Iraq–How Can We Stop the Atrocities?

Posted on January 2, 2014 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     The news reported that over 7,800 people were killed in Iraq yesterday. Why do humans, when we all want peace and happiness for ourselves and our loved ones, commit these atrocities? Why don’t those of us witnessing this, like me, stand up against it? Why don’t we say or do anything to stop this?

Higgins:     Consider, Friend, that you yourself cannot step forward, lay your hand on the muzzle of a shooters gun and ask that person to cease, even if only because you are thousands of miles away from where this is occurring. You and others who are equally dismayed by this don’t do anything because you don’t know what to do.

Military action has been attempted and as you are aware has failed. This fails because the human experience is bound by powerful Universal Laws and ‘no’ is not understood or held within these laws. The Universal Laws are, in ways, similar to a computer program. A computer can only process information within its programmed capabilities and the Universe does not process ‘no’. Instead, the Universe processes everything as ‘yes’.

As long as you and others like you and your governments and the Iraqi people focus upon the atrocities that are occurring the only response the Universe can provide is yes. What you must focus upon is the beauty within the ugliness and you must say yes.

The beauty within the ugliness is truly magnificent and it behooves mankind to look at all atrocities from a new approach. Consider that one who commits an ugliness is seeking happiness. Consider that one who shoots, maims, kills, steals, assaults or verbally abuses is actually seeking to feel better. Consider also, and with compassion, how desperate one must be to commit such ugliness.

We would then have you begin to regard perpetrators of ugliness everywhere as blessed unto God and to All That Is, just as you yourself are. If you are all equally blessed in the love of All That Is, and you are, we would have you begin considering how you can uplift the lives of those who are so desperate that they commit such atrocities such that they begin to feel within themselves the beauty that they are. Create a world climate in which every person is encouraged to follow their dreams. Martin Luther King, Jr. was not the only man to ever have a dream. You all have dreams and it is following dreams that makes you who you are, just as following his dream made Martin Luther King, Jr. the man he was.

We submit to you that assisting one another, uplifting one another, is the way to world peace. We are not talking about giving a handout, we are talking about giving a hand up.

Received January 2, 2014 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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More Fun Things

Posted on December 31, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

This year, resolve to do more fun things. Happy New Year.

Higgins

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Granddaughter Cheats at Games

Posted on December 29, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     My eleven year old granddaughter cheats. If she is losing a game, any game, she begins cheating and if cheating doesn’t help her win she quits. If I say anything she lies and says she didn’t cheat. What do you have to say about this?

Higgins:     People who cheat do so because they are insecure. Losing and failing are helpful tools when approached positively. Your granddaughter needs help developing personal confidence. She also needs to learn to find solutions. Then, when faced with losing she can consider more positive approaches, more creative solutions, thus expanding her potential. Remember that loss creates desire and desire is the creative spark that stimulates positive growth and expansion. Growth and expansion are important aspects of happiness and fulfillment. In reality, losing or failing at a thing creates the possibility for greater happiness.

For your granddaughter winning and being first is important. This is a magnificent quality in athletes and leaders. As with any spiritual gift the expression of it can become overwhelming when the person exhibiting the trait is out of center.

Help your granddaughter find her center by teaching her to balance. Show her how to center by directing her energetic flow from head to foot. Ask her to notice how she feels before and after centering. She will want to center because she will feel more powerful centered. From her center, she will think better and be flustered less often thus leading to fewer opportunities to need to cheat.

The next aspect is to help her find solutions. All of you must learn to find solutions. There is a solution to every problem any of you will ever encounter. These solutions are opportunities although they often look like work to begin with. Learn to find one or more solutions. One of these will feel like a best option. Take action towards that best option. Notice how doing so creates a feeling of power within. You want to help her find the solution that leads to a feeling of power inside her, rather than feelings of powerlessness. Feeling powerless leads to cheating. Feeling powerful creates personal confidence and great leaders.

Received December 29, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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The Kindness Paradigm (17)

Posted on December 25, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

Feeling Free to Follow the Heart’s Desires

A society in which people are free to pursue their heart’s desires, their interests, is one that values the human and expresses that value with laws that support small business, with neighborhoods that are designed with people in mind, with work days short enough to allow for the activities of human living like buying groceries or doing laundry as well as for socialization. A society of this nature expresses the importance of the human by its deeds.

It is not enough to say that we value something. We must follow-up with supportive action. To say we love peace and then create, watch and play movies and games with intense violence is counter to what we say we want. To say we value individualism and then create jobs in which an automaton is a desirable employee makes no sense. To say we value human life yet create car-centric communities makes no sense. These things take away our feeling of freedom, relaxation and joy that make following our hearts possible.

