My Wife Doesn’t Like Me

Posted on June 19, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question from Cheryl secondary to several searches from women who don’t like their husbands.

Question: Higgins, if a wife doesn’t like their husband yet the husband still wants to be in the marriage what can he do to make a happier situation?

Higgins: We are pleased that you’ve asked this question. Read this response slowly as some sentences are complex and the ideas and understandings they convey important.

There are no victims. That means both the husband and the wife played a part in getting into this difficult and unhappy place. One of the wonderful things about creating physical life though is that only oneself need change to change one’s situation.

A husband who continually tries to appease his wife to make her happy shall fail. She creates her own happiness as does he. Therefore, this situation is best remedied with thought. Very little action is actually required to solve this uncomfortable home situation. In fact, as a husband in this kind of relationship will discover, no matter what he does she is not satisfied.

The best solution is to spend a brief moment envisioning a household of harmony every time the unhappy wife does whatever it is she does that makes the husband feel unliked.

Let’s say once again she’s harping because he didn’t _____________ (fill in the blank with any of a zillion  offences). The husband wishing to draw a harmonious life situation towards him must now respond by envisioning a more pleasant encounter. This takes a little practice because of course the initial response will be to tense up in a self protective way to ward off the onslaught of negative energy the wife is throwing at him.

Note that there are many options for a more harmonious life experience. The husband could envision himself fishing with buddies with no wife around and though if he resonates well with this scenario he will indeed draw it to him readers should note that in this scenario the wife is missing and what he is wanting is a more harmonious life with the wife he still loves.

A very good option to help get started is to remember that this game of physical life is a complex and challenging game. Not one of you, male or female, is bad or somehow faulty in any way. You are each wonderful beings so any negative behavior is simply a reflection of a physical being who has become out of balance with their true beauty. (Think of a washing machine that gets unbalanced and whacks around in the spin cycle.)

The importance of understanding that each of you is a beautiful being both inside and out but that each of you sometimes gets out of alignment with the expression of that beauty is that the compassion this understanding fosters helps the husband relax around his wife, regardless of her behavior. Then the relaxed energy that he now exudes will draw a more relaxed energetic offering from her. Thus in this way harmony will return to the relationship.

After the husband is able to relax and restore some harmony to the relationship the next step is to begin acknowledging the things he truly likes and admires about his wife. This will draw more of that positive behavior from her and, importantly, these positive thoughts will nurture positive emotions toward one another. (Meaning you’ll begin to like each other again.)

Received June 19, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Feeling Tired and Discouraged

Posted on June 17, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

When you are feeling tired and discouraged…rest.

‘Tired’ indicates one of two things; either your mind and body need rest and refreshment or you are not in harmony with the activity you are about in this moment or headed into in the near future.

Regardless the reason for your discomfort find a moment to rest. Allow your mind to rest as well as your body. When the mind relaxes wisdom floats to the surface. A next step will become clear. The next step may be as simple as ‘go to bed’ or as complex as ‘I need a significant life change’. Either way, do it.

Received June 17, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Making the Transition from Life As It Is to Life As You Want It To Be

Posted on June 13, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

Once you intentionally decide to make change in your life by making a positive shift in your emotional offering it is quite easy to expect to see immediate response from the world around you. And indeed you will.

However, it often takes quite a bit of time to make significant changes in your life. The desired changes will come if you will consistently offer better vibration over time. What we notice is that some of you get frustrated before the arrival of the things you desire.

The reason the shift into a better life experience takes some of you a long time is that the new improved vibration you offer is unsteady. As you develop skill in offering better vibration life improvements will come more rapidly.

The key to making the transition from life as it is to life as you want it to be is to enjoy where you are right now.

This is very important so we’re going to say it again. The key to making the transition from life as it is to life as you want it to be is to enjoy where you are right now.

Received June 13, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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When Another Person Just Won’t Be Nice

Posted on June 11, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Comment from Cheryl:

This question is a repeat. The answer is new. The asker needs clarity and requested that Higgins responds somehow differently to the same question.

Question:

Hi Higgins, on Wednesday evening last you all were talking about dealing with people who may not be treating you very kindly.  A statement you made was something like this:  “Removing yourself from the situation or person for now may be necessary, but that is a master’s last resort.”  If the other person just won’t be nice or kind and continues to be abusive, then how can that change?  Isn’t it best not to keep going back for more and more abuse and being a victim?  Why is this a last resort instead of a smart move to keep oneself out of that vibrational level?

Higgins:

Let’s remind you, Friend, that this comment was made while we were visiting with you in person. The importance of this is: we understand well your desire to masterfully manage your personal energy.

The master develops such compassion for man’s spiritually complex voyage on Earth that their very presence changes the atmosphere of a room for the positive. A master of personal energy rarely needs to leave the room because the love, compassion and certainty of the divinity within all mankind that radiates from within the master is so powerful that all those within the room come to align with them and their positivity.

