Cheryl: Regarding yesterday’s post (November 13, 2023) how did she (this difficult coworker) arrive in my work location? I have made a very nice list of qualities that I would like to see in my co-workers and have reviewed it often with positive emotion.

Higg(in)s: Yes, you have done that. But if you will look back at the timeline you started that list close to the time she arrived. It was too late by then; the attraction was complete. Look instead to the more recent new hires and their positive attitudes to see what you are currently attracting.

This is a good example of why it is vitally important to choose your life in advance. Life’s experiences sometimes take a while to catch up with you. You are discovering a very important lesson: It is much easier to create your life well in advance. Otherwise, you spend a lot of time cleaning up your creational messes.