Is Infatuation a False Love?

Question:     Is infatuation a false love and if it is, how do you know that you are truly IN love with someone for real and not just an infatuation? And how can you make it last?

Higgins:     Infatuation is not a false love it is a shade of love.

A difficulty you physicals get into is that you think there is an IN love with someone for real. Let us remind you that love is an emotion offered by your Broader Self relative to how you are responding to any given situation or thing. Many of you have come to think that real love is when you feel love or positivity for the same person all the time when actually real love is holding your thoughts and feelings about all things (no matter how ugly they may be…starvation, war and killing for example) in the same loving and compassionate way you hold the things that are easy for you to like. In that way you are able to radiate the emotion of love almost all the time and when you learn to do that you are living in your Truth.

To find a long-lasting loving relationship find someone with whom you get along easily. That is of utmost importance. It is very helpful to find someone who, just by being, produces a sense of heart expansion within you.

Should you have a mutual desire to walk together through the rest of your lives then we encourage you to think positively about them every day for the rest of your life. That will stimulate a positive flow of energy between you so that you continue to draw the things you like about them out. That is the best way to nurture a relationship for the long-term.

It will also help to learn to say yes.

Received September 22, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Differences in Kinds of Love

Question:     What is the difference between Love to friends and family, and that IN Love with that special someone?

Higgins:     There are many shades of pink. There are also many shades of love. That is the easiest way to understand it.

Received September 22, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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What is Love?

Question:     What is love? I don’t mean I love this food or I loved that movie. I am talking about True honest Love.

Higgins:     Love is an emotion. It is produced within you by that Broader Self that guides you through this physical existence. All emotions are offered relative to how you, in any given moment, relate to your surroundings. The emotion of love simply means that whatever is happening in your life your Broader Self agrees with you about it.

When you feel any kind of negative emotion your Broader Self is disagreeing with your thoughts/feelings/vibrational offerings about the topic. And, yes, that does mean that the True You is love because any emotion you feel that does not feel really good is contrary to the Truth of Your Self.

When you describe food or a movie as something you love it means that the food or the movie resonated with you in a positive way such that the Broader Self agreed with you thus producing positive emotion.

The emotion of love for food or a good movie is very similar to love for a person. When love for a particular food arises it is easy for you to differentiate the wonderful feeling as produced because the food was especially tasty. Love for a person is sometimes confusing because you do not understand what specifically is drawing from you the loving emotion.

When love is produced within relative to another human it is because something about them resonates well with you. One thing to understand is that only one emotion can be felt at any given time therefore you cannot feel love all the time. If you could then your guidance system (the emotions your Broader Self produces within you moment by moment relative to your surroundings) would fail for it could not communicate with you. Thus, in the moment that you stop focusing upon the things you like about the other person your guidance system must jump in and produce emotion relative to the new thing you are thinking about.

When you physicals stop focusing on the things you like about your loved one and focus instead upon the things you don’t like your guidance system sends you negative emotions. Sometimes you fall out of love because of these new emotions. We want you to understand the other person doesn’t necessarily change in any way. When you thought nice things the Broader Self  produced a feeling of love relative to that person. When you stopped thinking nice things and started thinking negative things the Broader Self produced negative feelings relative to the same person.

What we encourage you to look for in relationships is positive emotion in conjunction with a simple enjoyment of the others company. If you can look at things in the other person that produce negative emotion in you and genuinely want to find solutions then this may well be a person to consider for a long-term commitment.

Received September 22, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Meditation Vibrations to Music

Meditation Vibrations, Energy Alignment Music is now available on CD. Bill Wolford has created music for several energetic alignment meditations from Higgins. These meditations were created by Higgins to assist in raising our energetic frequencies.

The CD begins with aligning with one’s current surroundings, coming to peace with life as it is right now. Then Higgins helps raise one’s current vibration to its highest potential.

Tracks 3 and 4 simply bring one into harmony with the Earth and the frequency the Earth will be when the shift is complete.

Tracks 5 and 6 are all about relaxing and finding peace.

Bill has done a beautiful job of capturing the essence of Higgins’ meditations in music.

Find the CD at www.meditationvibrations.com.

