Higgins 2/26/25

One of the things we have talked about and explained regarding the process and importance of this work is setting your intention before an event.  If you have to make an appt. to see a doctor, for example, before you pick up the phone, set your intentions.  What do you want from the doctor? Likely you want information shared clearly that is helpful and helps you determine your next steps.  Then at the appt. time, intend yourself arriving in a timely manner; receiving good service, etc.

If you get a new refrigerator, use the same steps to getting that new frig.  Intention: What do you want? Define it. Everything you do – before you do it set your intention as to how it will go.  If you practice this, you will find things you do will be smoother.  Things slide along like a greased wheel.  Getting gas, going to the store, etc.  Whatever you do during any given day, this is and extremely helpful tool.

P:  How do you move through the scale of emotions up to love and bliss?  With anger you have to move through the steps.  How? 

H: Picture a stairwell: the lowest steps are terrible depression and then fear, anxiety, then jealousy, thoughts of revenge, hate, frustration, impatience then hope and contentedness and then believing, feeling of confidence and then love, joy, bliss.  Each one of those is a step and imagine you being on the lowest step and trying to step up to contentedness.  It is too big a step.  You cannot do it.  It is a physical and emotional impossibility.  What you’re really trying to do is move out of your despair into something less than despair.  

We so often encourage you to find your angry place because anger has power.  You can’t jump from despair to anger typically either but you are looking for gentle movement up the scale one step (emotional level) at a time.  The way you do that is to gently seek the best feeling or thought you can find about any topic. 

If you are frustrated about the amount of time you are having to wait in the grocery store line, we suggest you start looking around for all the good things that are happening.  The line is slow because the clerk is giving quality service to the person in front of you, and you know when you get there you will get quality service as well.  That is the sort of simple thought process that we would have you undertake to move one from one step to the next.

You have two kinds of emotions, in essence. You have your current emotions. If you get into a traffic jam and you feel impatient, that is a current emotion that is coming from your greater self (spirit) informing you in that moment that this is not what you really want. You’d rather flow smoothly through traffic.  That is one kind of emotion. 

There’s another kind of emotion and those are deep-seated feelings.  Those are the things that are instilled in you along your birth trail.  The family of birth teaches you something, and teachers teach you something. Your early friendships in school teach you something. You learn you are safe or not safe; that you are loved or not loved.  You learn all kinds of things along your way.  Those years, especially the early years, form the foundational emotions that will guide you through your life. Those are the emotions that will either help you focus and be oriented and be able to ‘pin the tail on the donkey’ or disoriented and not be able to ‘pin the tail on the donkey’.   

The things you need to know you set up in advance with your parents, your teachers, your friendships.  The family of birth that you come into helped you become oriented or disoriented in whatever way that you needed to help you learn. It is really a valuable time.

We call these your base-line emotions, and when your base-line emotions are negative they end up showing up in your health as time progresses.  These beliefs that you develop in your youth are often hammered home again and again in your adult life. Because the Universe is circular, events with similar conditions happen over and over again.  The opportunity to face your fears, frustrations, or whatever come to you so that you can learn and grow.  Once you learn the thing that you wanted to learn, once you get an “A” on it, those  opportunities will present themselves again and again but  because you have gotten an “A” it doesn’t bother you.  Your emotional response is more mature.  You have become a broader person and you are learning something and you can apply the new things you have learned. 

There are two kinds of emotions:  1) the one in which you respond to that says “run! You are in a burning building” and 2) You have the other one that guides and defines how you look at the world.  Are you looking at the world through rose-colored glasses?

Friend M: You had good childhood friends and your view of friendships is a very positive one.  But if another person had had many friends who they discovered could not be trusted then that person would have a different view of what friendships are about. They would look at friendships through a different lens and respond through that different lens until they come to understand that you get to choose how to respond.

Let’s go back to what we were first talking about, which is setting your intention  for everything you do. If you are going to get in your car and drive down the road, we encourage you to define what it will look like before you do it.  That way, any of those negative building blocks that you have are sort of set aside for the moment and you are starting from a more concrete, a more stable surface. 

P:  If we learn how to cope with situations that seem to recur and recur in this life, when we come back again will we remember any of that and benefit from our experience or keep stumbling along? 

