Question: I have a friend in a nursing home and has had many strokes and a brain stem stroke and I believe she’s afraid of letting go is there anything I can do to help her?
Higgins: The first thing you can do to help her is help yourself. As we read your energy you are empathizing with her so solidly that your own energy is leaking away. Personal energy flows (and this is a generalization but it works well for the purpose of helping you easily understand) from about two feet above your head, through your spinal column, and down into the ground about another two feet. Use one hand to describe a line from above your head straight down to the ground. Tell your energy to flow from head to toe.
Nextly, energy fills a person and emanates forth as an aura. This leakage you are experiencing has caused your personal aura to distort. Intend your energy to flow fully through you, that you might flow in harmony with your reasons for existence. This will fill out your aura and you will feel more settled. You can now be the energetic set point, a sort of energetic template for your friend, rather than you following her energetic lead. You may need to re-establish this well-rounded flow of energy many times per day to remain stable.
The stabilized energy you now emit will reassure her on an unseen, unconscious level.
We need to know whether your friend is conscious. The second part of this response depends on whether she is conscious and if so, whether she is willing to discuss the death process with you.
Blessings to you and your friend. You are both, in this process, meeting a goal you decided upon together. This difficult situation is designed for both of you by both of you. Regardless of whether this process for her transition is smooth or bumpy, your Souls are experiencing their desired spiritual growth.
Received March 15, 2015
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I resonate so closely with this question – and the answer. My mother also had a series of mini-strokes which left her with advanced dementia. She came close to death so many times and always pulled back. I struggled to understand why and reached the same conclusion as the person here. I was, though, ‘all over the place’ each time it happened. Finally, when she had pneumonia and doctors were (again) predicting that she only had hours or days left, I calmed myself and sat with her, gently talking her through the journey until she was able to let go. By this point she was not able to discuss anything, but I’m certain she could feel and understand the process at some level. Fascinating to have Higgins’ explanation in terms of energy.