H: Any questions before we get into tonight’s topic?
(nope)
H: The entity asked us this question: How do I get to that level- just pre joy and happiness?
A beautiful question. Tell us, S, what you know about moving toward pure joy and happiness.
S: If I’m moving toward pure joy and happiness, then I’m feeling good most of the time and noticing good things around me and listening to things that make me happy, noticing weather and not focusing on anything that is not good ie., news, stupid people.
H: Anyone else? What do you do to head yourself in that direction?
P: I get in the flow.
H: How?
P: It happens when I intend it and sometimes when I don’t. I can tell when I’m there because good things happen – like yesterday and today.
P: For me it is being grounded. The way I get grounded I have some kind of plan: this is what I am doing; I am going in this direction and that makes me feel grounded and that helps me get into the flow and then I can feel joy and excitement.
H: There are all kinds of ways to bring yourself to happiness. We have talked about pre-paving; having a tool kit with funny movies or jokes or music or books—things that you like that you can access immediately, even a warehouse of memories that you can bring to the forefront whenever you are not feeling happy and joyful so that you can manufacture that sense of happiness.
We want to continue on that track today: intentionally moving toward joy. We are now many, many years living with this human person and we are very observant. We have watched her struggle to find even what joy means. For a time, she would say when she saw children playing in the street, cavorting, giggling and laughing, running around – that looks like joy to me, but it doesn’t seem like a thing that I could have because running around cavorting in the street just doesn’t happen for me anymore.
So, when you physicals start out in your life as children – and not all of you have happy life experiences but many of you do – and you know what happiness is then. But there is a teaching, a coaching, an awareness that you develop (if you are at all interested) that your elders do what is called growing up. They find a trade or go to school to learn something and they become these contributing members of society (we hope). And with that comes the difficulties. You are supposed to like it. And if you are not happy doing what you do, there are some mental health issues that you have. So rather than perhaps not working as much or doing something different, you think, “Well something is wrong with me and I need to take medication or I need to do something.”
What if we began to change that thought process, that paradigm, so that you don’t have to do something for a living that drains you? What if there was a paradigm that allows for there to be opportunities out there for you that would answer your needs? Something that would answer your needs for money, for social interaction, for relationships? Something to take care of all of those aspects of life and that could be a thing that you would really like doing? Well, some people have that. Many people don’t have that. For those many people who do not, it is not in their consciousness to move towards that.
If friend B is brave enough would you remind us what you said a week or two ago about your (childhood experiences – someone coughed and it wasn’t’ clear) – and how you felt the glass was half empty:
B: It was just kind of a mindset I grew up with. I think some of it came from my parents and maybe some of it was internally generated by me somehow. It was kind of how I started out in life.
H: So, all of you remember that how we start out in life is intentional. So it is the pinning the tail on the donkey -this is the point where you are blindfolded and you are getting dizzy before you get set free to go pin the tail on the donkey. That was your dizziness, and now you are trying to find your way to get back to the donkey tail. Each of you comes forward with some idea of how you want to be discombobulated and the goal of what that discombobulation will achieve. And then you get going in your life experience.
When you are born, you are absolutely confident that you can re-connect with the thing that you need so that you will succeed in your plan and your goal. As you go through life, you are surrounded by others who are here to coach you into your discombobulation and are also discombobulated themselves. They had to agree to get discombobulated to help you be discombobulated. Do you follow that? Remember the book Little Soul in the Sun by Neale Donald Walsh? The little soul wants to come forward and learn to be forgiving. But somebody had to do something awful for him to forgive and that soul says, “I will be that person but there is just one thing: and that is when I do this awful thing, when I do something that you have to forgive, please you remember the beauty of my soul because I will be pretending so hard I will have forgotten who I am -that I am a being of light. And if you forget who I am then we are both lost.”
This is a wonderful story reminding us that it is very easy to get lost; that there are people out there lost in order to help you and you have to remember that they are a being of light. So here you are talking with Higgins and other beings like us and talking amongst yourselves, certainly whether you are saying the words or even thinking the words this group wants happiness. You want joy. You want fantastic.