When we solidly support human needs we create a platform of stability and honesty…honesty meaning genuine or real. This is like a diving platform, a stable place from which to jump into life with gusto, with no undermining current of thought that life is inherently dangerous and unstable. From a stable platform people tend to feel free to try new things, to investigate and even take chances.

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? You’d try, right? You’d take a chance on being an artist or a musician. You would open that small dog in home day care business on your 90th birthday. You would go back to school at 50 or 60 or 70 to learn about that thing you’ve been interested in for years. You would do all sorts of things that seem like folly now.

In the Kindness Paradigm, we create a stable platform for take off and we encourage the launch of all God’s children regardless of age.

Cheryl Jensen December 23, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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The Kindness Paradigm (16)

Posted on December 24, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

Pursuing the Heart’s Desires

Everyone wants to feel free to pursue their heart’s desire. When one’s heart yearns towards a thing that yearning is a signal that this thing, whatever It is, is somehow important. Pursuit of the heart’s desires leads to discoveries of self. It leads to the discovery of what is important in one’s life and it leads to the discovery of one’s passions.

Finding one’s passion is important because exploring It, whatever It is, produces feelings of keen interest, satisfaction and well-being.

Many do not feel free to pursue their heart’s desires. Too little time, money and energy are a few reasons people avoid pursuing their desires. Some believe that pursuing interests is a thing children have the luxury of doing but adults with responsibilities no longer can do. Some wait for retirement to pursue their heart’s desires. For some, their hearts are deadened by disappointment and they no longer feel the call of the heart.

What we as a whole do not seem to understand is those things that interest us are a road map to happiness. We are interested in what we are interested in for a reason. Interests vary widely just as people do and following up on things that interest us leads us inevitably through a continually unfolding life of fulfillment.

A society that lives a Kindness Paradigm must support the individual in pursuit of their interests. Society as a whole must expect the individual to pursue their passion knowing that the individual with the desire is also the individual capable of magnificent prowess in their special area of interest and that benefits everyone.

It must be stated that following one’s heart may be done in very small steps. It need not take much time in a day or any money to begin. All one need do is acknowledge the tugs in their heart and the inspiration of the mind. Look for even small ways in which to act upon this important information for as Lao-tzu said, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Cheryl Jensen December 23, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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The Kindness Paradigm (15)

Posted on December 23, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

Passion and Work: They’re the Same

Work has become for many, not all but many, a necessary evil. It is a thing to be endured so that one may eat and have a place to sleep. It takes the starch out a person to put effort into something they are not enthusiastic about and though a person can recover from this many times eventually one is worn out, emotional elasticity is gone. When a person feels hopeless and inelastic, depression can set in.

Millions are living this scenario. This is strange, really, because each of us is quite capable of finding things we enjoy doing. What we don’t have is a societal paradigm that allows us to expand into the things that bring us joy. Our paradigm allows us to work many hours per week at a job to pay the bills. Then our paradigm expects us to recover on the weekend. Most of us have about 48 hours to mentally refresh ourselves before the next workweek begins.

While this system works in many ways, and not all jobs are miserable, it lacks a requirement for happiness: continual expansion. For a person to feel fulfilled one must feel that expansion is occurring. We may not call it that but expansion is a requirement for life. Just as a body of water that doesn’t move becomes stagnant a person must continually expand or become stagnant.

That thing that is the framework that the Universe exists within, some call it God, is continually expanding. Each of us is the same…when we cease to expand, when we no longer have wants, we die. We may die the slow way but stagnation leads to death. The road to a happy life lies in expansion and we expand happily into things we are interested in. Thus, the Kindness Paradigm encourages people to find their passion. The Kindness Paradigm also encourages the rearranging or rewriting of governing laws and rules to support the pursuit of people’s passions.

There is a certain wholeness in one’s work and one’s life being joyfully intertwined. One faces the work day with enthusiasm if one expects to be occupied doing something they enjoy.

In the Kindness Paradigm one walk’s out the door every morning with enthusiasm rather than as if one is being sent off to one’s death. And if by chance one does go out the door feeling as though one is headed to their death someone notices, cares and helps one set the day back on track. If one cannot get back on track one is gently nurtured through the day in a way that mitigates the damage one unintentionally creates for oneself.

By providing an environment in which we nurture and support the development and expression of people’s talents and interests we help people move into their wholeness.

If one considers the whole of humanity a jigsaw puzzle and each person, each animal, each rock or tree a puzzle piece then we need every person developed into their wholeness so the puzzle piece they are helps to create a beautiful picture. For each person that does not develop into their wholeness, for each animal, rock or tree that is abused or treated with disrespect the picture as a whole is that much less beautiful.

Cheryl Jensen December 22, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Higgins on Abortion

Posted on December 22, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     Dear Higgins – Christmas greetings!!!

