Higgins 8/13/25

Take a moment to imagine or set your intention for what you want from us tonight.   This group is requesting from us a learning and expansion.  An opportunity for growth.  We are noting in you an area that needs strengthening that will help you grow and expand and that area is clarifying your intention beforehand.  You are creators. Before you came into this body you were creators and you created an opportunity to be in a body and from the body you expected to create your life experience.  Well, you CAN create by default-meaning you just move along in your days and your thoughts and emotions will attract to you whatever you get.  But you did not want to be a pawn.  You wanted to do this deliberately, with intention.  We see this as an opportunity for you to grow in your intention setting.

Intention setting is an opportunity for you to think things out before you get there.  The reason this is important:  If you do nothing, you get what you get.  If you do something, you are more likely to be greeted with something more to your liking. This creates more opportunity for growth because you will see the results of your thought process.  And then the next time you do it you can be more specific. 

We say this with love – what we notice is that you are a little lazy about thinking things through ahead of time, and since it is such a powerful tool for you and reduces the amount of physical action you have to take, we really want to encourage you to do that. Think ahead of time what you want from us.  We will be more powerfully drawn through the entity.  The entity and her mom went on a long drive and listened to a few books, one of which was Abraham Hicks.  The entity had a conversation with us and said “why do I bother to present you when Abraham Hicks does it so much better?  Why is it that she (Esther Hicks) is so clear and I think I present you in such a muddy way?”  We say, “It’s the intention.”  As Jerry and Esther worked with Abraham they set their intentions ahead of time.  The entity does not do this with us.  And they also put good effort into attracting people who would do the same so Abraham is drawn through Esther Hicks more powerfully.  We are encouraging the entity and you to get us to come through more clearly.  It’s the power of your intention, not OUR intent.  Yes, we can take over this body and we have and we have made it impossible for her to move and we have moved for her and we have typed and have spoken with power that she cannot suppress.  We don’t do that anymore.  We work differently now. We did that in the early days for her understanding that there was something here besides her, something different from her.  Now we are advancing and evolving.  You have gone to kindergarten and now we are moving on and getting up into college and we need you to move on.  The way you move on is to be remembering this is not about Higgins or the entity.  This is about you drawing forth what you want with great power and great intent.

So, what do you want from life? Roll your ideas around in your mind, think about how it would FEEL if you had it.  Think how what you want might positively or negatively affect someone else.  When you realize it is good, and harms none, move forward with joy and action. 

P:  So many people blame Mercury which is in retrograde now and should go away today, but it might stay in retrograde longer or whatever.  It evidently goes into retrograde 4 times a year, I don’t know.  All sorts of terrible things are happening locally and all around the world.  One of my friends keeps hurting herself and I’m kind of dizzy and my joints ache.  What does this have to do with anything?  What does Mercury have to do with anything? 

H:  We are so delighted you brought this up.  The planets and your system and your sun and moon draw on your body and where the planets are in relationship to you and what you are doing – sometimes they push you and sometimes they pull you but the whole idea is to get you off balance and pull you back into balance and move you around because the whole thing about life is YOU staying in balance.  If you are staying emotionally balanced at all times it doesn’t matter if Mercury is pushing or pulling or causing you to stand on your head, you will be fine because you are emotionally balanced.  Yet, all these things will go on as they do and other people will be pulled off or pushed on to center by the closeness of the asteroids or planets or the way the moon goes.  What the planets are doing won’t matter if you stay balanced.  It is just an intricate dance designed for humans to experience why they came here and to do it with all these moving parts.  It is a fantastic orchestra.  If you stay emotionally balanced, this orchestra can bash around as much as it wants but you will stay centered and have your fantastic life.

P:  A lot of people I know act like they don’t have any control of their life because Mercury is in retrograde.  I have never understood that because I pre-plan my day and don’t care what Mercury is doing.  I am running energy through my body and trying to stay in balance while others say things will not get better until Mercury is out of retrograde.  I just don’t get it.  They are just giving their power away and not being the creators in their own lives.  I think this is very interesting.  When they say this isn’t going to get better until Mercury is out of retrograde I think, well, you can stop those bad things right now. 

