The Kindness Paradigm (13)

Nurturing

In the last post I ended with:

So how do we fix UFJS (Un-Fulfilling Job Syndrome)? We place importance on discovering what we love to do without regard to age, health or ability, or even skill. Then we nurture the expression thereof.

Typically, nurturing is considered a thing we do with babies and little children. By the time we reach adulthood it is somehow expected that we will not need ‘that stuff’ anymore; to need nurturing is to be weak and to nurture is also weak.

In the Kindness Paradigm to nurture means “to help (something or someone) to grow, develop, or succeed.” (Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary accessed November 29, 2013) Certainly, that is not weak. The Kindness Paradigm allows us to re-envision what it is to be human and redefines chic.

Cheryl Jensen, November 29, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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The Kindness Paradigm (12)

Note: segment 11 is un-published awaiting copyright permission.

Un-Fulfilling Job Syndrome

In part 11 we reviewed the steps one may take to develop kindness. However, kindness in and of itself is not the point of the Kindness Paradigm. The point, in a nutshell, is to create happiness.

There are three notable areas where happiness is lacking for many: work, relationships and health.

I am quite certain that work in and of itself does not create misery. Work, I feel, is actually a happy thing…when I’m doing the work of my choice. When I am doing the work of my choice I look forward to getting up in the morning so I can get started and I often wish my body didn’t get tired so I could work later at night.

My dog, Tucker, loves his work and will fetch with enthusiasm any time of day or night. He walks away from food to do his job of fetching tennis balls.

If work itself is desirable and fun how did work become miserable for so many of us?

I believe we suffer from Un-Fulfilling Job Syndrome (UFJS). It is not work that is hateful. What is hateful is working at something that does not provide a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.

Children are often coached in school to think about what sort of jobs they might like to pursue. In the Kindness Paradigm we recognize there is no need to ever stop thinking about what we’d like to be and do. In the Kindness Paradigm others root for our success when we are 12 and wondering what to do and still rooting for us when we are 92 and wondering what to do next.

Each person is born with inherent gifts. In the Kindness Paradigm we want to be happy and we want others to be happy. Knowing this, we develop the gifts of children and adults alike. A person who is happy is a person who thrives so it benefits all of society to help each other find the thing that makes them happy.

Then, when we industriously go about doing that thing we enjoy and are good at we suddenly realize that work and life are the same thing. They are not separate. Life and work in the Kindness Paradigm are better read as life’s work. I don’t mean a person gets to the end of their life road and looks back at ‘their life’s work’ as a summation. Life’s work, in the Kindness Paradigm, means the work that gives you life. Life’s work is one of the things that gives meaning to life and fulfillment to every day.

So how do we fix UFJS? We place importance on discovering what we love to do without regard to age, health or ability, or even skill. Then we nurture the expression thereof.

Cheryl Jensen, November 29, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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Mixed Signals from Greater Self to Transgenders?

Question:     As we are guided by our emotions to do those things that will lead us to fulfill our intentions, formed and agreed upon before we come to physical, is life more difficult for those whose transgender identity is ‘accidental’ rather than intentional? Would there be mixed signals between self and greater self and spirit guides because the pre-physical agreement did not include being transgender?

Higgins:     Intentional transgenders feel powerfully that they are in a body that doesn’t fit them. Accidental (if you will allow us to call it that) transgenders are likely to be cross-dressers simply because they like the ‘feel’ of the opposite sex’ clothing, mannerisms, etc…

There are infinite gradations of all things so one transgender is not necessarily like the other. What is true for all is that the Broader Self will guide you unerringly. The hard part is for Physical Self to master the meaning of their emotions, which have infinite gradations and are sometimes difficult to interpret.

For example, a person who looks in the mirror and sees a fat person and feels bad likely interprets that bad feeling as being ugly or overweight or other negative connotations. What the bad feeling is more likely telling them is they are not caring for their body as they agreed to. Further, when a person feels negative they tend also to feel powerless. One thing none of you is, is powerless. Your emotions will disagree with you every time your thoughts head towards powerless. So you see there can be a significant difference in the meaning as intended by Broader Self v. the interpretation of Physical Self.