Of course if the master’s inner guidance said clearly, “This is not the place for you right now,” the master would leave that place. Once the master was safely removed the master would review their own energetic offering, acknowledging their part in the play. By acknowledging their own part the master determines what energetic shifts need to be made within themselves. The master makes the needed shifts as they move forward in their life.

You physicals are never victims. That is an idea you’ve made up to explain why unpleasant things happen within your lives. It is completely incorrect. All interaction is two-way. Nothing is ever done to you. All things are done with you and are completely harmonious with your current vibration.

We suggest, Friend, that you remove yourself whenever you feel the need. Every time you feel the need we also suggest you review your part within the play honestly and without fear. Make alterations in your energetic offering where necessary. Use the gathered data to intentionally create anew. Create fresh new experiences that are in keeping with your ever evolving desires.

Why is removing yourself from difficult situations a last resort instead of a smart move to keep oneself out of that vibrational level? Because you physicals fail to do part two. You fail to review your own part in it and make the needed changes. Instead, you blame the bad behavior of others on them and run away without reviewing your own part in the encounter.

Once you come to understand fully that all things are for both and take responsibility for your own energetic emission life will take on a new and vibrant dimension.

Received June 10 and 11, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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To sexandtheshameless

Posted on June 10, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Comment from Cheryl:

One of Higgins’ posts received a ‘like’ from sexandtheshameless so I visited her site and read the first entry that popped up. Higgins had such a positive response that I wanted to share it with you.

Offering from Higgins:

There is not good, neither is there bad. Any choice a person makes is made because in some way it makes them feel better. That is all you are doing here, in physical, is continual movement toward that which makes you feel better.

Humans are designed with a sort of steering system based on emotions. You are designed to forever move towards those things that make you feel better.

When it comes to relationships you physicals are not designed to be faithful to one person your entire life experience. Someone sometime made up the rule that a person should choose one other person and then the two stay together until the end of their respective physical lives. Indeed, sometimes this works and it can be a wonderful creation for both. Mostly, though, two people get together for a while. They are compatible for a period of time and then they move on when the current relationship has created clarity about what is newly desired in a relationship.

Life, the living of life, by definition creates a continuing flow of new desires. You are programmed to always move towards the achievement of those desires.

So to sexandtheshameless: the life you are living is neither good nor bad. If you will gently examine what you like about your existence and also gently consider what is missing from your current experience that you do desire and then focus upon and think about that which you desire with positive expectation the Universe will in all cases provide you with that which you desire.

The life you are living is helping you gain clarity. That is all. We applaud you for living true to you. Remember that what is true to you will change from time to time. We encourage you to continue a gentle search for what the True You wants from the data you’ve gathered.

Received June 9, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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I Don’t Like Being Around My Husband but I Love Him

Posted on June 9, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Note from Cheryl: a reader did a search for, “I don’t like being around my husband but I love him.” The following is Higgins’ offering regarding this topic.

Higgins: We are pleased that you understand that loving and liking are two different things.

Love is an emotion and love is what you are.

Like indicates preference and each of you is here enjoying a physical experience and your ‘job’ here is to determine what you prefer from the life experiences offered unto you. Once you’ve determined your personal preference your job becomes focusing your attention upon those things you prefer.

Life is designed to be fun and easy and if you will do those two things (determine your preference then focus upon that which you prefer) life will be fun and easy.

What this reader has done is focus upon the things about her husband that do not suit her preference. Her husband, flowing steadily along in the Universal Stream, unwittingly offers her those very things that she focuses upon. If she will begin to look once again at the things she likes about her husband he will (unwittingly) offer those traits instead.

Practice focusing on just the things that you like about him, Friend, and you will begin to see results very soon.

Received June 9, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Relax Where You Are In Life

Posted on June 8, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

Relax where you are in life. Struggling will only tighten the knots of an uncomfortable life. Stop struggling. Float instead. Once you are able to relax and float you will notice a direction that seems positive and desirable. Allow yourself to gently float along in the generally positive direction.

It’s easy to do. Accept where you are and all that entails. When choice arises choose the best feeling option. Sometimes that means choosing the least worst option. Look for the best in every situation remembering that the Universe always conspires towards your greatest good.

Received June 8, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Baseline Vibrational Level

Posted on June 2, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Note: This question has previously been answered. The asker says she is still unclear and will Higgins rephrase or restate answers to the same questions.

Question:  You said that we have a base line vibratory level and that is the one we tend to fall back on when under stress (?) – did I get that correctly?  And, I can’t read my notes – and you can’t either probably ! but what I wrote was “the fall-back emotion is the easiest one to . . . . .   Then, once you have committed to making your life the best it can be, your broader self helps you meet your lower emotions head on so you can experience them fully.  Can you fill in that blank above??  or restate it in a different way that says the same thing.  Hope this makes sense.