This has been a strange Christmas preparation time.  In the midst of pondering the birth of Jesus I have been involved with discussions around abortion.   There are those who are having to make difficult life decisions regarding following through on pregnancy.   Options of abortion, adoption, raising a child are present.   From your realm what does abortion look like, and mean?      Here on earth abortion is tangled up in moral, emotional, physical, and spiritual concerns.   It is a choice that has many consequences, affecting both the mom, the dad, and wider family.   Please give some coaching on how to think about abortion in the widest sense of freedom and responsibility.

Is it a mute point to suggest that if Mary had decided to abort Jesus the world would have missed a great teacher/human being?   Is this even a relevant point?

Thanks for taking this question on, Higgins.  I am glad for you to reframe the questions  so you can respond to them more accurately.

Higgins:     From our perspective the game of life has no wrong moves. There are plays made that feel better inside and there are plays made that feel worse, but none are wrong and that includes the choice to terminate a pregnancy.

To review one’s life and, with perfect hindsight, allow that if only this had been done then I would not be in this situation now is not a helpful one. One must only make forward plays in the game of life. So, if right now a woman chooses to terminate a pregnancy because to carry the pregnancy through to fruition carries with it an unbearable heart burden then from our perspective she is making a good choice.

Fear is a huge motivator, bigger even than anger. By returning to center and allowing the eternal power that she is to flow fully she can move away from fear. If she is able to regain her place of center she may well find other options to be equally viable.

To return to center remind her to direct her flow of energy from head to toe. Allow the full flow of energy to ground in the Earth.

As regards the fetus:

Each of you is eternal. The soul that is perceived as ‘I’ does not usually jump into the body until the moment of birth, although there are quite a few eager souls who jump in early.

Each of you comes forth with plans for spiritual expansion. Who is to say that a soul awaiting a body is not desirous of learning to wait? And what better sort of assistance than for the potential mother to terminate the pregnancy?

We remind you that in the pre-birth time plans are often made far in advance. Additionally, while you are in physical there is a portion of sleep time dedicated to planning each next portion of life. A potential mother considering abortion would, in her dream time, be communicating with the potential child. The child would know what was happening as it played out and would be agreeable to the situation.

Jesus was committed to a life on Earth. Jesus’ pre-birth agreement was to come forth and share what it is to be human as fully as possible. He chose parents who could and would assist him with living into the fullest expression of this goal.

Friend, have you considered that Jesus, in a life experience prior to being Jesus, was aborted? Of course he was. Most of you have been aborted either intentionally or by spontaneous abortion at least once.

All of that notwithstanding any woman, any person, can instantly regain their emotional footing by drawing their energy back to center. What a marvelous expansion for this woman if she can do this and carry the pregnancy to term. Her life would be, by necessity, a series of centering to pull herself away from fear and into her center. Beautiful, yes?

What a blessed problem to have. One to be cherished.

Much love is held for you and for her here, in the non-physical realm. Regardless of her choice the most important thing for her is to go forth centering and re-centering. You do see the beauty of this expansion situation? Whether she aborts the fetus or keeps the fetus she will be ‘forced’ to center and re-center to maintain her happiness throughout life. Magnificent game, life. And masterful pre-planning on the potential mother’s part for her to achieve her desired soul expansion during this life on Earth.

Received December 22, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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Not Allowing Another to Play the Part of Victim

Posted on December 21, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     On the topic of ‘Victims’. I invariably make people angry when I hold the philosophy that there are no victims and that to look at someone or ourselves as if they/we are is dis-empowering. Also when I feel someone playing the part of a victim or sympathizing with someone as if they are a victim it can raise my ire.
So my question is also related to compassion. Compassion as I see it…is not feeling sorry for someone, but is more useful as an empowering practice. For example; recently I had someone living with me who was really playing into the role of a victim, thinking they could shirk responsibilities and consideration because of their “special’ problems or circumstances. I responded in a way that was not ‘feeling sorry’ or could have been looked at as being insensitive, by bringing up their responsibilities and lack of consideration. I felt as though I was being compassionate (even as I was angry with them for their wanting to be a victim) by not treating them ‘special’ as if they had a problem or were a victim.
They did not get it and I just looked and sort of felt like a bully (at first). But does that make sense what I am saying.
what are your thoughts on that.. Showing compassion and empowering victims….

Higgins:     We find it understandable that a person would feel angry at first, upon hearing a new idea that shakes and shatters long-held belief. Your society spends a good deal of time and energy finding victims and victimizers and glorifying them on television, in books and in the news. Virtually all of you with access to these sources has some level of belief that there are those who are somehow bad, or at least do bad things, to undeserving others.