The job of the Spirit Guide is as muse, to offer artistic inspiration towards the achievement of those things you desire. Whether your dream is to promote anarchy or harmony, your Spirit Guides are able to assist you with very clever ideas. The ideas they give you will always move you towards your goals. Spirit Guides do not necessarily guide you towards your Truth as the Broader Self does. Spirit Guides offer help and inspiration towards your chosen goals whether or not your chosen goals are in harmony with the Truth of your Being.

The only misleading that occurs is not true misleading but instead the Physical Self misinterpreting the meaning of their negative and positive emotions.

Received November 27, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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Clarification on Animal Spirits and Death

Question:    I hope you are doing well. I very much appreciate the responses.

So, maybe I’m reading this wrong, but Rosie passed because I was unhappy?  I became very depressed about a month before she died.  I always thought that my subconscious /higher/broader self knew the event was coming and that was the cause of the depression.

I’m so happy she was with me but I feel awful for causing her to leave the physical.  She was a great joy in my life.

Did I read the response incorrectly?

Also, (sorry, yet another question!),  Higgins said the choice was, “clearly a connected heart choice.” Does that mean she felt it was best also?

Response from Cheryl:      You should know that it is easiest for Higgins to respond through me the more I know about you and the circumstances. When they connect directly as they did a few times with you I worry that what comes through me will be somehow worded incorrectly or awkwardly.

My understanding is that Rosie came to you to assist you with your connecting to the Whole. You know how it is to love an animal and to know that animal friend without words? That was Rosie helping you. Your agreement with her was that she would leave at a certain point allowing you the opportunity to continue your growth which will expand beyond the here and now into much broader understanding.

So…the time to leave was exactly when she did. You didn’t cause her to leave physical. That was pre-arranged and pre-timed. (This is not so common but still, part of the agreement you had with her.) She had to have a how to leave. She could have died a zillion ways but the easiest was to reflect your emotions either what you were exhibiting or what was (emotionally) coming into your future…dogs are highly clued in like that.

(By the way, you too will benefit by really looking into this so that as a healer you can also see where a person’s health is headed….important for you!)

Do you remember when President Bush number one and  his wife and dog all came down with thyroid disorder in a short time together? (Actually, I think the dog had some other autoimmune disease but it was all three of them in close order.) That is what Higgins is talking about, the dog reads off their closest humans and displays physical evidence of  what their human is experiencing emotionally before the human displays it.

That’s why they said get happy. Think of a happy reason to exist every moment of every day. That way you radiate your best and therefore attract wonderful things all the time. Note that she still would have left. That was pre-agreed.

Blessings on you as you incorporate this. When you understand it fully you will find beauty and freedom rather than sadness. Keep asking questions until then.

Cheryl Jensen, November 27, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

Regarding Higgins statement that you made a ‘clearly connected heart choice’ they meant clear as in crystal clear. You made a right choice from your heart for you and for her. She knew and appreciated your choice. Also, it made her happy to understand your were able to connect clearly with your heart wisdom.

If I didn’t get this clear please keep asking. I’ll check in with Higgins about it again as many times as are needed. When Higgins says something that stings there is always a brilliant area of growth awaiting.

Bright Blessings,

Cheryl

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Different Meanings of the Term ‘Soul Group’

Question:      Would they mind explaining the different meanings of soul groups?

Higgins:     We have not used the term ‘soul group’ up to now because there is more than one understanding for its meaning thus its use is unclear. Let us now try to make clarification upon the topic.

When Source (that which many of you refer to as God) began expanding and creating it created seven ‘sons’. Every one of you physicals descends from one of these seven sons in a sort of massive genealogical family tree. Each of these lineages could be called a soul group.

Higgins is a name for a group of beings and the essential, or starting point, of Higgins is one of these seven sons.