H:  Not everyone has heard all the words of wisdom that you have heard and there are people who don’t need to hear from us because they are so powerfully focused on choosing the thoughts and feelings that feel good to them that they don’t need us.  There are some, however, who haven’t heard from us. And there are some that do yet don’t want to take responsibility. That way, if they fall down or hurt themselves or lose their job or crash their car or whatever, that it somehow isn’t their fault.  They don’t want to take ownership.  We suggest (and we are speaking to the choir here) isn’t it a wonderful thing that you can take ownership of those things that are not going well in your life and through deliberate intentional consistent practice that you can shift those things you do not like and begin to attract those things you do like?

H:  What more? 

P:  Question about attraction.  I have been thinking about the magnets that attract and the ones that repel that we talked about.  I have been wondering in the examples you have talked about it has always been about magnets of equal size. Is that what the example is or would it be different if one magnet were stronger than the other? 

H:  YES, it IS different.  In fact, that is what you are trying to do is be the stronger magnet.  Every one of you is trying to develop so much power as a positive magnet that you can repel the smaller things and draw the big things to you consistently that you want.  You are trying to be the more powerful magnet. However, yes, we use that example because it is easy for you to understand.  You all have seen the magnets connect and push apart.  We say, you are LITERAL (not metaphorical) magnets.  You are attracting things magnetically. Also, you physicals, the way by which you attract the thing that you are is very complex.  It is much more complex than we can describe or that your mind can understand.  We don’t have the words or the capacity in the entity’s brain to choose the words; we can’t put out the imagination of what is really happening.  What is really happening is that there is this orchestra.  And, your thoughts, words, actions, emotions are the conductor of this orchestra.  When you are feeling very positive you are saying this part of the orchestra play; and when you are feeling negative you may be pointing at that part of the orchestra playing.  What your goal is as a non-physical being coming into this body is to learn to orchestrate so that you get this powerful orchestra playing in harmony with no discord.  Some things are smaller magnets pulling in and some are stronger magnets pulling in.  Yes, you are pulling in all kinds of things and some you are pulling in powerfully and some you are pulling in less powerfully—all of it at once. 

P:  So you are working on your power to attract and your power to repel? 

H:  Well, if we said that we did not mean it like that.  What we mean is you attract and repel all the time.  What we are trying to help you with is how to attract what you want and repel what you don’t want.  How do you repel what you don’t want?  You focus on the positive.  If you can focus positively then distract your mind with something that is pleasant and agreeable -like a funny movie or a good book or go to the park or pet your animal.  Distract yourself if you cannot focus on something else.  For example:  One of our friends here had a cancer.  When you have something wrong with your body (something going on that does not please you) it is very difficult to imagine your body being healthy.  So in this instance the best thing to do is distract yourself.  However, when you are feeling pretty good and you want to intentionally attract something even better, then you can start focusing on the thing that you want rather than distracting from the thing you don’t want.  Do you follow this?

P:  How does this apply to relationships?  I have a friend who has a friend who were both very liberal in their attitude towards life.  Now one has become very conservative and antagonistic towards the liberal friend.  Spirituality has become one of the topics of controversy.  One friend is very much into vibration and attracting what is good and the other person is condescendingly saying that is crazy.  The liberal person is feeling very hurt and would like to feel positive about the relationship.  How does attracting and repelling work in this situation?

H:  Your liberal friend who feels hurt would be the wise one to intend their get-togethers before they occur.  The intention (she would have to pick the words) would be to have pleasant and agreeable conversation, to be heard and understood, not necessarily agreed with but to be heard and understood.  She would have to pick the words she wants from the relationship and pick them in advance.  If she is powerful enough in her belief system another person’s nagging her will not bring her down.  We say this because we know that if you believe in yourself and someone says something about you that is negative and true you feel bad.  If it is negative and untrue you do not feel bad.  You say -that’s absurd; that doesn’t even apply to me.  She is not at the point where she believes enough in herself that the comments are just absurd.  If they were absurd and didn’t make any sense, she would feel compassionate for the friend who is losing her mind; she’s so daffy; she doesn’t know any better! 

P:  This happens to me, too:  what tends to happen is that you don’t share all of your beliefs with someone because you don’t want to lose the relationship.  So I think that is where the quandary comes in.  Should you not try to preserve those relationships when they are actually repelling you or do you keep working at it?

H:  If the relationship is important, of course you want to keep working at it.  There are many options:  Pre-paving the interactions is always helpful.  Then your friend who is withholding can think about new ways to verbalize her feelings, her expectations.  She can practice it in advance.  She can think about new ways to present the same thing that the other friend might hear differently.  If the friend simply cannot hear the information, this is too repelling a force and it might not be possible to have that conversation with that person.  Then talk about something else if you want to preserve the relationship and you cannot bring that topic up. 