Friend, D, you have said this before when you have asked for words and we have said you want a relationship that is very pleasant and agreeable. And you say I don’t want pleasant and agreeable. I want a relationship with my husband that is fantastic, surprising, romantic, loving, creative, invigorating. You know what you want but the thing is you all forget these things are possible because you have been acclimatized for literally decades that those things are not normal; they just don’t exist; they exist in somebody’s lala land.
For some for whom life is very difficult the thought of exuberance and joy is not even a consideration. It is sort of a pie-in-the-sky idea that is silly to waste time on because life just isn’t like that. We’re here to tell you that your spoken or unspoken, thoughts or unthoughts, this group you have called us forth. We know that we had the agreement with the entity but you are here in a magnetic draw because you wanted to have these conversations; you wanted to start thinking out of the box, you wanted to remember who you are and so here we are talking about bliss and joy and happiness and how do we get there.
We have been talking about pre-paving and we would like to hear from you how pre-paving is working. Who wants to speak?
M: Sometimes when I remember to pre-pave I have absolutely good results. I do it two ways. Sometimes I actually sit down at the computer and spell it out item by item and sometimes I just think in my head in a more general way. I’m finding that when I plan something and think about what I want from the time I get up till I leave the house to have the experience and come back that I have had it in a very positive way. But I don’t always remember and it is something I could focus on.
H: K are you pre-paving?
K: I’m kind of like M. I don’t always remember to do it; I’m so used to my old habits. When I get up in the morning and I’m thinking about counting my blessings and what things I would like to accomplish, my life is pretty simple. There’s not a lot involved in it but it does seem like the extra thinking about it in the morning would be pre-paving and it does seem to be adding if not joy, then a lot of pleasantness and ease to my life.
H: B are you pre-paving?
B: Well, I have a set of prayers I say every morning before I get out of bed and that’s when I do it sometimes -like everyone else I tend to forget. Sometimes when I do it it doesn’t seem like enough. The other day when I was going to the game, I sent prayers and energy for a smooth trip up and back. And, it was NOT!
H: How far in advance did you make this desire?
B: A few hours.
H: OK, let’s continue from here. Thank you for sharing. We feel in you when you pre-pave, thinking about joy, bliss and laughter are so foreign to you that you are not pre-paving those into your time, into your day ahead. Let’s back up and talk about pre-paving. When you begin pre-paving, you are setting your intention and the Universe now has to stop what it’s doing, reverse a bunch of stuff, and start re-ordering people places and things to get the answer to your request lined up. The more time that you give it, the better response you will have. You got the best that you could achieve in that time frame and had you started a year ago you would have had better success. So when you now start saying things like, “I want my trip to be smooth from herw to there,” next time you take a vacation you will probably have the benefits of today. Do you see that? You need a little bit of time. The more times you think it the more time the Universe has to respond and then when you receive it, you feel good about it and you put that same intention out into your next future, and your next future and your next future until it becomes sort of a habit.
If you begin to play with this idea that joy is possible, that you could have a ready laugh, that there are people that you will bump into on the train for example who will say something or lighten your mood, and as each of you begins to think of this as a possibility and it not seem so foreign and unnecessary, the opportunities will begin to line up for you for these things to happen. As they do, as you laugh more and have more pleasant interactions, as you have more experiences that are interesting and intriguing and exciting, you will begin to realize that this is what you want as a steady diet. We want you to go forward where we know you would like to be. We know that you want joy. You don’t know you want joy. Tonight we are reminding you that joy is achievable and fun and that when you start forward in your life, whether you are working or traveling or what state you live in or in what stage your life you are in none of these things matter. Joy is there for you. Joy is there for you. Questions?
P: A year ago, B didn’t know he was going to go to the world cup game because that wasn’t even an option so how could he have planned that a year ago?
H: Right. He couldn’t. That’s the beauty of it. He planned it for now. And now we are saying if you pre-pave your life with those kinds of words they will pick up speed the more you think about it over time. This was the first time and you say, “Oh, OK, this didn’t work out how I had hoped, but let’s keep thinking along those lines.” If you do that, a year is going to go by and you’re going to notice that you get better parking spots, that you get there just before the crowd, that the parking spot opens up just in the nick of time.
B: Yes, I bought the tickets Thursday or Friday so I could have started a few days ahead and then maybe made a difference.
