Higgins 5/14/25

OK friends, are you breathing?  Let’s do a short meditation.

We have talked a lot about centeredness:  bringing yourself back to your center.  Today we have new words to help you think this in a different way.  What if we thought of being centered as emotional balance?  What if sometimes you get off balance (emotionally) and regain your emotional balance?  When you are a little wobbly emotionally (like on walking across uneven ground), how do you stabilize yourself? 

When you are off balance energetically you regain balance by bringing your energy halves back together.  How do we does one bring their energy halves back together?  Once again, in the same way that you do not need to know how to get up and walk across the room once you decide to walk across the room, you just do; you don’t have to know how to balance yourself.  Just say “I would like my halves to come together.” Or say to yourself, “I would like to become centered or balanced.  I want my energy  to flow head to toe in a manner consistent with my greatest happiness.”   Those of you who feel energy will feel stronger in your solar plexus already.  Breathe through this. Stay balanced together.  Say to yourself, “I want to pull myself together,” and keep breathing. 

With your understanding of this short meditation, of pulling yourself together and becoming balanced, we want to talk about balance with new words today.  (They tell the story of entity meditating in forest with earth, air, fire, water all around.)

It takes earth air, fire and water to make up the world around you.  It takes the balance of earth, air, fire and water to make the picture in front of you. (Meaning when your eyes are open you see something. Whatever it is you see, took a balance of earth, air, fire, and water to make it. Think of a forest. Water as rain, fire as sun, earth as soil, and air in a certain balance create the forest.

If you were in a desert, the picture might be a saguaro cactus or if in the hills a grassy meadow, instead of the forest where the entity was sitting.  We are trying to convey that the garden you ‘grow’ depends on where you find your balance point.  It will be different depending on what you draw forth into your balance point.  That is why each of your lives is different.  As this group continues to talk about finding happiness, finding purpose, finding a way to express themselves in their connectedness, we are going to try to find new words to express finding your balance point. 

Do you remember many years ago there were square boards, balance boards, and you would stand on it in the middle spot?  But if you stood to one side you could still be balanced or you could tip this way or that way. But the goal was to find a stable spot to stand without falling over? If you envision that your life is that board you have a choice of standing anywhere on that board that you want but maintaining your balance will require the employment of slightly different muscles depending on where you stand and one spot on that board will be easiest to maintain balance.

That is what you are trying to do in your life.  You want to balance in your happy spot.  What is happy for moss is different than what is happy for cactus.  You are going to draw actions based on the inspiration that comes to you and you want that inspiration to come to you from your balance point because if you are balanced, you will draw to you the right environment for you as a forest plant or a desert plant or a mountain plant depending on what you are (each of you is different).  Following that?   

P:  Is balance a place or a feeling? 

H:  Balance is associated with a feeling.  The place is a metaphor.  Each of you is different.  We are using the place as a metaphor because if you were a cactus, you would not do well in western Washington because it is too wet.  If you are a plant that needs a lot of moisture, you are not going to do well in the desert.  As each one of you looks at your life, if your life is not 100% happy, it is because perhaps you are a wetland plant trying to grow in the desert.  We are trying to help you with this continuing metaphor of centeredness and balance because when you are centered or balanced bringing your halves together, your energy is lining up more powerfully and directly. 

If you are driving in your car and you are all over the road, you are not getting anywhere quickly and you are not even safe.  You are creating your life every moment.  Your life will be inspired to happy thoughts, happy actions if you are staying in your balanced point.  Every time you lose your balance, you will end up unintentionally miscreating.  Friend, this time that you are going through is difficult and you knew it was coming and you were ready for it and you wanted the practice you would get in staying balanced and maintaining your happiness, your decorum, your civility, your ability to interact with people.  You wanted this practice, but it is hard.  When you stay centered all the time, you have better responses to the difficult things.

P:  How do we overcome generational gaps?  I feel so separated from the other generations. 

H:  That is a one-word answer:  LOVE.  When you can learn to keep balanced and not lose your balance when others make you feel uncomfortable, staying balanced then you can love what others are doing.  Now, we know, friends, you are not going to like this:  There’s people doing this at very high levels but you are coming out of balance.  You have to love them.  You have to love that they are doing this.  Abraham-Hicks calls this the art of allowing.  You have to allow others to be who they are and allow yourself to be who you are.  It doesn’t mean you like what they are doing but you allow them to do it.  How is it that you can allow others to do that which you do not agree with?  We want to remand you that you create your own experience.  So no matter what somebody else is doing, you can create harmony in your life. 

Friend, C, you are being shaken up like a rag doll but we know that if you will stay balanced, let it all go, you don’t have to like it, just continue to be your best balanced self and it will be like the people we told you about in the Tsunami.  You went uphill so you did not drown that day.  It is the same thing with our generational gap.  People at their core are still the same.  They still want the same things; they want to have a happy life.  They want interaction, relationships.  They are supportive and solid.  They want the same things you do but see different approaches as to how to get it.  When you can accept that their approach is different but their inner human needs are the same, then you can find common ground.  It’s very easy to be afraid and apprehensive about people you do not know very well.  But it is a very powerful learning experience to get to know people. 

