Offering from Higgins:
Each year as the old year ends and the new one begins many of you resolve to make changes in your life. If you resolve to do anything this year we suggest you resolve to relax about life. Life is intended to be fun and easy and no matter where you find yourself in life today, struggling against your situation will not help you. Worrying will not help you. Do your best, then relax. Relaxing will help you.
Received December 31, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Note from Cheryl: I asked Higgins whether any of our energy attunement music meditations would be useful or appropriate for helping this child sleep better. Their suggestion for her is to start with Earthbliss Relaxation. It is an easy positive vibration to achieve.
If any of you are not familiar with these meditations, we’ve asked Higgins to help us achieve vibrational frequencies equal to things that we want like peace, harmony in our lives, and the new Earth frequency. We’ve recorded some of these vibrations and put music to them.
Try the versions posted at higginsandco.bandcamp.com for versions with conversational meditation cues from Higgins or meditationvibrations.com if you prefer the music without conversation. You are encouraged to listen freely on the respective websites.
We also have a new set of mediations to music in the works expected to be available in 2013.
Note: The first and second segments of this response were posted December 19 and 24, 2012 respectively. If you would like to read the question in its entirety see the response from December 19.
Question: How can I help my daughter sleep through the night? I realize I cannot do this for her, but perhaps there is some insight you can shed upon her intense anxiety. Am I doing the right thing by insisting that she sleep in her own bed? Am I doing the right thing by falling asleep with her at bedtime?
Higgins: In the first segment of our response on how to help your daughter sleep through the night we suggested making a nighttime routine of exercising gently for just 10 minutes one hour before bedtime. The second aspect is to help her develop a stable flow of energy from her personal source. To assist with establishing this flow we recommended adding meditation to the evening bedtime routine.
The next step is to explain that she is dominant here in this physical place. She gets to choose what she experiences here. Most of you don’t know how to do that so we will describe this.
Every rock, tree, animal, person, slab of concrete and drop of water emits a vibrational signal 24/7. One aspect of the vibration defines you as you, sort of like a name. Mary is not the same as Tom just as Mary’s vibration says Mary and Tom’s vibration says Tom.
Taking this a step further, this vibration describes dog from cat and one dog from another dog. This same vibration is offered by grains of sand defining sand as sand and one grain of sand from any other grain of sand.
At the same time each of you emits this unique identifying vibration you also emit a vibration relative to how you feel about the world around you. If Mary and Tom have an argument Mary’s vibration still says Mary, but it also says Mary is discordant with Mary’s True Being.
Every thought, word or action that is committed by any human, dog or grain of sand anywhere on Earth or indeed anywhere throughout the Universe carries with it a vibrational equivalent. These waves zip about unseen. Though unseen they are not unnoticed. Adults usually learn to tune out but children tend to be especially susceptible to these energy waves.
In some ways this is good news because these young ones still connect with the More that exists. However, because so much of this energy is negative it can be very frightening. Children tend to notice ghosts and feel uneasy and frightened at bedtime because that is the time when their mind quiets down heading for sleep mode.
These vibrational waveforms are much like radio signals. When you choose to listen to a particular radio station you simply turn the dial to the number you want. It is the same with this scenario. You must assure your child that she has the ability to choose the ‘station’ she wants to listen to. Explain that thinking about happy things helps. Even more helpful is your daughter’s intentional choices. She must learn to intend good things.
For example, just prior to your bedtime meditation make an evening game of choosing all happy things she wants to experience. You may suggest, “I want to feel happy. I want to think nice thoughts about Grandma and Grandpa and Daddy. I want to have fun at school tomorrow.” Stronger verbiage, “I choose to feel happy. I choose to feel close to Grandma and Grandpa and Daddy. I choose to have fun at school tomorrow.”
Whether your daughter chooses to meditate or not, these directives to the Universe will set in motion more positive experiences for her.
If she chooses to meditate in addition to the game of positive choices then her Broader Being and Spirit Guides will help her tune in to these positive frequencies.