Each of you physicals is eternal and each of you has a Broader Self that stays non-physical and guides you on this life experience according to some pre-agreed upon guidelines. You also have friends that in a way are extensions of you and at the same time are completely separate consciousness. These are your Spirit Guides when you are in physical. You act as their Spirit Guide when one of them incarnates.

These could also be called soul groups.

When you make plans to come into physical other souls agree to participate with you. For example, your parents agree to be your parents. Often, you know who your siblings will be, certainly those born first are known to you.

Family units including aunts, uncles, cousins often participate with you because the direction of their learning (spiritual expansion) coincides with yours. The major teachers in your life are almost always souls with whom you have made a pre-birth agreement. Friends, some co-workers, many souls participate with you based on pre-agreements and this also may be called a soul group.

Received November 25, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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Do Animal Spirits Incarnate with Soul Groups?

Question:     Do animal spirits frequently incarnate with soul groups? The soul group I’m referencing is a group of beings that tend to incarnate together as physicals.

Higgins:     Animal spirits do incarnate with soul groups. More frequently they incarnate with souls. For example, your dog, Rosie, (see Animal Spirits and Death posted November 23, 2013) came into this life experience to be with you. She’s been with you in many life experiences and the two of you came together this time knowing you could make a special connection.

In this lifetime, you have  committed to blending your physical understanding with your eternal knowing in a more substantial way than you have ever achieved before. Pets are very good for assisting in this connection. Rosie has helped you feel a connection and know her without words. This foundation will help you make fuller and more substantial connections with people (your patients) than you could have without her help.

She had to leave now to allow you to continue your studies and expand into the person she agreed to help you become. She died the way she did in response to your own unhappiness, anxiety and feelings of overwhelm. (And Friend, your response to her medical condition was a clearly connected heart choice.)

You must find your happiness every day. Before you get out of bed find the reason you go to class today. Any of you reading this: find the reason you do whatever it is you do today. Find a reason that makes your heart swell with happiness. To move forward in fear or frustration or anxiety is to create a negative force field around yourself. Subconsciously, everyone participating in your life reads this and responds. Dogs respond most especially and physically reflect back your emotions (the force field each of you radiates) fairly quickly as their health condition.

Received November 25, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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On Animal’s Spirits and Death

Question:    On December 1st of last year, I had to put my “dog soulmate” to sleep.  It was honestly one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do.

She was ill, though we did not know, and her health declined very rapidly.  The series of events leading up to my decision to let her go happened over a mere few hours.  Even though it was my decision, I feel like she was ripped out of my life.  I couldn’t bear to put her through a treatment plan that would make her suffer just so that I could have a few more weeks with her.

I know many people that think I’m silly for missing a pet so much but we had a truly special bond.

I have a few questions about this.  Are animal spirits different from human spirits?  Where do our beloved pets go when they pass?  I know that my dog, Rosie, has come to visit a few times so she’s out there somewhere, but where?  And finally, why have I had such a hard time dealing with the loss?  Do animal spirits frequently incarnate with soul groups?

Higgins:     Animal spirits are different and the same as human spirits.

All things have a spirit. The Talmud states, “every blade of grass has an angel watching over it whispering, “grow, grow!””. This is variously translated but the essence is the same. Every growing thing has a spirit that guides it and all things, just like humans, exhibit preference. Rocks, molecules of water, slugs, donkeys, dust and dogs…everything has its own spirit.

Note that a molecule of water has its own spirit. A puddle of water has a spirit.  A lake of water has a spirit.

There is a difference between spirits. The human spirit is different from the spirit that is an Angel. An angel rarely chooses to become human. When it does only a portion of its spirit is given over to the human body and life. Human spirits want to be human for the growth potential, for the learning.

Dog souls become dogs because they want to participate in the Earth experience. Dogs find fun in life more than humans do and physical life is always growth for them, too.

Humans can become dogs, even insects, but cannot become Angels. For a human to become a dog it is like an actor playing a part. A human cannot become an Angel because that is equal to saying to your friend, “I’m going to be you”. You can never be that person although you can emulate all their qualities.

