We would very much like to know whether any or all of you set your intention for your interactions with us before 7 pm Wednesday evenings.  If so, what do you say?  Are you setting your intentions for your interactions with us before you get here?

(We mostly said no, we don’t.) 

Participant:  do you mean think of questions beforehand? 

H:  No, it is pre-paving.  When you get in your car do you intend safety, arriving in a timely manner, wanting a good parking space, etc? In the same way, are you setting your intentions with us before you get here? 

Let’s take a moment and think. If you had set your intentions ahead of time of this interaction with us for the next 90 minutes what would they be? 

Participant:  For me I want a better understanding of my life and clarity of my role in it.

Participant:  I just always  want to feel better and expect to feel better.  But I feel guilty because that is what I am supposed to do myself.

H:  Let us assuage your guilt.  We are here to help you with that. 

Participant:  I am appreciating the practical tips on thinking positive.  Hearing things again helps me keep learning and I practice more.  The support of other people and experiences is helpful to me, too.  At night I go through the Solstice Charm and look at what good things happened to me. Practical application is really important.

Participant:  I always expect wisdom from Higgins and that is what I get.  Knowledge that can help me in daily life and the Universe, a wider view of the world and the Universe of things we don’t know about like the way the earth’s vibration is changing.  Big events like floods, fires I think Higgins can give me a better perspective.  I try to get up the courage to share with Higgins some personal things.  That is hard for me. 

Higgins:  regarding personal items, if you will talk to us directly through the week, we can weave answers to those questions into upcoming sessions.  Talk to us tomorrow and we can weave answers into the conversations.

The reason setting your intention is important is because your energy affects us.  We are all intertwined. Your thoughts affect things across the oceans. It actually does.  It may not be visible to you.

There is only God and you are part of this whole thing. It’s like a living, breathing organism. And one of you might be a thumb and another might be a finger.  The broader scope knows you.  Knows you are hurting and knows about what you want.  And, when you let us know in advance it draws the energy more powerfully through us and through the entity.  When your wanting is more powerful, then she is more clear.  

A powerful example by Mike Dooley is “get up and go and the Universe will go with you.  When a mother duck decides to go does she wait for all the ducklings to get in line?  No. She starts swimming and they follow her.   You start swimming, and we will join you.  It is so much more powerful.  When you tell us what you want, you start pulling our energy more powerfully.  And if you can bring us your thoughts very hard, that draws us forward very hard.  This is important because (name of participant) and Cheryl have been talking about clarity.  Clarity really comes via you pulling hard.  Duck example is same thing as pulling us through more clearly because you are pulling us through harder.  It is very helpful if you will set your intention ahead of time.  Maybe the Thursday after the session.  If you are thinking ahead of time it will help improve what we bring to you. You are creating us as you ask these questions.

Participant:  I thought I understood how to experience joy, but I don’t think I really do understand how.  

Higgins:  Let’s go back to the spectrum.  Way over here is the negative side where you can feel negative and way over here is the positive.  You can only move through one emotion at a time like the keys on a piano.  You cannot skip steps.  Let’s say the entity wants increased prosperity.  The universe knows what increased prosperity is, but when she says “I want a million dollars tomorrow,” her belief system is “yeah, but I don’t know how to do that. I can’t do that.”    We say “If you could achieve the compatible vibration you could do that,” so technically it is true. The problem with thinking that way, is for example, that you may feel guilty when can’t or don’t do it. When in reality this is not a failure.  It is almost impossible for anyone to do that because it is skipping too many steps. No one can skip that many steps. (Steps are equal to emotions. As an example: One cannot go from disbelieving to believing without experiencing intermediate emotions such as possibility.)

What you really do is move one step to the next, one emotion to the next, one vibrational level to the next.  So you are saying “I don’t know what joy is” that is because joy is way up here and it is at a vibrational level that is so far away you can’t achieve it on a regular basis.  You can achieve joy sometimes.  Your baseline level is not joy.  You are at hope and contentment.  You are at hope and contentment and believing.  And you want to achieve higher emotions. It is not even eager anticipation.  It is not even believing.  You really, really want to believe.  The fact is you are a little lower than actual believing.  You are certainly hopeful and willing to see positive outcomes and as you push yourself too hard it creates a sense of feeling like failing.  But you are not failing, you are simply trying yet another route. 

Let’s give another example.  When you leave your home to visit the entity and her husband, and you are driving.  What route do you take? 

Participant: Northern NM, Utah.

 H:  So when you get to northern NM do you feel frustrated with yourself because you are in northern NM and it doesn’t look like Cheryl’s house?