H:  So many of you are doing these past-life regressions hoping that will help you out in this life.  No, you don’t need to do that.  That life is done. If individuals perceive that there is a sort of bleed through it is because in the new lifetime they wanted to learn or enhance their learning about a previous lifetime. 

When you begin to get ready to plan your next lifetime, you set new parameters.  If you got it in this lifetime, there is no need to do it again.  You would have a whole new set of parameters formed and then from that new definition of what you want in your next lifetime your broader Self will give you positive and negative emotions based on what you chose.  And your Spirit Guide(s) will give you new inspiration towards achieving that which you desire in the new lifetime.

You have a spiritual self and that spiritual self is guiding you like a navigational system.  If you feel terrible about something your broader self is feeling really great about the very thing you feel terrible about. The worse you feel, the bigger the opportunity that you created and that is why your greater self feels so good.

So you die and you move into the next life.  And, when you start planning your next life and if you have learned what you wanted to learn in this lifetime, then you plan a whole new lifetime.  Sometimes people say “Oh, the last one was pretty hard, let’s do an easy one.”  Or, “You know what?  I figured this part out but never really understood that other part.”  So, you plan a whole new life.  There is no reason to know what happened in your last life because your navigational system (greater self) is guiding you every step of the way towards  what you decided before you were born – that what you wanted to learn in this lifetime. 

P: is it really that our spiritual life gets to make that choice when we are coming into a new life or is it just given to us? 

H:  No, you make a choice ahead of time for  what you want.  You are given some parameters then you improvise like players on a stage as you go along.    You have some parameters that you need met.  There is someone who has said I will meet up with you in this lifetime and help you achieve those goals.  You are much vaster than you think you are.  You are magnificent spiritual beings.  This earth realm is one of the hardest- if not the hardest- physical realm to exist in because of the difficult contrast. 

As you look at what is happening in your political system in this country, you feel yourself being torn apart. The fear of what could happen is terrible for some of you. At the same time, your greater self feels joy, saying, “Right on.  Bring it.  I know we are ready, each one of your team is saying we can handle this.  We know how to do this.”

And even if you become extremely fearful, your broader self is saying “hey, we got this and feels really good about what you are learning” and continues to guide you like a flashing beacon – come this way, come this way.  The earth realm is thick, like molasses and feels like you are swimming in molasses and is harder than you thought it would be, and sometimes you just have to lie on your back and float or do whatever it takes to keep your head above water or molasses and still that beacon that is your broader self never stops flashing “come this way, come this way.”  And that is your intuition talking.  You know what to do when your intuition says this. 

We know how hard that is to do when your intuition says come on. We feel we have been living in this body and checking in with you and we know how hard that is to do.  The entity says, “Well this thing seems not good to me, but I am afraid to not do it.  I am really afraid but I would rather do it even though I know that what you are telling me is come this way and I am afraid to stop doing it because I don’t know that I can really do what you are telling me to do.” 

When this happens, there is no point in kicking yourself.   This is a very difficult realm you are living in. This is a really complex adventure you are having.  There is nowhere to go except go back to your Source. So even though you feel lost, you can never be lost because the only thing you can do is go back to your Source.  So while you are here you may have walloping great success or you may flounder around; you may feel things are not working out for you but in the end you’re having this great adventure and then you go back to Source.  There is no place else to go.

And by the way, friend M, should you decide to step out of your body in the next weeks, or months, we’ll meet you and have a party.  We will really welcome you.   If you would rather stay here, we will help you meet that goal, too.  Whatever you want to do friend.

M: After you die and you have gone to non-physical do you think about the things you left undone in the physical life?  I am having a hard time coming to terms with the idea that when I’m dead I will have no agency in this world.  What I don’t get done before I go will not get done.  I feel bad about it because I feel a responsibility to get a lot done so other people don’t have to do it after I’m gone.  I’d like to think I just don’t give a darn after I’m gone. 

H: This is a delightful question.  When you go, you are dead.  Someone is going to meet you that you want to see and you will feel good about that. There will be a greeting and there will be a time of helping you to adjust.  If it has been especially hard for you in this lifetime, people will take a little siesta and kind of sleep in a cozy cocoon for a while till you are ready.  And then, yes, you’ll kind of think about the things you just didn’t get done but without any guilt.  “Oh I left some things undone and what that did for the person who had to deal with it gave them some expansion room!”  You say, “Wow, I did that great.  It felt funny at the time and I thought I was wrong but in fact it was all right because I set that up in conjunction with the person who is following.”