Although humans can become dogs they don’t do so very often. That is a little like the surgeon taking a job as a nurse. They are simply trained for two different things.

There is a realm adjacent to the Earth realm where non-physical resides. Non-physical is among you not separate from you. When one of you dies (including dogs, cats and ants) their soul simply steps out of the body. It is then free to move about as it chooses and zips about the Universe at will. That means your dog’s soul is free to visit you anytime she chooses. She may have enjoyed life with you so much that she hangs around, haunting you like a ghost. Perhaps she drops in to visit and help connect you to the other side. (From our perspective it feels as though it is the later. We feel this connecting and understanding will assist you in your chosen career path and she is helping you firm this connection.)

You are having a hard time dealing with this loss because you have allowed her to take your energy with her. She’s not doing this on purpose. You are giving it, throwing it after her. Remember what we told you about school…hold your energy unto yourself. Remind your energy body to flow harmoniously through you. When you do this be sure first to call to Rosie and tell her what you are doing. Tell her you love her but need your energy back. Tell her you want her to keep visiting whenever she chooses. Tell her all the things in your heart. But you must carry your own energy. It is vital to your success as a human and as a healer.

We will leave responding to the final question until we are clear on the meaning.

Received November 20, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Seeks General Information for Sea Travelers

Question:       I have been wondering about Higgins. Do they have any information that would be beneficial? I’m inquiring in general; however, I’m certainly open to anything that comes up pertaining to the sea or us travelers at large or like the most important representation we can be when meeting the villagers (from Higgins perspective-in simple terms, that is). Or am I being naïve? I would imagine just being ourselves for a starter, eh?! I always think there must be more and it’s always a desired thought to better myself.

Higgins:     We do have some things we wish to share with you.

Regarding meeting villagers: relax. Regardless of situation when you are comfortable with who you are and relaxed in manner you radiate a certain undeniable presence that puts others at ease. Being at ease yourself and putting others at ease in your presence meets the requirements of a sort of cross cultural system of etiquette.

To clarify relaxed: a person could exude relaxed wearing a tuxedo. We are not talking about sloppy speech, attire, hygiene or posture nor do we refer to being overly friendly or overly familiar. We mean be relaxed in your own skin.

Regarding your sea voyage:

We encourage you to take a little time at least weekly to perform some kind of simple water, Earth and weather honoring ceremony. Tell the water you love it by radiating deep appreciation for all that it is and does for you. Tell the Earth how much you enjoy her by radiating happiness at thoughts about her. Similarly, honor the weather for it is as much an entity as the Earth.

When we say ceremony, you know ceremony, Friends. It needn’t be much but do make a small fuss with candles or smudge or some such to help focus your intentions. You may honor the three all at once or one each week. If you choose one each week start with water.

Blessings on your magnificent adventure.

Received November 19, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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When Someone Else Does Not Want Me To Follow The Call Of My Heart

Question:     What when someone else does not want me to follow the call of my heart? What when someone preaches that my lesbianism is not OK? How should I respond to that?

Higgins:     Each one of you came forth with pre-birth agreements and to some extent those vary from person to person. (One person may be an artist, another an athlete, yet another a visionary.) Some agreements are the same for all. One such is that each of you came forth to be, or to have the opportunity to be, allowing of others. Meaning that while you want one thing and someone else wants another that you would allow them to pursue what they want knowing they cannot interfere with your pursuit of your own desires

From the Broader Perspective each of you knew that you could not interfere with another’s pursuit of happiness nor could they interfere with yours. From the physical perspective creating life seems much more complicated and it does seem as though others create in your life. (They don’t, it just seems as if they do.)

When another preaches that what is in your heart is wrong you must stand beside them with compassion. They simply do not know what they are talking about. How could another possibly know what is in your heart to be or do? Each of you is an individual guided by your Broader Intelligence that has seen you through thousands of life cycles and it knows you fully. Your Broader Intelligence is definitely leading you towards happiness.

