Question: My husband is a rather angry person, who explodes quite often, blames me for a lot of things, doesn’t tell me the truth and says some rather unpleasant things. But he can also be sweet and I guess seemingly loving. I knew before marrying him that he had made some bad decisions in his life and that there were some issues he was still dealing with, but it seemed to be going better and he seemed to be growing as a person. I have personally gone through some low times in my life, where I allowed depression to take over, but I got out and I am purposing to be happy and grateful for life, although I find it difficult to stay upbeat in difficult encounters with my husband so I am questioning if persistence and patience are the way to go in this situation or if I should take my husband up on one of the occasional threats that he wants to divorce me and that he wants nothing to do with me anymore. Is it really true that if you love them, you should let them go?
Higgins: We would like to add a third segment to this response. The asker asks us what to do. We don’t know what any of you should do. You do. Our responses are geared towards helping you feel what is in your heart, understand what it means and then act upon it.
No one anywhere knows what is best for you. Only you know. Listen to your heart. It is a steady compass leading you towards happiness.
If you are stuck and don’t understand your heart’s message just remember to always do what feels like relief. If neither feels like relief, if you have two choices and one makes you feel guilty and the other makes you mad, do the thing that makes you mad. Anger is the more powerful emotion.
Blessings upon each of you as you move towards mastery of this difficult game.
Received October 23, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington USA