Do you remember the dial radios where tuning the dial to a number only meant you were close to the desired station but then you also needed to do some fine tuning, including maybe moving an antenna, to get the station of choice to come in clearly? Making clear statements of choice is akin to dialing in the desired station. Meditation with clear intent for outcome is akin to tuning into the station so it is received as clearly as possible.
Friend, we feel these three segments answer your question. If you need clarification upon any aspect please ask. Further, incorporate these three suggestions into a pleasant evening routine as she is able. While she may accept all these suggestions quickly and easily the way a sponge absorbs water, she may also exhibit resistance from time to time. Your job is simply to make it as fun, easy and seamless as possible.
Received December 26, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Note: I will post a separate addendum to ‘How can I help my daughter sleep through the night?’ with links to some meditation music that may be helpful for this.
Question: My question is me and my husband divorced 2 months ago and now he’s back and he says that he still loves me but he wants to live alone to find himself. We are still married in Morocco. I’m confused by this and I need a strong commitment hand and heart should I close my door to him.
Higgins: Let’s talk for a moment about energy vampires. Vampires are said to suck the blood of their victims so they themselves can live. Energy vampires suck the energy off people so they have the needed energy to live.
There are no victims in real life. Nevertheless, there are people we describe as energy vampires who suck the energy off other people because they have not learned to draw steadily and reliably from their own energetic source. And there are people who get energy sucked away and simply do not know how to stop it.
This is happening in your case. Your husband leaves, finds he is not getting enough energy from other sources, remembers how on some level he felt better with you than he now feels without you and now wants you back.
What he is doing is setting up the opportunity to feed off your energy while not actually committing to a relationship with you.
Love is an emotion that encompasses a supportive and nurturing environment. If he claims he cannot find himself within the ‘love’ he claims to have for you then what he feels for you is not love.
We suggest that you have given all the energy that you possibly can. That is why the relationship fell apart. When the energy giver finally runs dry, the giver is exhausted and worn and the taker is empty also and must go looking for another source of energy.
In the beginning of a relationship the energy exchange is mutually supportive. Soon, the vampire begins to need more than they give. When the giver runs dry the taker leaves to find a new source. Unless and until both parties in a relationship learn to draw from their own source and then share their respective light sustainably relationships like this will eventually become unsatisfying for both parties.
From our perspective, whether you try to reconnect with your ex-husband or not is completely irrelevant relative to the broader learning that is available. Whether you reconcile with him or not you must learn to control your own energy. Every single time you feel emotionally unstable or unsure you must redirect your energy flow from head to earth. You must do it every time.
He will wonder why you feel so distant. You will feel distant to him because you will not be feeding him in the way he is used to. He will wonder what is wrong with you. He will blame you for problems in the relationship. You must stand your energetic ground. Period.
Whether you are in relationship with him or whether you let the relationship go entirely you must stand your energetic ground.
You will find yourself in this. You will find Truth about you in this. Perhaps he too will find his Truth in this but he will not find his Truth if you keep feeding him. Life is meant to be fun and to flow easily. Stabilizing your energy will improve every aspect of life for you because life happens fun and easily when your energetic flow is sure and steady.
Practice this until you understand it. Eventually your energy will be so clean and true that all your relationships will become more harmonious.
Received December 25, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Note: This is a lengthy question that Higgins is answering in segments. The first response was posted December 19, 2012 if you would like to read the question in its entirety.
Question: How can I help my daughter sleep through the night? I realize I cannot do this for her, but perhaps there is some insight you can shed upon her intense anxiety. Am I doing the right thing by insisting that she sleep in her own bed? Am I doing the right thing by falling asleep with her at bedtime?
Higgins: In the first segment of our response on how to help your daughter sleep through the night we suggested making a nighttime routine of exercising gently for just 10 minutes one hour before bedtime. We encourage all physicals to make this practice a habit until you depart your respective physical bodies.
Each of you is illuminated by a broader, non-physical aspect of yourself. We would not go so far as to describe you as a puppet yet without the flow of energy offered by this Broader Self you could not move or think.
This Broader you focuses energy right around your head and the energy flows towards the Earth in much the same way water flows downhill. Most of you do not understand that you are eternal beings with each their own source of illumination. A strong flow of energy is needed to feel good, safe and whole.
