Cheryl: Regarding my questions that past few days about a difficult coworker, yesterday my workday actually flowed along pretty well. I found myself smiling for no apparent reason. In some ways my day flowed more pleasantly than before the negativity arose. I’m having a hard time wrapping my mind around the possibility that I did this by keeping my Mona Lisa Smile in place, and doing the other things you suggested, but I really did not see a good way out of this and now it seems to be smoothing out on its own.

Higg(in)s: It’s not smoothing out on its own. Your attention to your thoughts, words, and actions smoothed it out. Let us provide a simple metaphor. You are driving your vehicle down the road towards your destination. From time to time, you take a detour down a bumpy gravel road and through puddles of water. The scenery is interesting and you like the change although the driving is more difficult and requires you to drive a little slower. Eventually, you get to your destination regardless of the route you chose.

We suggest you continue to define and refine your desires. Make a list of the qualities you want in your co-workers, in your work environment, in the feeling you have when you perform your job duties, the rewards you receive. Your desires continually evolve. Continue to plan in advance, and to adjust your plans whenever it suits you. Believe with unwavering commitment that your desires are granted. The essence of that which you desire is on its way to you. It may arrive differently than you expected but it will arrive, and it will be good. As you become clearer on your creative focus the responses will become overtly as you wish.