Bright Blessings,

Cheryl

 

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The Kindness Paradigm (6)

Developing compassion

Compassion is the pathway to kindness. Compassion is an emotion in the vibrational range of love and deep appreciation. Compassion encompasses the emotion of deep understanding. A person develops compassion by directing their thoughts towards gentle understanding and acceptance of the world around them.

In order to do that we must first consider what humans are. Human beings are eternal beings inhabiting a body on a temporary basis. We are extensions of God. We are on Earth seeking growth. While our range of emotions is broad our true essence rests in love, peace and harmony with love being defined as deep and abiding appreciation.

The way we know this to be true is that when we feel frustration, anger, hatred, guilt, depression, fear or myriad gradations of these emotions we feel bad. When we feel hopeful, uplifted, happy, radiant, joyful or any gradation of these emotions we feel good. Our entire being is geared toward seeking that which feels good.

We must understand that all any of us ever do is seek these good emotions. Anytime we express negative aspects of ourselves or negative behavior all we are really doing is outwardly expressing that we have gotten off track. In the same way that a washing machine will get off-balance and bang around in the spin cycle our negative behaviors are simply us banging around because we’ve gotten out of balance.

With this understanding it is much easier to feel compassion for others. When we are able to hold compassion for ourselves and for others regardless of the situation, what naturally overflows is kindness.

Cheryl Jensen, September 3, 2013, at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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The Kindness Paradigm (5.5)

After rereading The Kindness Paradigm (5) on Accepting and Allowing I realize I left some information out…the part about why acceptance and allowance are important.

Refusal to accept and allow all things is futile. Resistance actually makes things worse. Imagine having a tent collapse while you are in it. Struggling won’t help you get out. Relax. Accept the situation and gently find your way out.

Allowing things to be as they are is the equivalent of not struggling. It is non-resistance.

When one person stops struggling, develops compassion and begins making decisions and choices based in kindness they become the embodiment of peace. Every day this one person is directly responding to the world’s violence by not responding to the world’s violence. They are no longer potentiating violence and harshness but instead potentiate peace and cooperation by living in harmony with their surroundings whatever those surroundings may contain.

Cheryl Jensen, September 2, 2013, at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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The Kindness Paradigm (5)

It’s been a while since I posted on The Kindness Paradigm so let’s go back and review what we’re up to:

The Kindness Paradigm is based on the belief that there are certain desires ubiquitous to all mankind yet recognizes that the achievement of those desires will look different to each individual; it is a vision of a way of living in which happiness is the driving force and decisions are based on kindness; it is a vision of life in which enthusiasm for the life one leads is of paramount importance and the importance of achieving one’s individual desires is understood and supported by all.

We needed a bridge to get from where we are to where we want to go and I suggested the bridge looked like this:

Relax within your life as it is right now, with all its warts and strange beautiful things; practice allowing and accepting everything just as it is with no changes whatsoever; develop compassion for yourselves and others, knowing that the game of life is challenging and complex; from compassion, kindness will overflow; that kindness will spring forth in all sorts of ways that nurture the human spirit.

Today I wish to move on to how to become allowing and accepting.

Merriam Webster defines the word ‘accept’ several ways but the number one definition for the word accept is to receive willingly. That is the definition we will use because to achieve our goal of living life in a Kindness Paradigm we must accept willingly that which presents before us and allow it to exist.

When you allow another person to live their life as they choose without encouraging them or expecting them or even hoping for them to be or act a certain way you allow them. Allowing is a scary concept for some because it means saying yes to things you do not like, agree with or want in your life. Frankly, it means saying yes to things you do not want to exist in the world. However, the Kindness Paradigm is not about what anyone else is doing. The Kindness Paradigm is about you. It is about each individual choosing a life of kindness for themselves and simultaneously allowing every other individual the dignity to make their own choices, whatever they may be.

The way to become allowing and accepting is to practice. Practice saying yes, practice seeing beauty in the ugly things. Developing compassion will make accepting and allowing others to be as they are much easier. We will explore the development of compassion next.