Throughout the Universe exists a matrix and all things flow along these lines. In a similar manner, each of you develops ties to all whom you come into contact with. Those who are primary in your life have stronger ties to you than mere acquaintances usually have.
The mother-child bond is typically extremely strong because the child is completely dependent for the first years of life. (The ties may be father-child or guardian-child.) As the child becomes confident in their place in the world around them they begin to draw more on their own energetic source and less on the parental ties.
What has happened for your daughter is that for whatever reason, likely she feels unstable in her home and/or school situation, she needs the extra energy you have been providing. When you decide you need space she will feel a distancing of that energetic bond and that creates anxiety simply because she is not drawing fully from her own energetic source.
We will insert here that you have helped create this energetic flow. As you heal emotionally and your own energy comes back into proper alignment you no longer need her energy but she still needs yours. (And by the way, healthy energetic bonds are desirable. A balanced parent-child bond is a lovely thing to nurture through the physical years. Healthy, balanced bonds allow energy to flow both ways in a sustainable, supportive manner.)
What you need to do next is help your daughter develop her own energetic flow. If she will sit with you before bedtime for a little meditation where you find a gentle way to instruct her on energetic flow and then the two of you practice together…that would be a wonderful step two. (Step one being the exercise routine.)
Another technique to practice is to envision her feeling confident. Envision her marching confidently off to bed by herself and you follow later to tuck her in and say good-night. That sort of envisioning will assist her if she is ready to grab onto that vibration.
Remember, you are creating an evening ritual that includes solid time together to exercise, read a sleepy-time book and perhaps meditate if she can. The one-on-one time will help her develop the confidence to branch out on her own. If evening time is spent in the same room but not together any energetic bolstering you offer will be weak and insufficient. We are not suggesting that every moment should be spent with your daughter. We are suggesting that you develop a 60 minute nightly routine that includes exercise, bedtime preparation, reading together time and meditative quiet time.
Bring a chair very close to the bed and sit there for the meditation rather than on the bed itself. If she needs you to fall asleep with her (as you’ve established this as a pattern) then go ahead and do that for a while.
Begin gently incorporating this evening ritual. Children readily understand things like energy flow so explain to her how energy flows and explain that she will feel stronger and better as she practices this each evening.
Again, practice this and we will offer the next step soon.
Received December 24, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Higgins produces amazing energy through me. We have been able to record that energy and musician Bill Wolford set it to music. Each energetic meditation assists the listener in achieving the energetic vibration of the piece. At http://higginsandco.bandcamp.com we have a recording that contains three musical meditations; Harmonizing Vibrations, Raising Vibrations and Earthbliss Relaxation.
If you will sit in a relaxed way with (the best you are able) feet upon the floor, hands relaxed at your sides and eyes closed these meditations will assist you first in harmonizing with your surroundings. In other words, relaxing into your life just the way it is with all its warts and strange happy things. Then Raising Vibrations will help raise your energetic vibration to the highest it can achieve right now. Meaning, it may be higher one day and lower another day but always the best you can do at any given time.
In the Earthbliss Relaxation meditation Higgins works with the Earth itself to offer the energetic frequency that the Earth is moving to in the 2012 shift, or the Shift of the Ages. Listening to this one simply brings you into alignment with the new Earth Energy.
It’s very easy to meditate this way. Simply sit as described above and allow your own energy and the energy of Higgins to flow harmoniously through you. To allow energy to flow this way simply say you wish it to be so, either out loud or with your mind’s voice.
There are more such energetic meditations at Bill Wolford’s site, http://meditationvibrations.com.
If you are looking for more information from Higgins check out Higgins’ developing website, higginsandcompany.net.
We are not currently available for private sessions.
Note: This is a lengthy question that Higgins will answer in segments.
Question: Hello Cheryl & Higgins,
Thanks for your wonderful insights that have helped guide me through these turbulent times.
My question has to do with my eight year old daughter. Since she was a baby, I have either allowed her to sleep in my bed or I have fallen asleep with her in her bed. Now she expects this and when I need rest in my own bed, in my own space, she often protests by refusing to sleep. As a result she is experiencing anxiety, particularly at night.
