How Do We Cope In A World Of Unkindness?

Question:  I do think that I was brought up to be kind to people.  I think it is a huge source of stress, frustration, that most people I meet are not kind.  That stress can cause and has caused health problems in me and in some other folks who were raised to be kind.  I do agree that for the most part the majority of the world does not have the kindness paradigm.  However, for those of us who do, or did, or have a little of it, how do we cope in the world of mostly  “not kind” folks????

Higgins: This question is a tempestuous sea of energy. Let’s try to sort it out. And Friend, read this slowly, sentence by sentence and paragraph by paragraph.

There are exceedingly few of you whose parents, or those doing the child rearing, do not make some attempt to teach kindness to their charges. However, in a society that has no kindness paradigm how can kindness be taught? Few of you know what it is to be kind and there is significant difference between kind acts and kindness. Kind acts can be taught and learned but kindness comes from inside.

So when you say most people you meet are not kind we’d suggest that what you are experiencing is someone (with perhaps exactly the same understanding of kindness that you have) who failed, in your presence, to express the kind acts they’ve been taught.

Genuine kindness and compassion is part of each of your Truths. This physical place is often scary and stressful for the harshness is out of synch with the very foundation of what you are. Though it is certain that carrying around incompatible vibration eventually leads to illness and dis-ease, illness is not developing in you because others are not kind. Illness and disease develop because you have forgotten to hold fast to your own Truth. You simply may not lay the blame of your ill-health on another for any reason.

To cope in a harsh world, one that overflows with behavior that is out of synch with Truth, one must develop compassion–for true kindness is a reflection of compassion. And that is how you cope. You develop compassion. You reflect true kindness. Then the universe will reflect the Truth you express right back at you, which is all it ever does anyway.

Received January 15, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Why Do We Treat the People Closest to Us the Worst?

Question: Why do we treat the people closest to us the worst?

Higgins: Let’s start by saying that not all of you do treat the people you are closest to the worst. But most of you do at least sometimes and many of you do so habitually.

The short answer is that you do it because the other person allows you to do so. If the other person stood firmly in their Truth they would never allow any sort of mistreatment to occur. They would always seek to maintain a clean vibration in their own right, but when their own vibrational offering falters (and inevitably it does sometimes) then a person standing firmly in their Truth would, with great kindness, ask you to treat them better. And if they could not clean up their vibration quickly enough to keep from receiving verbal or physical abuse they would simply and gracefully remove themselves from your presence. Remember that in their Truth they would not stoop to an argument with you for that is too low a vibration.

However, nothing that occurs between you physicals is for one, it is always for both. That means your vibration is also coming into play. You would not treat the other badly if you did not allow yourself to do so by holding yourself apart from your own Truth. In Truth, none of you ever treat another badly. So what happens is that each of you has deviated from your Truth and have been drawn together in matching vibration. One of you is ready to treat another badly and one of you is ready to be treated badly. Really, you’re a perfect match.

When one party attempts to clean up their vibration and move towards treating others better or towards being treated better the other will instigate more and more situations to abuse or be abused and they do it unknowingly since there is an unseen need to match vibrations. The person who consciously shifts towards the higher vibration must be the emotional leader and not backslide as the other unwittingly seeks to maintain the abusive status quo. (This also explains why a person would move from one abusive relationship to another.)

Received January 8, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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The Universe Conspires Towards Your Greatest Good

Offering from Higgins:

The Universe conspires towards your greatest good. So think to yourself not, “What is this person doing to me?” Instead think, “What is this person doing for me?”

Received January 5, 2012 at Everett, Washington

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Fall-back Vibrational Level

Question:  You said that we have a base line vibratory level and that is the one we tend to fall back on when under stress (?) – did I get that correctly?  And, I can’t read my notes – and you can’t either probably ! but what I wrote was “the fall-back emotion is the easiest one to . . . . .   Then, once you have committed to making your life the best it can be, your broader self helps you meet your lower emotions head on so you can experience them fully.  Can you fill in that blank above??  or restate it in a different way that says the same thing.  Hope this makes sense.

Higgins:

The fall-back emotion is the easiest one to achieve. It rises to the surface the quickest.

Angry is an oft used fall-back emotion. First angry, then after a little time to process, a different and less defensive emotion is offered. Do you see yourself in this, Friend?

Then, once you have committed to making your life the best it can be, your broader self helps you meet your lower emotions head on so you can experience them fully. Emotions that are not experienced fully get stuck in you. Stuck emotions develop into difficult life experiences and eventually into ill-health.