There is a teaching that if we are afraid of something, if you will learn as much as you can about it, it will alleviate some of your discomfort about that thing you are afraid of. If you will spend time interacting with some of these young people you will know that you are not as far apart as you think.  They are your niece’s 3 children, M.  Those 3 are sort of your guide to the younger generation.  Through them you can understand the rest of them.  They are tech savvy and they are all those things that you think are very foreign, yet when they come to your house they interact with you as a human being.  They are kind, they are courteous, thoughtful, and participatory. 

P:  They are wonderful. 

H:  When you, M, start thinking about that intergenerational gap and you think of those 3, then you can say “wait, the gap isn’t as large as I thought it was.”

P:  Similar question.  There was a volunteer I worked with who was the nicest, kindest sweetest man with our patients at the cancer center.  I found out he is a Trumper.  I  have tried to keep myself informed about people who are on the opposite side as me and try to keep an open mind and try to fathom why they think like they do.  I look at his postings and try not to get upset.  Last week his postings were mean, hateful, angry.  He now has prostate cancer.  What do you do when you get that polarized from someone who was a good person and has gotten progressively meaner?  I am finding it hard to keep my center regarding him and how he has changed and is not good any more.  I am finding a hard time loving him. 

H:  Prostate cancer is an expression of being emasculated.  Somewhere he feels powerless.  That’s where anger comes from.  Remember our scale:  one end is negativity, depression, frustration, guilt and the other end is joy happiness, etc.  When any person starts sliding down from happy to negative feelings, anger is the last emotion between powerful and powerless that promotes a sense of power, of having potency, of being able to do something about whatever it is.  Anger allows them the energy needed to get rise out of those negative, impotent emotions. 

You do not know why he has chosen to follow the Republican trend.  There are a lot of people who were Democrats and have moved to the Republican side.  They feel Democrats have let them down.  It doesn’t mean they think the Republican side is 100% correct, but it’s somewhat better for them than continuing down that path the Democrats have laid out.  Clearly he is not happy with either direction.  He is angry because he doesn’t have a solution. 

If you were to take the current Republican direction and removed from it all the illegal, hasty, thoughtless actions, all of you would probably agree that to be financially responsible with spending is a good idea;  probably a good idea to be thoughtful about who is coming across the border and all of those things.  If you can take them at face value you would probably feel very good about them.  The issue is the way he is doing it. But if he (referring to Trump) didn’t do it this way, it wouldn’t shake you up. And it wouldn’t help you learn to keep your balance.  It is a beautiful and amazing game.

You are fortunate to get to be here right now.  You chose to come through at this time, and we are so thrilled to know you.  It’s like meeting a star!  We feel excited to be here with you who have the courage and ability to be here during this time and sort this out.  It is very exciting for us to see you in action.  You’re amazing.

So how are you learning to be allowing and let him (Trump) have his say? To let Trump do what he’s doing?   You may not like what he is doing.  You may have to sue him with 5,000 court cases.  The point is CAN YOU STAY CENTERED?  Do you have the fortitude to let Trump become the best president the U.S. has ever had? 

P:  I can’t.

P:  I dare him to every day. 

H:  We are glad you brought that up.  Remember what you do, what you ask for cannot involve another person.  If you want a stable govt then ask for a stable govt.  Believe that you can have a stable govt then let the power of your intention of a stable govt draw the best out of him or draw him out of his job and draw a new one in who can do it.  You cannot expect something from another person.  If you are doing that, you are going to have much heartache. 

P:  The challenge I have in keeping my balance is to name that which is not happening but would be better for all of us by naming a balanced govt, a kind govt.   I find balance a very helpful word – a description of what happens when we all really listen to one another.

H:  As  you learn to listen to one another you become allowing and you can say “that is not my belief but it is your belief and I can respect that that is yours.”  As you practice, you get better and better at it and at some point it will become second nature to you to be able to hear other people but not to be drawn off balance by their beliefs. 

THIS IS IMPORTANT:  As that happens, you become able to have a ready laugh because nothing that they say pulls you into that fear factor where you get angry.  If you are sliding down that emotional scale into those negative emotions, there will be a moment when you have a sense of fear, of losing control, and you respond in anger.

When you don’t do that any more (become emotionally off balance resulting in anger)  you have a ready laugh and when you have a ready laugh, you are easy in yourself and other people are easy around you. You draw the best out of yourself and you draw the best out of other people. 

H:    We have been talking for a really long time about this emotional scale and how you climb it.  When you get to the point where you have a ready laugh and things do not pull you off balance where you lose your temper… then WOW you are really working on the top level skill set.  As you come into balance your inspirations will guide you toward right action.  Right actions lead you to find the right things that are fulfilling and lead you towards the purpose that gives you that sense of fulfillment. 

Meditation.