I have tried my best to comfort her without anger and assure her that she is safe. But this week, as we draw near to 12/12/12 her anxiety has increased to an unbearable level and she says she is scared of ghosts. I have explained to her that she may be sensing the anxiety of the planet as we all move through this shift in consciousness, and that seems to help. Unfortunately as my sleep is interrupted I become a little selfish and I allow anger to flow, and I feel myself lose control. Of course this doesn’t help and I feel it creates a cycle where she is the victim and I the aggressor.
How can I help my daughter sleep through the night? I realize I cannot do this for her, but perhaps there is some insight you can shed upon her intense anxiety. Am I doing the right thing by insisting that she sleep in her own bed? Am I doing the right thing by falling asleep with her at bedtime?
Thank you.
Higgins: To help your daughter sleep through the night let’s start with some very basic information regarding the body. The body conducts energy from your Broader Being all day every day. Sometimes this energy gets pent up inside and comes out as negative behavior, anxiety, illness and other negative expressions like inability to sleep.
We suggest you initiate a new pattern before bedtime. About one hour before heading to bed find a fun way for the two of you to exercise together. Only 10 or 15 minutes of gentle exercise will help release that stuck energy in both of you.
Encourage exercise that includes both upper and lower portions of your body and some gentle stretching. For example, take a walk around the block and while walking raise the arms up and down. Every so often stop to touch toes and stretch up to the stars.
If going outside is not feasible then march in place and do some push ups. Then do some stretching, too.
Avoid running and jumping jacks or other things that greatly stimulate the heart. The idea is to stimulate energetic flow and release energy but not to create extra energy as cardiovascular exercise will do. (Save that for a 10 or 15 minute morning routine that will help with daytime behavior.)
(Really what we mean is to find a fun and accessible equivalent to these ideas.)
This will help to immediately release some of the anxiety she carries into the sleep time.
We will discuss a more metaphysical aspect to help your daughter sleep with our next response but this is the best place to start. Do not try to change anything else for now, just add 10 minutes of gentle exercise one hour before bedtime.
Received December 19, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Question: Yeah… Does Higgins have any advice as far as taking advantage of the energies during this time? Do they see any significance from their persepective or is it all our own making mountains out of mole hills? 🙂 just curious if you’d asked them.
Higgins: Absolutely take advantage of the energies circulating at ‘this time’. Let us clarify that ‘at this time’ refers to current planetary alignments, moon phases, etc… in addition to the general energetic shift occurring that is variously being called the Shift of the Ages, the End of the World, or generically 2012 and specifically December 21, 2012.
The whole point, in essence, of this Shift of the Ages is to stimulate you physicals towards a reconnection with your eternal spirit.
The ‘energies right now’ are likely appearing as mental and physical urges.
Our advice is to listen to those pressing urges that say, “This _______________ (whatever It is) is not right for me. I know in my very core that something is wrong with this and I am going to begin right now making changes. While perhaps my brain right now cannot clearly name what is right, this is wrong, and I will begin making changes in myself. Surely, if I make small changes in myself that feel more right than this does then I will eventually become clear about who I choose to be (and more importantly how I choose to be) in the world.”
If your pressing urges tell you this (whatever It is) is right for me then we encourage you to follow-up on that.
Mankind is in a sorting process right now. The energetic offerings stimulate desire to return to something unnamed. As a whole, and as unique individuals, mankind is deciphering who they are and who they wish to become. Pay attention to current events to find out who you are not and from there you will discover who you are.
To answer the further part of your question, are you physicals making mountains out of mole hills, certainly not.
The vibrational shift within the Earth that is the Shift of the Ages is forcing mankind to choose. The difficulty is there really are no clear directions for what is happening available to the masses. This energetic shift causes great distress for some because they do not understand the possible choices.
What you see playing out as a result of this tremendous energetic turmoil is shootings, bombings, fighting, domestic violence, financial disharmony, hunger…we can go on and on. What we’d like you to understand is this energetic turmoil is forcing you to make a choice. Will you choose to seek harmony within yourself or will you not?