Cheryl Jensen, September 1, 2013, Lake Goodwin, Washington, USA

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Why Does This Person Cause Me to Lighten Up Inside? (Part 4 of 4)

A continuing conversation:

This same person that I get lighten up by now is the same one that I got lighten
up in the past. BUT the first time was before my depression and mental
illness happened. I started to ignore that lightening up inside and thought
nahh to unrealistic or maybe im putting my will onto God’s Will instead of
allowing His Will to be on top of me. So I put that aside and later is when
depression and mental disease came in. Any advice or further wisdom into
this would be so much appreciated.

Higgins:

We are well pleased that you have come to ask this question. This response is the most important segment of our response to your question as a whole.

Each of you is guided by inner knowing. You receive impulses, intuition and emotion. These things guide you through your life experience much the way one may control a toy car by remote control. The difference is that while the toy car must do exactly as guided each of you has a choice to follow or not follow these instincts. When the asker of this question ‘started to ignore that lightening up inside and thought nahh to unrealistic’ what they effectively did was ignore the guidance of their Eternal Spirit.

We don’t usually use the word ‘will’ relative to that which you call God. However, what you refer to as God’s will is experienced by humans as emotion. When you feel good or light inside then that is what God want’s for you. It was God’s intention that you would follow positive emotion and move away, even run away from those things that produce negative emotion.

God does not usually give you those feelings directly. They primarily come from your Eternal Spirit. We sometimes call this the Broader Self or Broader Being. Regardless of what it is called this Eternal You is old and wise and knows exactly what you wanted for yourself in this lifetime and knows exactly how to respond to every situation you may encounter and via emotions (and sometimes intuition or inspiration) guides you towards a wonderful life that includes prosperity and good health.

This is kind of like a game of Hot and Cold. You follow positive emotion and move away, even run away from those things that make you feel bad.

The human body houses you. You are not your body. In the same way a home that is not maintained begins to fall apart so too your body develops illness and ‘falls apart’ when you do not take care of it. There is a certain amount of grooming, feeding, exercising and so on that needs to be done but the care we are speaking of is all about these emotions we’ve been discussing. If you will consistently over time ignore your emotions you will develop illness. Illness may be physical or mental or both. That is what happened to the asker of this questions. They chose to ignore the positive emotion (not understanding what positive emotions mean) which can only lead to ever-increasing unhappiness and eventually dis-ease.

The good news is all dis-ease is reversible. As the asker once again begins to respond to positive and negative emotions their life will become happier, they will prosper and their health will improve. It may take a while, it took awhile to get where they are now, but life will improve. Perhaps fitfully at first but it will improve.

Negative life experience, while uncomfortable, does provide very important information. A person who has experienced hell in this lifetime knows more clearly than any other how strongly they desire a satisfying life. This clarity then helps them profoundly when they begin to follow those good feelings. Once you get the hang of going towards what feels good you will find very little tolerance for negativity.

The simple directions are: good feels good and bad feels bad. Always do your best to follow what feels good. Sometimes you will have to pick the least worst. That doesn’t matter. Just get started making choices that bring relief.

Be gentle with yourselves, Friends. Life is the Game of Masters. You would not be here if you did not possess the skills required to play but in this time/space scenario change is sometimes a little slow to arrive. Gently and persistently follow lightness in your heart every time it arrives. That’s what it takes to create a fulfilling and satisfying life.

Received September 1, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington, USA

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I Am A Powerful Magnet Attracting Good Things

Higgins:

Repeat: I am a powerful magnet attracting good things.

Received August 31, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Why Does This Person Cause Me to Lighten Up Inside? (Part 3)

This is a continuing conversation…

Question:

I have a question about the whole being lighten up inside. (…) But recently I
get lighten up by a person and no one really does that for by that one
person. And its not like an infatuation. This is from my gut, spirit area
and its like someone awakened me. Like I come alive inside and feel truly
alive. It is something that is hard to explain on how it feels. It is just
purely AMAZING though.

Higgins:

We are pleased that you recognize this is neither infatuation nor the beginnings of love. What is happening is this person awakens in you what you are. Another way to look at this is that person is a reflection of a part of yourself that has been buried for a while, a wonderful part of yourself. You recognize your own magnificence in them and that is what feels so amazing.

Received August 29, 2013 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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