Participant: No.  I know the entire route by heart and I love it.

H: You are not mad at yourself because you are not at Cheryl’s.  You know the route will take you to Cheryl’s.  You don’t beat yourself up because you are not already at Cheryl’s house. 

In a certain way you are beating yourself up because you understand the theory of living in joy and you haven’t perfected it yet.  We would like you to think about the conversation we have had about living your dream life.  When you start to realize that you have a great deal of freedom in your life, you have opportunities in your life, you get to do fun things in your life, you help people, you maintain friendships, you are kind to animals, and these many things that you do are parts of the expression of your dream life.   As you become clearer and clearer that in many ways you are living your dreams, it is easier to reel in those positive emotions that you crave.  Like joy.

Participant:  I like to read Abraham Hicks, Law of Attraction etc.  I am taking a class at church and we’re reading a book Sacred Secrets – spiritual side of law of attraction.  I find myself analyzing things in my daily life .. Do I like this?  Do I like what is happening with this person?  Feels like I am in my brain too much. Advice? 

Higgins:  You have been listening to Abraham Hicks and other teachers including us who are teaching you to follow your emotions and you are practicing following your emotions.  It takes time to sort his out because it is not something you have been taught.  We are applauding you. Something that might help is to look for the positive in everything.  Whatever you are looking at we want you to look for the positive in it.   That would be extremely useful because it keeps you practicing looking for the positive.  It does take practice.  You are trying something new on a regular basis.  That is huge. In your life, your time has been decided for you because you were working and raising a family. Now you get to re-decide who you are which is a wonderful opportunity.  We feel you are looking at this opportunity not as something joyful but as an absence of something wonderful.  Instead, we would coach you to look at every moment as another opportunity to try something new, something you like and look for the positive.  When you look at your home find what you love about it, what you love about your relationship with your husband and your church and reconsider your relationship to these things. You have carefully crafted your home and life and everything was put there for some reason.    If you could remember those reasons and look at it with new eyes you would have a new appreciation for where you are and as you have a new appreciation for where you are then it is even more fun to launch into new these new activities.

Participant:  OK. What happens is I see something I don’t like and then that can tell how to go towards something I do like.  But I want to change this.  Then I feel I get negative about it. 

Higgins:  OK give us an example no matter how small so we can follow your train of thought.   

Participant:  In our living and dining room there is hardly anything we bought ourselves.  Some of it is getting not very pleasant to use or look at.   Hard for me to think of ways I can change it.  I want to be more creative and change things. 

Higgins:  is it the dining room table you would like to change or the carpet or the paint or the whole room? 

P:  not the whole room.  What happens is my husband likes it the way it is. 

H:  when you want one thing and someone close to you wants another, it is like swimming upstream to try and make a change   Rather than fight it, (that is a losing battle) we would have you focus on positive traits about your husband.  He is frugal, a man of character, he is helpful (he helped put in a garden).  As you begin to focus on positive traits you like about him, you begin to soften his resistance.  This is not manipulation.  You are bringing him into harmony with you, much like converging on a path and then walking along together.  Then you can begin talking with him and including him in the change.

When you were raising kids and said child go clean your room, you probably were met with some resistance.  However, if you said come with me and we will clean your room together you probably had less resistance.  Same thing with your husband.  I don’t like this furniture and I want to change it.  You have to get him coming with you in some way.  Not talking manipulation here.  We are talking about genuinely getting him on board.  You might say, you know this piece of furniture is still bothering me.  I think if we had a piece that looked like this we might like the way the house looks better, or I might like the way the house looks better.  Include him in the process and it will be easier to have those conversations.  Might be a bumpy road at first, but as you practice this, you will begin to find what his needs are.  If he is resistant about changing the furniture, is it about money? Or does he have an energy investment stuck in that piece of furniture and doesn’t want to lose it? And if so, would he be willing to do an energy retrieval and take the energy back he invested in that piece?  

There are all kinds of different ways to start down the road with him.  We tend to butt heads a lot.  These are good tips.  We understand it sometimes seems frustrating that perhaps you feel you are putting more energy into cooperating in this relationship than your husband may be putting in.  However, remember in the end your life is all about you and how you handled the opportunities that came your way.   He is not a stumbling block in your life experience, he is your greatest opportunity.  As you are grateful for the learning opportunity he is giving you, and you will see it, you will find there is much good in this marriage. You just have to  seek it, expect it and grow it like a plant. 