H: Yes. Buying tickets. When you decided to go to a performance and paid a lot of money but you got very high seats. They were good seats but very high up. Maybe that will stimulate in you that the next time you have an opportunity to do something like that you might like a great price on a ticket and great seats. The Universe works in these crazy ways. You will bump into someone who says, “Here, I have got these tickets but I can’t go, so here, have them. I would love them to be used.” Those kinds of things happen. They happen to people who are prepared to receive them. So be prepared to receive. Then it gets easier over time. We have talked about this positive feedback loop again and again. As you experience something positive, you like it and you want more so repeat those behaviors so you get those wonderful responses.
B: Makes sense. Thank you.
M: When I think about pre-paving, I think about the event that is happening and I take it as far as it is finished. I think when you are talking about joy and bliss I think I need to add, “I feel wonderful about the event and whatever happened and it gave me great joy.” I don’t take it that far. I take it that I got there and back and that was good enough. I think you’re suggesting that we add some element of happiness and joy in addition to the pre-paving.
H: Yes. So the practice you have been doing is allowing you to realize where your words fall short, where they are strong and what you could do to improve your verbiage. One of the things that you just mentioned, M, is that you can look from the completion of it and say, “When I got done I had a really good time. That was worth doing. I had fun.” Whatever your words, they will expand and grow with you. Remember that life is a process, a journey. You aren’t supposed to get it done. You are supposed to unfold and unfold and always want more. One of the things that many of you were taught is to “not want, to be content with what you have.” But that is not really possible. When you stop wanting, you stop growing. You become stagnant. It is the wanting that is inviting the flow of life. You all know what stagnant water is, right?
(all of us-yes).
H: It becomes stinky, teeming with life but smelly, dirty looking and not teeming with the kind of life you would like such as frogs or trout. If you stop wanting, you become stagnant. When you do wanting, you are fresh water flowing. Wanting is an important part of being human and receiving is an important part of being human. It is not greedy. It is not something to be ashamed of that you want more. It is the flow of life. You are inviting the flow that is God to participate in and through you.
Next question.
P: I do pre-paving every night. It’s not complicated. I say I want an agreeable day and I know that agreeable means for me traffic, people I connect with, running errands easily. I also say I want to be happy and have joy. This week I followed my inspiration and stopped at an apartment complex on Monday and started filling out paperwork and the next day I want back and gave them more information. And, the next day I went back again and they said I had to go the Social Security office miles away. It’s usually such a pain in the ass but I wasn’t worried. When I got there, there were two people ahead of me. That’s unheard of. I was in and out of there in 15 minutes. Then I again went back to the place and gave them what they needed. It’s a government subsidized place for over people 55. I told myself we’ll see if this works out. I wasn’t upset or anxious about any of the process. It looks like I may be approved and if so it would be a very different place for me to live but I would look at is as a temporary place for me to live and get rid of more stuff.
I do pre-pave but never feel like I’m doing it enough or completely. Agreeable means everything from going to the store, to traffic, to people I connect with, running errands, everything. It seems to be working out pretty well.
H: The exciting thing is that as you practice pre-paving you are only limited by your imagination. As your emotions, your emotional scale expands, your ideas expand. We want to do a meditation but we will go out and let the entity talk about some meditations and then we’ll pop back in.
Entity: I have been having conversation with WSU about some meditations. I had a long conversation with one of the 3 teachers who then told me an earful about what’s going on in the farming community—not just in Washington state but nationally and globally—the volatility, costs, dangers, lack of ability to raise your family as a farmer, losing your land, the numerous things they are having to face, to facing more difficulties so I have been trying to figure out how to address all these issues in 8 meditations. We have done RESPECTO a couple of times and I think it is fantastic; the best meditation I’ve ever done with Higgins. But tonight I asked for this conversation and they said they would do a meditation where we look back at our life from our deathbed. We’ve had a fantastic life and we’re looking back over it and what would you say about your life? My words were, “Wow! That was awesome!” They want us to look back at our life with pride and satisfaction, pride being fulfillment of wishes, expectations and needs and the pleasure derived from the fulfillment of our wishes, expectations and needs. This is our meditation for tonight.