More Clarity Regarding My Difficult Coworker

Posted on November 16, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Cheryl: Regarding my questions that past few days about a difficult coworker, yesterday my workday actually flowed along pretty well. I found myself smiling for no apparent reason. In some ways my day flowed more pleasantly than before the negativity arose. I’m having a hard time wrapping my mind around the possibility that I did this by keeping my Mona Lisa Smile in place, and doing the other things you suggested, but I really did not see a good way out of this and now it seems to be smoothing out on its own.

Higg(in)s: It’s not smoothing out on its own. Your attention to your thoughts, words, and actions smoothed it out. Let us provide a simple metaphor. You are driving your vehicle down the road towards your destination. From time to time, you take a detour down a bumpy gravel road and through puddles of water. The scenery is interesting and you like the change although the driving is more difficult and requires you to drive a little slower. Eventually, you get to your destination regardless of the route you chose.

We suggest you continue to define and refine your desires. Make a list of the qualities you want in your co-workers, in your work environment, in the feeling you have when you perform your job duties, the rewards you receive. Your desires continually evolve. Continue to plan in advance, and to adjust your plans whenever it suits you. Believe with unwavering commitment that your desires are granted. The essence of that which you desire is on its way to you. It may arrive differently than you expected but it will arrive, and it will be good. As you become clearer on your creative focus the responses will become overtly as you wish.

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Fixing the Mess I’m In

Posted on November 15, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Cheryl: Regarding your posts of November 13 and 14, 2023 about my difficult coworker, how do I fix this mess now that I’m in it?

Higg(in)s: Keep that Mona Lisa Smile pasted on your face. Continue to define the qualities you would like to see in your coworkers. Reading your new and improved list on a daily basis is a powerful tool. Acknowledge something you do like about each player in your workplace adventure. Again, do this daily. (Yes, we know it takes time to do this. Once you get this situation resolved and you move into your future you will spend less time cleaning up messes.)

The harder part of cleaning up a mess is that there are few good choices. Listen for inspiration and follow your intuition. You will at minimum be guided towards least worst options. When you speak for yourself do so without heat. Continue to treat those involved as though they are important and valuable. They are. Remember, no matter how uncomfortable the situation, you created it, and you can learn something from it that will help you the remainder of your days on earth. This person is doing something for you, not to you.

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Managing a Difficult Coworker

Posted on November 14, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Cheryl: Regarding yesterday’s post (November 13, 2023) how did she (this difficult coworker) arrive in my work location? I have made a very nice list of qualities that I would like to see in my co-workers and have reviewed it often with positive emotion.

Higg(in)s: Yes, you have done that. But if you will look back at the timeline you started that list close to the time she arrived. It was too late by then; the attraction was complete. Look instead to the more recent new hires and their positive attitudes to see what you are currently attracting.

This is a good example of why it is vitally important to choose your life in advance. Life’s experiences sometimes take a while to catch up with you. You are discovering a very important lesson: It is much easier to create your life well in advance. Otherwise, you spend a lot of time cleaning up your creational messes.

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Bragging

Posted on November 13, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Just bragging because something good happened today. My mother started blogging for something to do during Covid. 

She has maintained livingtheaginglife.com for three years now.  Living the Aging Life is in her words, “random thoughts of an astonished great-grandmother,” and is her take on day-to-day circumstances, all in rhyming verse. Today, her first book Butterflies and Forget-Me-Nots was published and is available on Amazon.

I hope that each of you is also having happy successes.

Bright blessings, everyone.

Cheryl

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Someone at Work Is Focusing on Me Negatively

Posted on November 13, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Cheryl: Someone at work is focusing on me negatively. When she first arrived as a new hire she focused negatively on others, but her acid ways are now focused on me. As you know, I pay attention to my attitude and positive words and thoughts. I would have thought I was immune to this kind of thing. Apparently not. What happened?

Higg(in)s: This is an example of repelling emotional states. It is quite unconscious to the perpetrator of your discomfort, but she cannot have you around. Her response to you is not about the quality of your work, nor is it about your personality. It is about her emotional set point. You don’t match it. She is flailing about trying to make you match her emotional set point so she can feel better.

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Mona Lisa Smile

Posted on November 12, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Cheryl: Give us a technique to feel better quickly.

Higg(in)s: Gently lift the corners of your mouth. Hold the corners of your mouth steady in a Mona Lisa smile.

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Can Cancers Die?

Posted on November 11, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Cheryl: You’ve mentioned that this time of year is a time for acknowledgement of the passing of things (it’s the end of the harvest season, the plants stop growing and begin to decay). You also mention, often, that this is a fractal Universe, so all things are just repeating patterns. Can this also be true for disease? Can a cancerous tumor, for example, just pass on?

