Ask Higg(in)s

Higgins (H): We have been speaking with you for many years, helping you to understand what it is you are doing here on earth in this body and how to navigate.  Without desire and direction, the game can roll along in a muddy sort of way.  When you have powerful, clear visions for what you want to achieve, life can move along very quickly. This group (including S who is not present today) has mastered some things about what it is to be human and you may not feel as though you have mastered things.  Of course, there are some things you haven’t mastered, but there are some important things you have mastered such as stabilizing your energy so that you can communicate with us which may sound like a small thing to you. Because you have learned it over time it’s never been too big of a step.  But it is a big thing, actually, to be able to tap into or prepare to receive information from that which is not physical.  You are physical beings here with the expectation that you would be able to do that from birth and that you could maintain your ability to do it.  Of course, some people do and some don’t. 

We want each of you to understand that whether you maintained that from childhood or not you are doing it now, and are able to set your energy in such a way that you can receive information from us or from your spirit guides or to be inspired. 

We are going to start this evening with a meditation to calm the mind and assist you in a deeper attunement to the world around you.  We frequently hear people say, “Oh I don’t know what’s going to happen.”  You do know what will happen and you know that by looking around you and reading the events of any given moment and day.  We are going to give you an example.  We will have the entity explain this.

Entity:  Mom and I went to the credit union to open a CD.  The idea was to take money from this credit union and move it to a bank because we could get a better rate at the bank.  So they gave us a check and we were standing with the check and I decided to ask them what their best rate for CD’s was.  They said their rate wasn’t very good, only 2%; however, we have this thing that we’ll sometimes match another institution if you send us a photo of their website saying what their interest rate is.  So I did that and we saw their interest rate is 3.35%.  The credit union representative said, “Fine. We will meet it and give you a longer duration by a month.”

 They gave us 6 months instead of 5 for 3.35%.  All we did was stand there and ask, “What is your interest rate?” 

I felt we were guided and inspired to ask the right question, to do the right things that needed to be done.  This transaction was significantly simpler than moving to another bank and opening a CD there.  It was a really interesting transaction because mom and I talk every night about how was your day organized, and was money your friend and how are you feeling successful today?  

We answer these questions day after day and then we have something like this happen and so I asked Mom, “Do you think these questions that we have been talking about every day inspired the universe to offer us this?” 

It was pretty cool, actually.  That is what Higgins wanted me to share. 

H:  The entity does have these conversations on a nightly basis.  They ask the questions and the goal is to answer the questions in a positive tone.  How did you act as a successful person today?  Even if you didn’t feel successful, how did you act successful?  How was money your friend?  How were you organized and efficient?  How were you flexible? How were you kind or uplifting to another person?  It could be any kind of question but these are examples of the sort of questions they ask each other. 

When you focus on the positive answers to these (even if there were 10 negative ones in your day) and focus on the positive, you stimulate the Universe to provide you with what is going on.  When you look around you and things happen to you, you can say, “I do know what’s going on.  I can see it coming.”  Today maybe it’s small but I can see it being repeated in this way, and repeated in this way and repeated in this way. 

Let’s meditate about how you can relax your brain, allowing an even greater connection with the non-physical inspiration that guides you unerringly through your life experience towards those things that you want when you are clear about the things that you want. 

(Meditation)

H: Where would you like to begin. 

Participant (P):  You have said we have graduated to another level.  I’m not clear about what that means.  We are encouraged to practice the things we have been learning.  It would be helpful to me if you could provide a little summary of some of the things we have learned that we should be practicing now that we are moving forward. 

H:  Let’s talk about graduating and what it means to step up.  When you graduate from kindergarten to first grade or from 6^th to 7^th grade or from high school or college, you have learned some things like reading, writing and arithmetic.  When you graduate, you go on to do the same thing only in a more complex way. 

You have learned to tap into our energy. You have learned to calm your own mind. You have learned to make decisions of what you want to have happen and take steps toward its completion or achievement, and multiple energetic nuances along those lines.  When we say graduated, you seem to be expecting something profoundly different from one moment to the next when in reality it’s just like graduation from one grade to the next.  You are doing the same things but you have a greater depth of skill.  When you first started reading or writing you read See Spot Run, but later you are writing a thesis. 