 H: So, you all in your dream time are interacting with one another and in your conscious waking time you don’t remember it.  In your conscious waking time you improvise what you are going to do to make all these things happen and work out so everybody gets their learning opportunity.  We have said so many times, just try and be happy.  Look for the best in everything because really that’s what’s really happening, the best of everything.  It may look like it is the worst of times but it is really the best of times. 

P: After a person transitions, are they aware of the beings they left on earth?  Are they able to see what they are doing and miss them and how long will that last?

H:  Again you are met on the other side and embraced.  You either sleep for a while or you’re reintegrated.  Yes, you are aware of the things that are going on.  However, you feel really, really good about it because you are now reconnected to your eternal broader self.  So, you are looking at everything that’s happening from that eternal broader perspective -the one that when you were feeling really low was going “yeehaw” so you are looking at it and not feeling sorry or despair or unhappiness.    You are saying “wow, I did a great job.”

P: Can you actually see what your family is doing on earth?

H:  you mean like day to day cooking a meal kind of thing? 

P:  yeah.  Seeing what happened to your grandkids.  Do you have a connection with your family for a while or with your friends? 

H:  You certainly can.  You don’t necessarily do that.  So, friend, Name removed, your mother has decided to stay non-physical until you are done because she is looking over you.  And that happens quite often.  But it’s not a requirement.  They certainly can check in and do.  The entity is pretty good with connecting with non-physical beings.  Her dad is dead.  She could check in with him any time she wanted but the fact is she kinda doesn’t.  Once in a while she does a little, but she kinda doesn’t because life moves on.  So, your life moves on and their life moves on. 

Once you’re gone you’re still living and doing something interesting and that has value and if you are needed to check in, you definitely will.  For example, Friend, D, if there is somebody you want to talk to and you call out their name, yes, they will hear you and come visit with you if they are able to do that. Now as we have said some people go into a cocoon and won’t be available right then, but if they are available then yes if they can they will come to you. Absolutely.

P: This happens to me quite often I have a vivid dream about my mother or aunt  – people who have transitioned -and you can talk to them and say I miss them and then you realize that they are gone but they are not gone, they are right here and it is powerful.

P: I have had that happen.  For about a year and a half I had a physical sensation that my first husband was with me and had dreams he was with me.  And it was comforting because it was one of the best relationships I have had.  I wasn’t sure why this contact was occurring.  This past week I was online taking a class from a medium and in a short meditation on how to use your medium skills I called ‘J’ in.  He came immediately and I knew it was him from the energy and I got a visual.  What surprised me so much is that I thought he was trying to contact me, but as soon as I felt his energy I burst into tears and started apologizing for wrongs that I thought I had done to him.  As that guilt left, I got a great big hug and he left.  I haven’t had any of those feelings since except a great sense of relief.  In examining this experience what I realized was I had never associated guilt with grief.  I realized from this experience that I couldn’t let go of the grief of his passing because I still felt guilt of not having done a better job being in the relationship.  I don’t need that past energy because I had a clearing.

My second husband came through twice and the second time and said “maybe we should try this again in the next lifetime.” My visceral response was NO because I was thinking about how hard that was.  But after this experience of letting the guilt go with J, maybe I do need more contact with ‘K’ because I am still carrying some anger towards that relationship.  One of the things that I have been thinking about is I am going to be 73 and since my 70’s I have spent a lot of time looking at my past life to see what lessons I might have encountered.  I think because I am now willing to look at these lessons I think that is why I am having more energetic experiences, like with J, to see if there are things in the lesson process that are not complete that I would like to complete. 

H: Yes.  That is a very clear picture, and I think the group understood it.  If you were to have a relationship with K in your next lifetime, you would not necessarily remember your life this time.  You would set new parameters. 

Any more questions before we meditate?

P: I would like to know do we encounter our past pets? 

H:  Oh, absolutely.  As you prepare to make your respective transitions, you can say “Boy I would real like to see that pet” and they will be waiting there for you and there will be a nice welcome if they can be -unless they have moved into physical.  If they can be there they absolutely will! 

Meditation.