If you will not choose the path that leads to inner harmony (life) then by default you choose disharmony. Disharmony leads to death whether literal or metaphorical. While this sounds dramatic this teaching is the core at the Shift of the Ages.
If we gave only one clue as to how life works we’d tell you to seek inner harmony. All else will follow.
Received December 17, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Question: Why doesn’t my wife like me?
Higgins: People are drawn together or pushed apart in much the same way two magnets when matched up will pull themselves together or push themselves apart depending on which side of the magnets are facing.
When you and your wife came together you were exhibiting like vibrations in some way and these vibrations pulled you towards one another. This is easy to understand because when dating, each of you is looking at and concentrating on all the nice things about the other person. Once familiarity sets in it is easy to begin noticing the not so nice things.
Whatever a person concentrates upon, that is the point of attraction so if your wife concentrates on the nice things about you she draws you to her. If however, she concentrates on the not so nice things then she metaphorically flips the magnet over and then, by the laws of the Universe, she begins to repel you.
The Universal Law that both draws things together and repels them from one another is completely impartial. It is much like a computer: the computer can only do what it is programmed to do and whether you get the response you want or you don’t get the response you want makes no difference to the computer.
Since the Universal Law is completely impartial it can only do what you tell it to do and you give directions based on the emotions you emit. The Universal responses to the emotions you emit are exquisitely designed and timed just for you regardless of whether the data you entered is what you intended to enter.
At the time you and your wife came together you were emitting a frequency that was equal to the frequency she emitted so you drew together like magnets. The desires and interests of humans continually evolve. Humans seek growth so it is understandable that the frequency you both emitted then may have changed over time. In everyday life this means that the thoughts and emotions your wife carries are no longer in harmony with the thoughts and emotions you carry. Often we hear this described as ‘growing apart’ and this is a very apt description.
In order to grow together again simply seek the same frequency. Some people reconnect by finding common interests. We encourage you to start with something more basic.
First, find something to like about your wife everyday and quietly and discreetly admire that thing for a few moments.
Second, hold your own energy stable regardless of whether she is liking or disliking you in any given moment. Hold your energy stable by directing your energy to flow from just above the head to just below the feet. Ask your energy to flow in harmony with a pleasurable life experience. It will. It will also shift and change relative to your thoughts and emotions all day long so realign as often as needed throughout the day.
Stabilizing one’s energy is important because whether humans are aware or not, they feel the energy emitted by others and respond to it. When you stop emitting a vibration that says, ‘My wife doesn’t like me,’ she will not be so drawn to act as though she doesn’t like you.
These two things will help to stabilize your relationship. If you can find common ground once again then the relationship can continue to grow. Sometimes, the emotional point of attraction that each of you emitted when you came together has changed so much that it is impossible to find common ground and the relationship continues to crumble.
Either way, you will have developed clarity regarding relationships. If you will practice remaining energetically stable while enjoying life as it currently is you will enter clearer data into the Universal computer thus drawing towards you an enjoyable life on all levels, including a more harmonious relationship, whether with your current wife or someone else.
Received December 9, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Question: The question surrounds what to do when your husband is not compassionate.
Higgins: The quality and happiness filling your life has nothing to do with your husband. You are the only person creating your life experience and while it is nice when others make it easy for you by behaving the way you want them to, in the end you and only you create your life.
In this instance if your husband would display compassion his compassion would help you feel better simply because you would not have to work so hard to maintain your own energetic integrity. However, you cannot control his responses so you must control your own.
We suggest that when another does not respond the way you wish them to, consider your own part in the play. Likely you are pretending to be some kind of victim and want others to agree so you can feel better. But you are not a victim. If you are not a victim (and none ever are) then there is a solution. The solution, the answer, is always available from within yourself and always within your power to accomplish.
If upon review of the situation you discover that your husband may have done well to exhibit compassion in that instance then the solution (again entirely within your power) is for you yourself to exhibit compassion for your husband, a beautiful, gracious, kind, loving soul who has lost his ability to feel and express compassion.
We encourage you to see this as a growth opportunity and embrace it as such.
Received December 6, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
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