you want from life. Let’s assume happiness is your primary goal for this lifetime. It’s safe to assume this, since happiness is the primary goal for almost all of you.

Your current sense of desperation, and happiness, are quite far apart in emotional terms. No matter how hard you try, and Friend, we know you have tried, you cannot leave desperation and move straight to happiness. It defies Universal Law.

What you can do, though, is move from desperation to hope.

From where you are emotionally, all you need to do is seek thoughts that bring relief. And this, Friend, is your work. You must focus the way a dog focuses on a ball. He never takes his eyes off the ball. The ball is his. He will get that ball. In that moment, that ball is the only thing in his world. A better life for you has to be the only thing in your world. You must focus on having it. You must relax many times per day and allow your mind to quiet. When the mind is quiet you are best able to ‘hear’ the response the Universe has for you in how to achieve a better life. You will be ‘given’ steps to take. Follow them. Each step will bring a sense of relief or a sense of a gaining a little more power.

The focusing will be the hardest part of your ‘work’.  Stick to it. This part is your trade, your offering to the Universe. Remember, there is a Law of Economics at work right alongside the Law of Attraction.

Another helpful tip is about energy. You must learn to keep your energy and not give it away. Meditate quietly 20 minutes twice each day. Instruct your energy body to allow energy to fill all your cells, the way water fills a sponge. Then, when you feel full, direct the energy to flow through you from head to foot. At this point you are ready to let your mind relax. When thoughts arise, let them pass, the way a mountain does not latch onto the clouds, but allows them to pass. 

This is the same technique you may use to ‘hear’ inspiration when you ask for guidance on how to have a better life. After filling yourself with energy, ask the question, “What is the next step I might take to make a better, happier life for myself?” Then relax your mind and await the response.

This should help you get started on turning your life around. Suicide is not the option we recommend simply because once you get to the other side you will see with such great clarity you will want to jump back in and get started again. 

Something we notice about you all is you let others get you down. You have a whole bunch of rules to live by but none of you like the rules. Yet still, you beat each other up with the rules. Forget the rules for today. Seek to live this moment better than the last moment. Notice we use the word ‘moment’. If you wait for days and weeks and months then life slides by pretty much the same. Make the changes you need to make now, in this moment, so you don’t have to wait so long to see improvement.

We’d like to add that at the very least, for right now your boyfriend needs to remain your ex. His energy is not compatible with your well-being, your energy is not compatible with your well-being and the two of you together will not be well suited to your healing. As for your friends, all things push and pull together and apart through an invisible matrix. Your energy is so low and slow right now that they are pushed away. So don’t hold their wandering away against them, they are simply responding to Universal Law. What you can do is begin cleaning up your emotional offering so that they will once again be drawn towards you through the matrix. (Right along with that better health!) And you will clean up your emotions by focusing your thoughts on ways to make your life better.

Received June 3, 2018

 

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How Do We Cope in a World of Unkindness?

As I prepare to publish Ask Higgins, Volume Two, I came across this old post and thought you’d like to read it again.     Cheryl-

Question:  I do think that I was brought up to be kind to people.  I think it is a huge source of stress, frustration, that most people I meet are not kind.  That stress can cause and has caused health problems in me and in some other folks who were raised to be kind.  I do agree that for the most part the majority of the world does not have the kindness paradigm.  However, for those of us who do, or did, or have a little of it, how do we cope in the world of mostly  “not kind” folks????

Higgins: This question is a tempestuous sea of energy. Let’s try to sort it out. And Friend, read this slowly, sentence by sentence and paragraph by paragraph.

There are exceedingly few of you whose parents, or those doing the child rearing, do not make some attempt to teach kindness to their charges. However, in a society that has no kindness paradigm how can kindness be taught? Few of you know what it is to be kind and there is significant difference between kind acts and kindness. Kind acts can be taught and learned but kindness comes from inside.

So when you say most people you meet are not kind we’d suggest that what you are experiencing is someone (with perhaps exactly the same understanding of kindness that you have) who failed, in your presence, to express the kind acts they’ve been taught.

Genuine kindness and compassion is part of each of your Truths. This physical place is often scary and stressful for the harshness is out of synch with the very foundation of what you are. Though it is certain that carrying around incompatible vibration eventually leads to illness and dis-ease, illness is not developing in you because others are not kind. Illness and disease develop because you have forgotten to hold fast to your own Truth. You simply may not lay the blame of your ill-health on another for any reason.

To cope in a harsh world, one that overflows with behavior that is out of synch with Truth, one must develop compassion–for true kindness is a reflection of compassion. And that is how you cope. You develop compassion. You reflect true kindness. Then the universe will reflect the Truth you express right back at you, which is all it ever does anyway.

Received January 15, 2012

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