We understand this is a difficult concept so we are going to re-phrase it: you must respond by loving that they don’t want you to be who you are. You must embrace tenderly and lovingly their right to pursue what is in their heart. Even when you think what is in their heart is wrong.

We understand that it may appear that they are misinterpreting their heart but we assure you that all things are done because in some way it will make that person feel better. Doing what makes you feel better is following your heart. So even if this person doesn’t want you to be you, you must allow them to be them and that includes allowing them to not want you to be you.

Twisted, isn’t it?

If a person followed their heart from the day they were born without er they would accept you for you. Life is an advanced game and few of you go through undented, unscathed. These dents and scratches cause you to lose focus. Thus, it is possible for a person to follow their heart (follow their ‘feel-better’) into doing things that may not be completely in alignment with their Eternal Truth but are in alignment with feeling better in the now.

From your perspective it is vitally important to love that your would-be oppressors are moving towards what makes them feel better.

This is an extremely important understanding and we encourage further conversation upon the topic.

Blessings, Friend.

Received November 20, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington,  USA

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How Is It That Another Cannot Harm You If You Follow Your Happiness?

Question:     I do have another question. In the most recent post (Homosexuality: is it OK and Good? (1 of 2)) Higgins said if you follow your heart’s guidance you will do no harm to others and no harm will come to you. I would like a clarification on this. Because it seems when many, and myself included have followed their heart, they were shunned by some, and those some were either very close family and/or friends for some people. Other times some people have bullied and/or beaten people up for being homosexuals or transgender. Or others were called all sorts of names for following their dreams, and spat on or looked down on. Yet all of them were following their heart. And myself included when following my heart, sure at the start it was great, but then things went horrible and I have never felt such pain and suffering in my entire life. While I agree when following ones heart you will not do any harm to others but I do not see how we dont be harmed when following our hearts though.

Higgins:     Beautiful. Yes.

Each of you continually emits a vibrational frequency. This occurs day and night whether you want it to or not. Sleep vibration is a little different and we will focus on waking hours for the sake of this conversation.

The goal of the human experience is growth. It is expected that you will always move towards that which brings a light and happy feeling to your heart to achieve this growth. Regardless of whether you do or not you will achieve spiritual growth. You will have more fun growing if you follow your heart.

Humans emit quite a wide range of frequencies, although they can only emit one at a time. Let’s say you are following your heart the best way you know how. At the same time, there is quite a bit of external pressure to ignore your heart and conform to the ‘norm’. In fact, there are people ready to cause you physical harm for not conforming to their will and you know that this is so. Perhaps you’ve already had some experience with this or know someone who has.

Now you have two things on your mind: following your heart and the possibility of getting beat up for doing so, either mentally or physically.  This is the tricky spot because you emit positive emotion when you follow your heart but every time someone else shuns you, belittles you or bullies you your emotion changes. Your life experience is drawn to you like a magnet based on this vibrational emission.

You must learn to hold your happy vibration in all situations. When you do you cease to draw negativity.

Each one of you is a master at holding fast to a chosen vibrational emission in the non-physical realm. It’s how you got into the physical realm. However, it is a much different thing to hold true to your preferred vibration while playing Life. That’s why you come…to achieve spiritual growth and to master difficult techniques like this one.

Though it may be difficult to believe you chose life. You chose to be here during the Shift of the Ages, the most difficult time to be human in an approximately 5,000 year span. Because of your magnificent ability to create you purposefully chose a life that would cause others to tremble so that you could practice holding true to you. Further, these others, from their Broader Being, thank you very much for doing so. Because of your willingness to play they also have the opportunity to learn something they very much wanted to master and that is accepting others just as they are and allowing others to express themselves as they wish. Their Broader Being knows that it is impossible for others to create in their life experience but the human doesn’t remember this and feels fearful. That is why people treat you badly for being you, they fear that you will be able to create negativity in their life. You can’t…if they hold true to their happy thoughts. Same for you.

We hope you like this answer because mastery of the application of this concept brings ultimate freedom.

Received November 19, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington  USA

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