P:  So you are just avoiding the repellant things. 

H:  Yes.  If the relationship is that important to you, you wait out these tough times where you do not get to be heard.  When she is ready, when she is stronger and more stable in herself and the cutting words don’t cut so deep because she is so confident in self that the words no longer matter, then she can bring it up.  There may be a waiting time while she grows in her understanding and her own strength about herself.

P:  If we generalize this to politics and neither the Democrats or Republicans are listening to each other, so totally repelling, how do we influence our environment to get dialog to move us forward? 

H:  How interesting you brought that up as that is what our meditation tonight is all about.  One of the things that happened in the family picnic the entity attended is that one relative is liberal (on democrat side) while the entity is generally democratic and has been hearing so much from us that she is learning how to hear the republican side even though she doesn’t agree with it.  This cousin does not agree with her but this cousin was able to listen and understand although not agree.  That is such a huge step forward in what is needed because if the Democratic side does not understand the Republican side and if the Republicans do not understand the Democratic position there will be no closure.  It will continue to create this chasm.  So what happened this weekend was a mini bringing together.  If it can happen between these two it can happen between any two because the earth realm is a hologram and everything is a reflection of another.  So it has been done once so you all know it can be done 8 billion times.  Now, what can YOU do?

What we are going to do in our energy offering tonight is create that opportunity.  We’re calling our meditation brotherly love.  If you care about someone, you tend to be better able to understand where they are at, whether you agree with them or not.  If you don’t know someone or don’t like them it’s very easy to push them away so they are not important.  If we think of everyone as equally important, if we have brotherly love and sisterly affection for every other person, then we create an environment in which these conversations can take shape.  That is what we are going to do tonight. 

P:  We want to be in that energy of brotherly love and caring and able to be heard and help others.  So if we keep our energy high we are conditioning ourselves to be in that energy (this was a longer ramble that I have shortened).  When I go into a big group where I know there is such diversity, I tend to hide who I am because I know that I’m pretty radical compared to other people.  But I still can carry a strong energy that would attract good communication and good feelings.  That would be the energy to carry to attract and not repel. 

H:  With great love, that was a bit of a ramble so we are trying to sort it out. 

P:  I am trying to figure out how to have strong opinions that are backed with strong emotions and belief systems and still enter energy fields which are quite contradictory to my belief system.  But, I want to be friendly with everyone and bring peace and good vibes wherever I go. 

H:  OK, stop there.  Have you been in a group of people where one person sort of shines brighter than the others? 

P:  Yes. 

H:  So typically, the people who stand out are the people who have self- confidence.  They are confident in themselves; they feel good about themselves and are accustomed to positive treatment.  What we are suggesting to you is that in order to get yourself into these environments where you can have the positive conversations you have to exude a sense of “I am OK as I am; I am confident about who I am: I don’t have to hide myself.  I can explain if I need to but I won’t have to because I am so confident in who I am and accepting of myself as I am and I am accepting of you as you are.”    

For those people conversations open right up.  If you develop (and your friend, too) that sense of “I like me and I am OK with who I am and I am OK with who you are whoever that may be,” you will find the conversations open.  It’s a funny thing that you physicals seem to believe that other people are very confident in themselves and somehow you are the one who needs to be fixed.  At the same time there are some who like to convey “oh you need to be fixed.  I am much smarter than you.”  You’re here together to learn and to grow.  We are just walking each other home.  That is why you are here:  to listen and befriend, assist and encourage, and when you become a person whose only goal is to be you comfortably and help others be them you will find things much, much smoother.

P:  Go back to her two friends.  They are working on the relationship together.  Suppose one of them who wishes to maintain the relationship is stronger than the other and the other walks away.  Can the one who wants to maintain the relationship in the temporary or physical absence of the other person continue doing things that will mend or re-develop or change the relationship? 

H:  Yes.  Remember we are still talking about attracting and repelling.  That is all you ever do.  If one friend is beginning to walk away, somehow the person who is walking away is either repelled by the person or is attracted somewhere else.  One or the other.  They are either repelled from you or attracted to someone or something else.  The person who is staying wants to promote that relationship, the only thing you can do is to visualize, to think about the other person in positive terms.  If a person will look at another person and say “this person has fine qualities and a fine smile; I like this person’s thought process; I like their cooking,” whatever it is you like about that person, if you continually refresh your thoughts about that person, you will draw whatever positivity that person can return.   If the person connects with your positivity it can draw them back or it may be that person never draws back.  The only thing you can do is make a positive connection by thinking things that are positive. 