Higg(in)s: Certainly. A plant grows when the conditions are right and dies when the conditions are incompatible with life, or its life span is spent. This is true of people. This is true of cancerous cells. Cancer is tricky because the cells can continue to replicate until the body carrying it dies. What you need to do is make the host, the body that is carrying it, an inhospitable environment. The cancerous cells will shrivel from natural causes the way a zucchini plant, which thrives in summer, shrivels when the weather becomes too cold.

Cheryl: How would one make themselves inhospitable to cancer?

Higg(in)s: Constantly maintain a positive and enthusiastic attitude.

We feel you already rebelling. Every waking moment seems like too much to ask. Let us ask you this: If you are driving a car how much of the time are you expected to pay attention? Assuming you are not driving one the new self-driving cars, the answer is every moment. We encourage you to spend every waking moment pursuing the most positive thought and attitude you can muster upon every topic. Soon, the positive feedback loop process will provide you with circumstances that make it easy to have positive thoughts and attitudes.

A thing to note: If you expect a 180 degree turn around with these thoughts, you will fail. Expect a 1 degree turn and then another 1 degree turn until you have made 180 one degree turns.

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How Important Is It to Maintain a Positive Attitude?

Posted on November 10, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Cheryl: How important is it to maintain a positive attitude?

Higg(in)s: Critically important. We encourage you to be like the dog with its ears forward and its tail up. The dog looks forward to each and every moment with interest.

Cheryl: Why is each and every moment important?

Higg(in)s: Every waking moment you are interacting with Universal Consciousness whether you want to or not. If you shlep through your days dully, finding positive moments here and there, your life will continue to be mostly dull. If you move through your days with powerful intent, with focused interest, with enthusiastic eagerness, well, life will provide you with things to be eager about. When life begins tossing you things to be eager about, it is easier to feel enthusiastic. Then enthusiasm for life becomes your conversation with Universal Consciousness. Life is a positive feedback loop.

Addendum: From Biologydictionary.net:  A positive feedback loop is a process in which the end products of an action cause more of that action to occur. This amplifies the original action.

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Are There Truly Some People Who Don’t Value Peace?

Posted on November 9, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Cheryl: Someone responded to one of your posts with this comment: Wouldn’t it be nice if everyone valued peace? It feels like some do, some want peace but don’t know how, and then another group thrives on power trips, conflict, and domination. It seems impossible to win everyone over, but I have hope that someday, we will.

Are there truly some people who don’t value peace?

Higg(in)s: The short answer is yes. The long answer is no.

Power trips are just that: power. Conflict and domination provide, for some, a feeling of power that is intoxicating. It feels good and powerful and strong. You will agree that feeling powerless is not a nice feeling? And you will agree that feeling powerful is a nice feeling? We encourage you to applaud anyone attempting to maintain a feeling of power, no matter how flailing their attempt may seem.

We use the word ‘flailing’ intentionally. Think of a person who is drowning. They don’t know how to swim or float and, in their fear, they flail wildly in an attempt to keep their head above water. Conflict, domination, anger, rage, hatred…all these emotions are simply attempts to keep from losing power and ‘drowning’. Rember that emotions lower than anger are powerless. Powerless maintained long term means dead. Powerless emotions lead to disease. Angry emotions do, too. Anger carried too long also means dead. So applaud those trying to gain power any way they can. When they are able to stabilize emotionally, they will lose their fear. Then they can begin to access peaceful emotions, which before they were not capable of accessing. Simultaneously, do your own work to maintain peace in yourself so that they do not cause both of you to “drown”.

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How Do You Disperse Stuck Energy?

Posted on November 8, 2023 by Cheryl Jensen

Questioner: How do you disperse stuck energy?

Higg(in)s: Stuck energy is cleared by opening a channel for it to flow. In the blocked drain analogy leaves were removed from over the drain grate allowing water to flow into the drain. To clear stuck energy you need to find a way to get energy moving again.

  1. An easy starting point is to use your hands as directional pointers. Begin by raising your hands above your head. Then gently push from above your head to below your feet. You may wish to do this several times to get a more vigorous flow, but even one sweep will start the flow. Your energy responds immediately, assuming you do this with intent. As you move your hands towards the ground you can request, “I ask my energy to flow fully through me.”
  2. Finding the best possible thought upon every topic at all times is highly recommended.
  3. Don’t spend any time worrying. If something arises that is uncomfortable for you, find a way to come into harmony with it immediately, before moving into a next thought or action.
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