Note: segment 11 is un-published awaiting copyright permission.
Un-Fulfilling Job Syndrome
In part 11 we reviewed the steps one may take to develop kindness. However, kindness in and of itself is not the point of the Kindness Paradigm. The point, in a nutshell, is to create happiness.
There are three notable areas where happiness is lacking for many: work, relationships and health.
I am quite certain that work in and of itself does not create misery. Work, I feel, is actually a happy thing…when I’m doing the work of my choice. When I am doing the work of my choice I look forward to getting up in the morning so I can get started and I often wish my body didn’t get tired so I could work later at night.
My dog, Tucker, loves his work and will fetch with enthusiasm any time of day or night. He walks away from food to do his job of fetching tennis balls.
If work itself is desirable and fun how did work become miserable for so many of us?
I believe we suffer from Un-Fulfilling Job Syndrome (UFJS). It is not work that is hateful. What is hateful is working at something that does not provide a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.
Children are often coached in school to think about what sort of jobs they might like to pursue. In the Kindness Paradigm we recognize there is no need to ever stop thinking about what we’d like to be and do. In the Kindness Paradigm others root for our success when we are 12 and wondering what to do and still rooting for us when we are 92 and wondering what to do next.
Each person is born with inherent gifts. In the Kindness Paradigm we want to be happy and we want others to be happy. Knowing this, we develop the gifts of children and adults alike. A person who is happy is a person who thrives so it benefits all of society to help each other find the thing that makes them happy.
Then, when we industriously go about doing that thing we enjoy and are good at we suddenly realize that work and life are the same thing. They are not separate. Life and work in the Kindness Paradigm are better read as life’s work. I don’t mean a person gets to the end of their life road and looks back at ‘their life’s work’ as a summation. Life’s work, in the Kindness Paradigm, means the work that gives you life. Life’s work is one of the things that gives meaning to life and fulfillment to every day.
So how do we fix UFJS? We place importance on discovering what we love to do without regard to age, health or ability, or even skill. Then we nurture the expression thereof.
Cheryl Jensen, November 29, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington USA