As I prepare to publish Ask Higgins, Volume Two, I came across this old post and thought you’d like to read it again. Cheryl-
Question: I do think that I was brought up to be kind to people. I think it is a huge source of stress, frustration, that most people I meet are not kind. That stress can cause and has caused health problems in me and in some other folks who were raised to be kind. I do agree that for the most part the majority of the world does not have the kindness paradigm. However, for those of us who do, or did, or have a little of it, how do we cope in the world of mostly “not kind” folks????
Higgins: This question is a tempestuous sea of energy. Let’s try to sort it out. And Friend, read this slowly, sentence by sentence and paragraph by paragraph.
There are exceedingly few of you whose parents, or those doing the child rearing, do not make some attempt to teach kindness to their charges. However, in a society that has no kindness paradigm how can kindness be taught? Few of you know what it is to be kind and there is significant difference between kind acts and kindness. Kind acts can be taught and learned but kindness comes from inside.
So when you say most people you meet are not kind we’d suggest that what you are experiencing is someone (with perhaps exactly the same understanding of kindness that you have) who failed, in your presence, to express the kind acts they’ve been taught.
Genuine kindness and compassion is part of each of your Truths. This physical place is often scary and stressful for the harshness is out of synch with the very foundation of what you are. Though it is certain that carrying around incompatible vibration eventually leads to illness and dis-ease, illness is not developing in you because others are not kind. Illness and disease develop because you have forgotten to hold fast to your own Truth. You simply may not lay the blame of your ill-health on another for any reason.
To cope in a harsh world, one that overflows with behavior that is out of synch with Truth, one must develop compassion–for true kindness is a reflection of compassion. And that is how you cope. You develop compassion. You reflect true kindness. Then the universe will reflect the Truth you express right back at you, which is all it ever does anyway.
Received January 15, 2012
Please help. I hope that you are well . Since April I sustained bilateral ankle sprains, at least 1 foot bone bruise , a bruise tailbone and a wrist sprain. Only the tailbone has healed. At least two of his injuries were done by my ex-boyfriend being clumsy and rushing in some manner. Friday, after completing an appointment about when I can take my medical boots off, he rammed the front wheelchair wheel into my sprained ankle. And possibly cause another bone bruise. Thing is, I have been housebound for two months because the medical boot Simon has me unable to walk outside on my own and people haven’t been visiting. I can’t take this latest injury. It has to heal. I have to continue physical therapy because I have lost so much muscle mass. But I am scared that I will prolong any bone bruises or causes stress fracture if I do. I had to take a break from seeing my ex-boyfriend until I am someday stronger. I don’t understand … all but one of these injuries was caused by other people. I am frightened to be out in the world. I was very weak after a work injury in 2016 and I had cereal palsy, and all of a sudden people are bumping into me stepping on me pulling me etc. and every time that I’ve made adequate steps to getting stronger another injury comes. And the doctor say that I have to rest. But I am losing too much muscle mass so please tell me how to heal and please explain why this is happening over and over. I am so scared and I think about suicide daily. Because the other thing my two best friend stop speaking to me. there was no reason given beyond something vague. I know they’re both going through something together but they have never let me in to see what that was. My family moved away a year ago and I can’t join them right now nor should I. Somebody told me to study a course in miracles but that says this world is false. But that that was the only way to make the injury stop. Please tell me what to do . I feel like I must have done something very very very wrong
I hope you find Higgins’ response comforting and helpful.
Thank you. Yes. Is it alright to check in again in a month or so time? If I have questions ?
Of course. Sooner if you need to.