Question: Higgins, will you talk about how to speak kindly?
Higgins: This is a delicious topic.
Speaking kindly takes practice as mastering anything does. Begin by actively looking for nice things to say and say them. And by all means, when you are given an impulse to say something nice, say it.
In addition, practice compassion. When you hold true compassion in your heart you will advance in the skill of speaking kindly for when you hold compassion in your heart words come without judgement, without criticism, without fault-finding, without blame. Instead, your words are filled with gentle loving kindness. They will feel good to you and they will feel good to the receiver regardless of topic, no matter how uncomfortable the topic.
Received December 1, 2011 at Lake Goodwin, Washington