Have you noticed how many times different people do a similar thing to you and it is O so irritating!? That’s because you draw unto you the irritating thing from people who have it to offer. Find your truth in there. Meet it head on. Experience your emotion regarding it fully. Then you will move on into a next higher baseline vibrational level. That is how you move up the emotional scale and that is how you continually improve your life.

And Friend, this is the work of Masters for it stings to look inward and find it was yourself all along who has caused all that pain. Everyone else simply was willing to assist you in every way possible.

Received January 3, 2012 at Everett, Washington

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Conflicts Reveal Areas for Spiritual Growth

Question: Hi Higgins, on Wednesday evening last you all were talking about dealing with people who may not be treating you very kindly.  A statement you made was something like this:  ”  Removing yourself from the situation or person for now may be necessary, but that is a master’s last resort.”  If the other person just won’t be nice or kind and continues to be abusive, then how can that change?  Isn’t it best not to keep going back for more and more abuse and being a victim?  Why is this a last resort instead of a smart move to keep oneself out of that vibrational level?

Higgins: Whenever you are in conflict with another human being what you are actually doing is showing each other your respective spiritual weak spots. If you are in harm’s way then of course we expect you to move out of harm’s way. But if you are not in danger then what we said stands.  A master will listen with compassion to what is being said. A master will find their own truth within the words then clean up their own vibration so that a similar situation will not be drawn into their experience in the future.

Remember, Friend, that a Master shuns no one.

Received January 3, 2012 at Everett, Washington

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Finding Solutions

Offering from Higgins:

(Note from Cheryl: this topic regards interpersonal relationships.)

Look for solutions. Solutions are found inside yourself. Solutions do not involve cooperation or agreement from another person. If your solution involves another person then it is not a solution because solutions are always about you and who you are within the context of any given situation.

Whatever your situation, and it may truly seem to be caused by the action (or lack of action) of another person, there is a solution and the solution always lies within self. Solutions are always kind. Solutions always bring relief. Solutions are always available if you are willing to suss them out.

Received January 3, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Compassion is the Answer to Judgement

Offering from Higgins:

Many of you are practicing being non-judgmental. Our knowing is that greater success occurs moving towards something desirable. Pushing away that which you do not want is much like trying to get tape off your fingers. Attempting to pull the tape off just brings it to stick upon a different finger until you find something like the edge of the garbage liner to stick the tape to.

Since life is all about attraction all the while you are thinking about non-judging, judging is sticking to you like the sticky tape. Once you find something else to stick to, it is easy to release the judgment for you are attracted to something else.

Compassion is the answer to judgement. Practice compassion and your judgements will leave you as surely as leaving tape in the garbage by sticking it to the liner.

Received January 2, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Inaugural Day of 2012

Offering from Higgins:

On this inaugural day of 2012 we’d like to make a suggestion. Take a few minutes of your time and choose some words that define your perfect life. Do it this way:

Speak aloud or in your head, “Creator of the Universe and all that dwells within I hereby choose these qualities to enhance my life as it unfolds:” If you choose not to address the Creator directly you may say, ” This is what I intend for my future:”

Then allow your mind a free flow of thought. Words will come to mind such as harmony, grace and fulfilling relationships. Choose all the positive words you want and string it out this way:

“Creator of the Universe and all that dwells within I hereby choose these qualities to enhance my life as it unfolds: harmony, grace, fulfilling relationships, safety, kindness, gentle adventure, compassion, prosperity, pleasure, light-heartedness, ease, laughter, beauty, grace, flexibility, strength, good health, happiness, satisfying friendships.”

Once your flow of words is exhausted stop and allow the universe to absorb your desire. Then go on with your life knowing that all is well and your future now contains your heart’s desires. Walk forward into it with confidence and positive expectation.

Received January 1, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Kindness Paradigm

Offering from Higgins:

The shift you and Earth are experiencing provides an opportunity for a new paradigm on Earth. We encourage you to consider a Kindness Paradigm.

What would a Kindness Paradigm look like?

Think about it.

Received December 29, 2011 at Everett, Washington

Paradigm (definition from Webster’s Dictionary) is an example or model.

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Hard to Throw Old Clothes Away

Question: Why is it so hard to throw old clothes away?

Higgins: Almost always when you have difficulty throwing a thing away, clothes or anything, it is because you have vested energy into the object and throwing it away causes you to lose energy. The energy loss is tangible and that is what causes you to resist tossing those items you are through with.

One option is to thank the item you are ready to release for its good use, bless it on its way and as you place it in the garbage or donation bag ask for the energy you’ve left in it to return to you. It will happen upon the instant and you will feel a degree better.

More rarely, the thing itself has other ideas for its future. All things are sentient and have preference and if that seems to be the case then re-home it when the time is right.

Received December 28, 2011 at Everett, Washington

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