P:  I have a question.  In my previous metaphysical school they would teach us about communicating with others.  The way they would frame it is that we all have a certain frequency bandwidth and that we can communicate within that bandwidth.  We are not just in one place.   We can expand, contract, move and flow depending on whom we are speaking to and the other people we are speaking to have a similar bandwidth but it may be at a different place.  I find I’m trying to communicate with people who have very little overlap and I struggle with that.  How can I improve communicating with people who don’t seem to share my communication bandwidth? 

H:  In any interaction where you want to improve the quality, there is a very simple technique –and we are assuming you know whom you will be interacting with. 

P:  Not always. 

H:  Ok we will give you part A and then part B.  If you know who you will be communicating with and know something about them, you can say to yourself prior to the conversation, “I like this about that person.”  Find something that you genuinely like about that person and ponder it for a moment.  The reason that you do that is that you set up through the web a connection with them and you are drawing them to you. You are making a meeting place.  A simple example: You might want to have a conversation with your husband.  Before you have that conversation say, “Husband I want to speak to you.”  You would first think about the many things you like about your husband. Then you would identify what you want to talk to him about. Then when you come together for the conversation you are better prepared to do it because you have set up a positive tone ahead of time. 

P:  I already have good communication to begin with so we are on the same bandwidth. 

H:  Your husband is a simple example.  At work maybe a boss or co-worker might be more difficult.  That technique helps you get into the same range.  It really does. 

P:  Most of these people are strangers and maybe live across the country.  I don’t know them. 

H:  Part A would be with the people that you know.  For people whom you do not know it is slightly different because you do not know who you would be talking to.  Are you picking up the phone when this happens? 

P: Usually.

H:  So, prior to your telephone communication you are going to set your intention for how you want to act.  You want to be clear and have a clear conversation, get the information that you need and convey the information you want to share.  You are stating what you want.  Then they have a moment to respond to that and that will help place you into an alignment better than what you would otherwise have so you can get the information that you need.

P:  Sometimes these are people I have never talked to before and they are angry and upset and I have to communicate something they don’t want to hear.  I can do that but I’m trying to find a way. In many ways there is no common ground whatsoever.  I can’t do that in advance because I don’t know when they are going to call me. 

H:  So this is a surprise? And it can happen all day long? 

P:  Right. 

H:  It’s a similar technique, but it’s going to be before you pick up the phone.  “This is what I want from this conversation.”  Let it ring 2-3 times.  You can have your list handy. 

P:  But I don’t even know who it is so how can I know what I want? 

H:  You are always going to want clear communication. 

P:  Sometimes.  When they are really very angry, I don’t want that any more clearly.  I have gotten death threats.  These are angry, sick people. 

H:  We are hearing you and adjusting but the answer is still very similar.  When you pick up the phone you are the one in charge.  Whatever is coming down, you can shift it based on your expectation of the phone call.  You have decided what you want from that phone call.  If clear communication is not the right word, then what are the right words?  What do you want?  Give us some words.  Someone is calling you and are really angry, what would you like?  For them to convey the information you need calmly? 

P:  And rationally would be nice; and for them to actually listen to what I have to say.  Most of the time they just want to dump their anger and their emotions.  They have been getting themselves worked up and they finally got someone they can yell at.  Wow, someone with the government is finally listening.  They have been cruel, hostile, and very angry.  I guess you are not really answering my question; maybe in a backward way.  It’s OK.  I can work with what you have told me. 

H:  We are going to come back to you.  Another person has a question. 

P:  Would you prepare by saying, “I want to feel OK about this conversation. I want to feel safe somehow and not threatened,” so you could focus on how you want to feel regardless of what’s coming in. 

H:  Absolutely.  Friend, K, no matter how persistent the illusion, your life experience is an illusion.  You are drawing more of this behavior because it bothers you so much and because you care so deeply.  You are not a victim and when you change your output then you are changing what is coming in.  It is the law.   It defies law to have any other response.  Do you follow that?  As you shift what your expectation is from picking up that phone, what comes to you on that phone will shift and it can shift within a conversation as you decide with integrity (as you do) and with love (as you do).  We are beginning to know you.  You are a loving and caring being: compassionate, kind, bright. You want to give good service: do a good job for these people who are calling you.  Those things are already clear.  Now, as you decide you will no longer tolerate those behaviors that come at you, and instead you have a different expectation, the Universe will begin to shift how people present to you.  It is the law. 