Participant:  I have been feeling a lot that something is trying to get my attention.  I get messages but I don’t know how to facilitate the messages.  I have a native medallion that was given to me when I was 22 for an act of service.  It is precious to me but it has become like wall art and I hardly ever notice it.   Yesterday when I opened my eyes and I walked by it and thought of the name of the woman who gave it to me, Nadine Fiddler, and how I got it.  I haven’t thought about her in years. This gave me an opportunity to re-live the very positive experiences.  Last night sitting in my chair I normally don’t watch tv at 9 pm but I was too lazy to get up from my chair and I saw a tv program coming on and there was a documentary of Nadine Fiddler’s family at Pine Ridge Reservation. In that documentary it was like a re-learning.  I am having more of these kinds of things.  Is there something I am supposed to be paying attention to?  Or I don’t have the techniques to pursue the information that is presented?

 Higgins:  You have bumped into and noticed the flow of the Universe.    The Universe is always talking to you. We are so pleased you heard it. It’s like a book you can read, and you were paying attention. We think you are asking is there something more you should to do?  Yes, if the something more appears as a next step you will be awake to take it.  Let it play out.  That is how the Universe works.  You are seeing something interesting to you play out and it is fun.  We would have you revel in it and be awake for the next opportunity.  We would like to add that this serendipity often does lead you somewhere. It is nice this was obvious.  This is what we want you to see because this is living your dream life.  Seeing these little things happen. As you start paying attention to these little bits of serendipity you say “Oh, the Universe is listening to me and I am listening to the Universe and it is lining things up for me.”  It happens when it happens.  Sit back and wait.  Be ready for it and when it does, take the gentle action(s) that you are inspired to. You were listening and received the message loud and clear.  Well done. 

We have mentioned figuring out what your dream life is.  How are you coming in figuring out what is your dream life?      

P: I tend to say I want to be happy and appreciate everything.  It seems like if I would do this in more detail I could do better with my dream life.  It is valuable to me to do the Wednesday sessions.  I have more clarity and see techniques and use them that I don’t very well do on my own. 

Higgins:  we know you have friendships that are important to you and you have a creative side and your health is important to you and finances are important to you and all of you because of the world you live in. As you go through your day we suggest asking yourself “of these things (that are important to me) how can I express that today?”  If friendship is important to me did I express that today?  If being creative is important to me how did I express that today?  The reason for this is that as you are expressing it you are by definition living your dream life.  As you acknowledge more frequently how often you actually get to live your dream life then you are drawing in more of it until virtually every moment is becoming  your dream life.   

And (participant) , this is important.  You have told the entity your home is full of stuff that you love and cherish. You have brought those things into your experience because they brought you some joy at the time.  And, as you begin to realize that your home is filled with your good intentions with the things that you love, you feel more appreciation.  And, as you feel more appreciation for the things that are around you then you start bringing your emotional level up in the direction you want to go. We are not asking you to leap across a canyon.  Look at the things you have in your home and remind yourself why you like them.

Participant:  I feel frustrated. I have been feeling pretty well in the evenings lately although that is the time of day I function the least.  I start thinking about what I am going to do next day and have ideas of things I want to accomplish. And it will be fun.  I forget that when I wake up it is hard for me to move and there is no way I am going to do those things.  I am so stiff and sore.  It doesn’t do me any good to have those happy thoughts about what I am going to do the next day. 

Higgins:  When you think that the next morning, it happens.  You need to break that cycle.  Thoughts are powerful.  You do not have to physically do a task. It is powerful to simply think it through in your mind. 

If you would like your body to feel good, spend some time when you go to sleep and vision yourself feeling good.  (Having a massage, or sitting in a warm tub or doing something in your body or with your body that feels good.)  Spend a few minutes each day visioning your body feeling good.  When you think of all the things you can’t do, you are creating more things that you cannot do. 

What if during the time you are waiting for your physical therapy appointment you thought about alternative solutions?  How would it feel reading a new book?

P:  Great.

Higgins:  Reading is distracting. It is an alternate solution you can escape to even though you can’t do what you want to do.  Maybe do some research on a computer that is interesting.  Distract.  Get your mind off seeing you are not as feeling as good as you want. If you weren’t reading the book, are you physically able to do the stuff?  No.  You know that if you could do it you would.  You can’t do it so you are beating yourself up for something you cannot, in this moment, do anything about.  It is not that you are not doing it. It is that you can’t do it. You are beating  yourself up for not doing something you cannot do.  Envision things done.  Perhaps a tidy kitchen, a vacuumed floor.  Just envision it.  When you find yourself beating up on yourself, distract.

(You may be surprised out how the Universe finds a way to get the floor vacuumed and the kitchen tidied.)

Meditation.