When a person first becomes aware of thoughts or beliefs not their own these new ideas can often feel scary. We remind the reader that fear is a very low vibration and the program humans operate within is to always move toward the higher vibration. Whether consciously or unconsciously all of you do this. In this situation, anger is the higher vibration.

This being so, we suggest that the asker of this question learn to applaud the recipient in their unconscious effort to feel better. Moving towards feeling better is the most important thing any of you ever do. Let them go ahead and be mad. The asker would remain stable, centered in their own flow of energy. Allow the storm to blow past. Then proceed with compassion.

(From post April 7, 2012–Compassion is an emotion in the vibrational range of love and deep appreciation and encompasses the emotion of deep understanding. Develop compassion by directing your thoughts towards gentle understanding and acceptance of the world around you.)

We acknowledge that sometimes proceeding with compassion doesn’t work and firing back in anger does work. We do not encourage this. However, like vibrations attract like vibrations and a person who is feeling the part of victim may not be able to meet compassion but could meet anger. Then, from anger a mutual understanding could occur.

The most important understanding we wish you to take away from this response is an individual is always best moving towards what feels better. To sink to ire and anger is negatively impactful to the asker of this question. In the above situation the disrespect and lack of consideration on the part of the ‘victim’ should never lead the other into mis-creating. Hold steady in compassion. Gently yet firmly state your story. The other must conform or move out of the house but the asker must remain steady. The asker may not allow the disrespect and lack of consideration to continue because those two things do not synch with his stable and unremitting emission of compassion and caring.

In this way, the asker can show compassion–be compassion–and yet not empower the other in their ‘victim’ mode while empowering them towards their wholeness.

Received December 21, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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The Kindness Paradigm (14)

Posted on December 15, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

Finding Our Spiritual Gifts

Higgins said in a recent post, “The single most important aspect of human happiness is the discovery of and subsequent expression of a person’s spiritual gifts. Thus the focus of the system and indeed, the climate of world culture, must be to support the discovery and development of each child’s gifts, even if the child is 109.”

As a planet, as a world society, we are consumed by a ubiquitous desire for change, something that leads us away from the current trend of domination into a new paradigm where the standard is participation.  Change starts as desire and manifests when that desire becomes a clear vision. Our common vision within the Kindness Paradigm focuses on the development of personal gifts supported by the virtues of kindness and compassion.

A personal gift or spiritual gift is something each of us is born with. It is a talent, a thing we have a love for or some persistent interest. It is our passion. We may or may not have obvious talent for our gift at first. What we have is interest. This is a thing that causes us to perk up when we think about it or to feel down when we think about the opposite of it.

Finding one’s spiritual gift is about finding one’s passion. It is about finding one’s happiness because happy people thrive.

See http://stress.about.com/od/happinessandpositivity/a/happiness_and_health.htm for an article regarding happiness in relation to health and prosperity. The article references the following sources:

Sources:
Borysenko, J.  Minding the body, mending the mind.  Hay House Publications, 2007.
Holden, R. Be happy: release the power of happiness in you. Hay House Publications, 2009.
Peterson, C. A primer in positive psychology. Oxford University Press, Inc., (2006).
Seligman, M. E. P. Authentic happiness: Using the new positive psychology to realize your potential for lasting fulfillment.  Free Press, (2002). 

We discover our gifts by following our interests through to their natural conclusion. Some of us have gifts that are obvious early on. A four year old violin virtuoso is one of these. Most, however, are not so obvious nor so obviously marketable. As is true from time to time, we don’t know what we want until we see it so these not so obviously marketable skills will find a welcome reception once humanity sees them.

By helping one another discover their gift, their passion, their joy we are creating happiness. In so doing, we create a world where everyone, regardless of age, IQ or physical ability is an active participant. Expansion is part of the continual evolution of humans and it is expected that each of us will find that our talent forever expands into something new. This unfolding is desirable, creating the opportunity to continually evolve and expand into happiness.

Cheryl Jensen, December 15, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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Clarification on Comet Ison

Posted on December 14, 2013 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     What kind of player was it (Comet Ison)? Some say that it was re-seeding earth with new organisms as it might have done had all mankind been wiped off the face of the Earth possibly. Any of that ring true?

Higgins:     Seeding can happen that way. Let us suppose for a moment that nuclear holocaust destroyed all living things and damaged the topography of Earth. The nuclear radiation would be allowed to degrade. A massive ice chunk embedded with living organisms could then be ‘launched’ towards Earth or other receiving planet. Plants and small living organisms would then populate the Earth. When it was once again habitable for animals and humans then those species would be brought in by hosts who would nurture them until they were able to care for themselves.

Comet ISON was more like a space iceberg. It calved and in its travels was flung around your sun.

Received December 11, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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