In your physical realm, law doesn’t mean much.  People do what they want anyway.  But this law in the Universe is immutable.  It does not change.  It must be because everything moves on an energetic push/pull. 

Do you remember Dr. Doolittle’s Pushmi-pullyu ?   A fun reminder of that animal that has a head on each end and cannot move without coordination. (Scribe has no idea what this is; not familiar with Dr. Doolittle). 

P:  You have different words when you pick up the phone and you know the person; and you have different words when you call someone you don’t know; and different words when receiving a call from someone you know; and different words when receiving a call from someone you don’t know. 

H:  Exactly.  You might have words:  I want this to be brief.  I want this to be something I can easily solve.  If it is a friend, I want a good emotional connection with them.  One of the things that we notice (and this is not intended as a criticism) but you physicals are a tad bit lazy about choosing what you expect to see, what you expect to get.  As you recognize how potent your thoughts and choices are you will want to apply them more and more frequently and more clearly. 

Anyway, back to your comments.  You are having people who are angry who you don’t want to cope with but that is part of your job and again, you are capable, kind, compassionate and you want to serve so you get these ugly calls because you are the person who has the compassion and the emotional capability to hear them and they need you.  They need someone who listens past their anger and that is a difficult person to be.  And you have been it and you have been exceptional at it and now perhaps have learned as much as you want to have learned in that capacity and now you get to shift your thought process. 

Friend, when you do anything, every response to you is information.  When you gather enough information you say, “I like this; I don’t like that. I am going to move towards this.” And that is all that every day of your life is. You like it. You don’t like it. You move towards what you like.  That’s all there is to it: a very simple process if you will apply it consistently, persistently.

Talk to us some more.  You seem a little less resistant than at the beginning of our conversation but not really excited about it.  Perhaps we are missing something. 

P:  My intention is that they don’t call me at all.  I am working and really focused on something and I get a call from some wing nut who is really angry and crying because she thinks the drama will help her get her way because it often works. But this woman is not very stable.  Her suppositions are wrong and I really don’t have time to deal with it and I am stuck with her on the phone.  I didn’t expect her to call.  It didn’t show up on the caller ID.  I don’t know her.  I feel I should have the courage to answer my phone.  I know most of my co-workers won’t do that. They screen their calls.  I’m beginning to think that’s the way to go.  But some of these people aren’t going to change if I call them at another time.  It will be the same thing either way and I am making a decision on their case they won’t like because they were not thinking rationally to begin with.  I’m about to close their investigation.  This is a very common theme day in and day out.  One particular person calls often and they don’t like the decision that was made. They don’t like that I don’t respond to their drama and I’m not going to be manipulated emotionally because that’s how they get what they want.  That’s how they are used to dealing with their life. 

H:  Even though you want us to answer differently we have the same thing to say.  We can feel on you the dread about getting another one of these phone calls.  And you are emanating the dread clearly in your off time. We know you are carrying this deeply and you carry it because you care.  We don’t want you to stop caring.  We want you to stop hating the phone calls because when you resist something it will continue to persist  We saw the eye roll!  You know when you resist, it persists because you are putting up an energetic blockage and the Universe says, “I can match that energy,” and it does.

The onus is on you the night before you go to sleep or in the morning before you go to work to set your intention for having a pleasant day; to have phone calls that are manageable; to talk with people who are rational and to draw the best  out of those who are typically irrational and make it clear to the Universe what it is that you want so the Universe can begin to provide it to you.  We would ask you do this for a week. The night before you go to sleep set your intention for the next day.  Make some kind of list in your head that says. “I want to be treated with decency. I want to be communicating with people who are rational and whatever sort of calls that come to me I want them to be reasonable and I want to be able to take care of them easily.”  Watch for a week and notice.  It won’t happen every time but it will get better and as you notice it is better, it gets better. 

P:  I have been setting my intention at the office and you’re saying that is not enough lead time? 

H:  Well, it’s better than not doing it.  We like having it done the night before.  The reason is that, even though the Universe can respond in an instant, if something more profound needs to happen, the Universe has more time to make it happen.  Let’s say this person who calls you is going to be hysterical.  What if you set your intention the night before and you gave time for a different outcome in her life?  Somebody was walking their dog in the morning and said hello or told her her dress looks pretty.  What if she had somebody buoy her up before she called you?  It has more time to happen if you do it the night before. 

P:  OK. 