For example, the entity thinks one nice thing about her husband every day.  Why?  To continually create and recreate a positive connection between herself and her husband.  When you see relationships fall apart, you see people pickety, pickety, pick away at the other person.  It is hard on the relationship and it creates a negative vibration.  However, if you pick and choose good things and focus on those, it will continually bring back the positive aspects of that person.  And that is what we are trying to tell you, M.  Think positive things about that person.  You either will or will not draw them back but it’s the only thing that will create the positive road for them to return. 

P:  What about the people you deal with who are mentally ill and are very aggressive and confrontational in a non-constructive way and it’s really difficult in the face of that to find anything nice to think about them?  They are continually attacking for whatever reason their own agenda or they don’t like you or whatever.  I deal with a lot of people who are mentally ill, both in my family of origin and in my work.  I’ve tried quite successfully to send the energy and to shift the dynamic but then they call me all the time wanting to feel that again.  I realize that’s a losing game and I can’t afford to do that.  My family won’t accept energy.  How do we deal with people who are determined to be contrary and not to be conciliatory in any way.  How do we deal with them? 

H:  There are two answers to that question.   One is dealing with you and the second is dealing with them.  Remember what we are telling you to do is set your intentions every day- your intentions with other people, your intentions with people who you work with, deal with, meet on the street.  Set your intentions for positive interactions.  If you specifically know a person and cannot think of anything positive that is okay because you can still expect positive interactions.  You, yourself then draw positive interactions.  The other thing you can do is not push energy out, do not give them anything but yourself. Stay absolutely calm and centered. Then the energy is not threatening to them and they will be calm and centered in your presence.  And that sounds to us the best approach for you to take from what we hear you saying is happening to you.  Don’t give out energy; don’t take energy in; just be calm.  Whether people know it or not people sense and feel energy from other people.  The easy example is when someone is in a rage and you are near, then you can feel the rage billowing off them.  All other energies are also felt.  They may not be consciously acknowledged but they are felt and if you can keep your energy calm, those people will also calm down in your presence. 

Now, about them.  With non-family members in your work environment you can place your expectations for positive interactions.   You can expect a work day that is effective and efficient and whatever words that you value in your work day and if you set that up in advance no matter if there is mental illness, they will offer you the best that they can once you have set your expectations for what you want to have coming in your work day.  If they cannot meet that, they will not make their appt; they will not show up or come near you that day. 

Let’s go on to family :  Family is more difficult because you have more emotion attached.  For family we talked about being settled down yourself. You are not going to fix their mental issues.  Remember Bruce Lee?  The empty jacket.  If you are trying to flip Bruce Lee you have no weight because Bruce Lee is an empty jacket.  So he is offering no resistance.  If you offer no resistance, then they don’t have anything to fight against. 

A second option:  are you able to come up with anything you like about them or anything that is good about them? 

P:  I can. It’s a little easier with family b/c we have history.  At least with my mother I can but not so much my sister.

H:  That may not be the best way for you to go but if you can find anything that you like about them, set that up.  And, if you cannot then the expectation on your part needs to be laid out clearly – NOT to them but to the Universe that your interactions should be peaceful, harmonious, agreeable and if they cannot meet those requirements that you have placed into the Universe, you may not see them as often as you might have liked and maybe that’s OK. 

P:  I think I understand what you are saying.  Thank you very much.

H:  Really, the most important thing in any situation with any human being is ”are you comfortable in your own skin?”  If you are comfortable in your own skin you are like that empty jacket.  There is just no point in picking away at you because it doesn’t get a rise out of you.  It doesn’t do anything for them.  Have we talked about energy vampires?  Do you know about them? 

P:  I do and I’ve worked really hard to stop my mother from feeding off me.  She almost killed me at one point till I figured it out. 