H:  Just for a week, the night before and see what happens.  We have been with the entity when she has tried many different ways and she had the best out come when she did it the night before.  

P:  I had a job like that at one time.  I would have angry and abusive people just walk into my office.  I started to say to myself, “I do not owe this person caring.  I owe them service.”  That is a difference in my energy output because if I owe the service, I can withdraw my energy somewhat and I will give them respect. I will hear what they have to say.  I also will be aware that I do not have the energy to control their problems and I can’t walk their path.  So I will put myself in a witnessing position rather than an energy engaging position unless they change their behavior. 

It was a terrible thing to put in practice because it was contrary to everything I had to been taught as a human and a professional.  But it worked.  Just because we can read someone’s energy and their need for caring, it is not always our responsibility to be that source.  They have to be receptive as well and as we get better at reading energy I was withdrawing some of my energy.  I am in a position to serve.  I am not in a soul position to correct this life situation. 

H:  You only have control over yourself.  You message the Universe and the Universe offers an equal energy back to you, but only you can control yourself.  Yes, friend, that is a very important thing to learn. 

P:  When I was a nurse and doing something really important I isolated myself.   No one was supposed to bother me.  Maybe screening the calls or calling when you have more energy or are in a different space mentally and physically to talk to them would be an option. I think of an emergency in an airplane and the oxygen masks drop down and you have to put one on you first. I am wanting some self-care for you. 

P:  Oh, thanks.  I am so much wanting justice.  We are supposed to be able to make decisions based on the law and it is often like a good mediation.  No one is happy.  Nobody got exactly what they wanted.  We do what we think is a just resolution and there is a lot of politics involved which makes it harder.  The woman who called today was not a politically oriented case.  We work with people who feel powerless.  It’s our job to stand in our power for them, and I understand that is part of my job.  But some of the people don’t really understand.  They just want to feel powerful.  That is really their focus.  That is what they want, and I am thwarting that.  What they want is not legally just.  It is a bizarre circumstance but I am used to it and set my intentions that people won’t find their phone that day! 

H:  One of the things you just said is very important.  They want to feel powerful.  Everybody is seeking to feel powerful.  Feeling impotent feels terrible and it is a low vibration and people are seeking the higher vibration in the best way they can.  If you are capable of applauding someone when they are angry, even if they are expressing their anger towards you, it’s a very powerful technique because the love each of you hold for yourselves and other humans would include loving that they are angry because they are doing their best to feel powerful and not feel a victim.  Anger happens because they feel they are losing control and feel powerless.  Anger is such a powerful propellant to the levels of energy that are positive and powerful rather than low and slow and negative. It is a powerful thing if you can hear them through their anger. 

P:  I can understand everything that you are saying about phone calls that are irrational but I have difficulty with the ones where she is getting death threats.  Will you talk about handling those kinds of calls? 

H:  Death threats are obviously at the far end of the spectrum.  In those moments when these are coming down the line if you have set your intention the night before, perhaps you won’t get that.  But, friend, what do you do?  Do you call the police?  How do you handle them?  We are asking this because there is no right answer.  And, this is not a criticism. Once your miscreation gets so far along that someone is giving you death threats, that is a difficult position for you to be in, and however you handle it is however you handle it.  If you have policies that work to cope with that you follow your policies. 

P:  Right. 

H:  That is what you do and you can create in advance that you will be treated with decency and respect.  We have given the following example many times. You are walking down a street and you see somebody being beaten up.  No cell phones at that time.  That person is going to get hurt.  If you intervene, you are going to get hurt.  If you run away, you are going to feel bad.  There is no good option.  The better option was before you left your house to go on a walk, you had planned that you would have a pleasant walk, see pleasant things and have pleasant interactions.  By the time it gets to death threats it is beyond the pre-paving or pre-planning stage and is now in the “put the fire out” stage. 

You do what you do and use that as information. You are students and this is information and you are learning from it and you then talk to Higgins or your spirit guides about helping you come up with the right thing to say at the right moment.  You do have spirit guides on the fly assisting you and if they know to help you they will help you with the right verbiage or right response.  You just have to be calm enough in the situation to be able to think it though and do it. 

Friend, any more questions or clarifications?

P:  No. 

H:  we would like to do an ending meditation.  This is unusual. Today we are inviting the trees to sit with us and participate in whatever way they want to.  Not asking anything of them.