H:  Yes, so as you become immune and you become so gently confident… the English language is limited -either the entity doesn’t know or the words aren’t there -but if you take the words gently confident together and you understand what that is “I am OK as I am and I know it and even though you are  -in my opinion- horribly broken, you are OK just the way you are. WHEN YOU CAN ACCEPT OTHERS JUST AS THEY ARE YOUR WORLD WILL GET EASIER.  Friends, it doesn’t matter what anyone says, or does or doesn’t do – when anyone doesn’t meet your expectations, it doesn’t matter because you are confident in your own wholeness.  When you are gently confident in yourself things just fall into place.  You are here in this body because you are master creators.  You had to get here first.  Once you get here, you have a right to be here and you know that you are magnificent creators.  It is automatic.  You are here; you did it; you are fantastic at it.  We just want you to know that.  The dirty, homeless person who has mental illness and is shuffling across the street in front of you at ½ mile/hour and you are waiting and waiting b/c you want to move on..that person is a fantastic creator.  Trump is a fantastic creator.  You are all fantastic creators and you have a right to be here and you are OK as you are. No matter how awful your mother may be or has been.  She’s here doing it and it was hard to get here in the first place and she got here and she’s doing it and somehow is making it.  So if you appreciate that part in her you just made leaps and bounds.  That is progress! 

P:  My question is about a family member with whom you do not have a relationship.  So it does not matter whether you simply are not attracting that person or if you are repelling.  You could be two magnets in two very different rooms or you could be two magnets repelling each other.  It doesn’t matter.  You simply pay attention and keep yourself centered. 

H:  That is correct.  If you are expecting someone else to behave in a certain way, it is likely you will be severely disappointed.  Your happiness is not dependent upon another person’s behavior.  Your happiness is dependent upon focus.  If you focus on the things that hurt you, you will have hurt feelings but if you focus on the things that are happy and good in any situation, you will be on the right track.  We assure you, friend, that if something is happening over and over that hurts your feelings or makes you feel bad, this is a learning opportunity for you.  Goodness, friends, you are all walking down the road of life and you want to get it now, master it now so that the rest of your life is golden and fantastic.  You cannot expect that other people can and should or will alter their behavior enough to make you happy.  You have to be happy already and then no matter what anyone does it doesn’t matter because you are already happy.  Do you follow that?  Did you like it?  We want you to think on that because really other people cannot try and should not try to alter their behavior enough to please you. They came forward not to please you but to please themselves.  What you want to do is be yourself so clearly and truly that you attract the people who want to be with you and who have a good time with you and are interested in you.  Look at this group of 8.  They have shown up with you for 20 years and who like you just the way you are.  You are not repelling this group.

Your happiness is not dependent on the behavior of someone else.  You have your own happiness, joy and wonderfulness in your heart and you are trying to focus on those that spark joy and continually spark joy for you.  We want you to feel about that; we want you to sense the rightness in that.  It is not what your society thinks is true.  Your society says people have manners and the reason they have manners is to learn how to interact with other people and not hurt their feelings.   While that is very true, one of the important things that you are all learning is how to maintain your sense of self and your own integrity and your own spark of joy on your own without other people being the cause of it.  You are trying to be your own spark.  You are trying to master that.  That is why you are here is to learn how to create with others, and in the presence of others, and how to keep your own sparks going .  So if anyone is doing something that you don’t like, you can say “Thank you.  You are helping me to win at this game which I’ve been playing for 91 years now and I just about have it!  Yes!”

Meditation on brotherly love: 

Breathe in and breathe out for a while.  If you think of a radioactive particle radiating with a half life of 100,000 years, in that time it loses half of its potency.  The essence of radioactivity will pass through us.  We will pass the energy into you and you are going to radiate it out with every breath.  Breathe in and absorb; breathe out and radiate energy out.  The energy we are templating is brotherly love.  Feel that pleasant, agreeable and inviting love.  Let it radiate out of you with each breath.  Trees, fauna, grass, have all been contacted so all of us with every exhale radiate brotherly love with a half life of 100,000 years.  Think of when you last blew up a balloon.  Every breathe caused it to expand and that is you expanding this sphere of brotherly love around you and it extends to your dog, cat, bird, extends to anyone in your home, to your neighbor’s home and the houses beyond that.  This is a gentle energy, warm and inclusive.  The only thing you have to do is breathe in and out and be willing to let this energy pass through you.  With every out breath you are spreading the essence of brotherly love with a half-life of 100,000 years. The neighbors, the dogs, cats, plants in the yard, even litter in the street – all are being bathed in brotherly love.  Since brotherly love is emanating from you, every cell in your body is bathed in brotherly love. 

Come back and open your eyes.