Higgins: Each of you, and indeed all things, continually interact (or communicate or converse) with the Universe ( or God or Allah or Creator or All That Is or Source). This communication is in the form of vibration so each of you continually emits a vibration that the Universe responds to. The responses that you continually receive are experienced by you as the occurrences of daily life.

This vibration is felt by each of you as emotion so emotion equals vibration. One emotion can be experienced at a time and though one may swing very quickly up or down through the emotional range truly only one emotion may be felt and thus vibrationally offered to the Universe at any given moment in time.

Humans tend to carry what we call a baseline vibrational level. The general attitude one carries around is that baseline. For example, a person who responds to life’s situations angrily more often than not, is likely carrying a baseline emotional (vibrational) level of angry. This baseline emotion is the easiest to achieve because it is the closest.

If you will envision the emotional range as a piano keyboard, anger is in the middle range. To get to a higher emotion one would have to jump from the middle of the keyboard to the righthand end and jumps like that simply are not possible. (One slides through emotions much like a trombone slide slides in and out to reach notes.) This is why so many of you in physical respond the same way over and over again. Do you notice individuals that seem angry all the time, happy and positive all the time, or even those who seem to be victims all the time? The angry person responds in anger because anger is the closest vibration and easiest to achieve. Ditto for the generally positive person, ditto for the generally victimized person.

If you do not like how you feel then set your intent upon feeling better. Set your intent upon feeling good. As you commit to finding better emotions the Universe will offer situations to you. These situations will be experienced as life events and will bring up the deepest emotions you are needing to experience and cope with.

To ‘cope with’ an emotion simply acknowledge it. Whether it is sadness, anger or overwhelment acknowledge how you feel. It is not necessary to do anything at all about the situation itself, simply acknowledge that you feel bad. It is not even necessary to be able to name the emotion you experience. The goal is to acknowledge it. Once the emotion has been acknowledged it is possible to slip into better feeling emotions. Until the emotion is acknowledged and allowed to run its course it will fester inside you. The next higher vibration than that which you suppress will become your baseline emotion and you will be unable to move into better emotions until you do address the emotion.

You are not expected to like the negative emotion and certainly you do not want to dwell in that negativity. Simply acknowledge it and allow a better feeling emotion to surface.

A good example of this is crying. When one finally breaks down into tears over some overwhelming life situation and cries and cries the emotion is acknowledged and one soon stops crying and feels better.

In short, acknowledge how you feel then feel better or refuse to acknowledge how you feel and fester within it to the end of this life cycle.

Imagine this: you are laughing at something wonderfully funny and acknowledge your emotion saying, “I’m happy and I want to feel even better!”

Blessings upon you, Friends. You are loved.

Received June 2, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Sprituality and Anti-Anxiety Effects

Posted on May 28, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question: Does spirituality have a positive effect on anxiety?

Higgins: Yes.

All things, whether considered animate (like people or dogs) or inanimate (like rocks, dirt and  driftwood) or even those whose animate properties are questioned (like trees and flowers), are habited by a living essence that is refered to as spirit or Spirit.

The word spirituality has come to refer (in part) to those of you physicals who are intentionally seeking some connection or understanding of the spirit that inhabits all things.

Each seeker of spirit discovers their own understanding of life and as one seeks understanding one is led inexorably towards Truth. The Truth is: there is but one thing existing anywhere. That being so, one must begin to open to the idea that each one of you is not separate but the same, there is no beginning and no end to life and that the essence that is all life is supportive.

Understanding of the interconnection of life seeps into the seeker and with that understanding one tends to relax and enjoy life, flowing within The Essence That Is. When one flows within that Essence there is a calmness, a sureness that washes away anxiety. That same steadiness erases fear and anger and all kinds of negativity, surrounding the seeker instead with an inner centeredness. This is often refered to as one’s inner light so a seeker who has come to understand the connectedness of all things and learned to flow within the Essence exudes an inner light of peace and enjoyment of life: life as life is not life as it ‘should’ be.

In that there is no room for anxiety and dark thoughts, only for great comfort and surety.

Received May 28, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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It Is Impossible to Make a Mistake

Posted on May 22, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

Mistakes are not possible. The idea of mistakes, while not unique to Earth, is unique to physical environments and is a by-product of the opportunity physical environments offer to live either in or out of harmony with the Truth of your eternal being. A ‘mistake’ is simply a learning opportunity, another chance to determine what you want and don’t want. Mistakes are only mistakes because they don’t fit the True you.

To consider a mistake a bad thing is much like trying on clothes and believing you’ve done something wrong if an item doesn’t fit. When you shop for clothes and see something you like well enough to try on, if it is too small or large you simply get another item in a different size. There is no consideration of it being a mistake, the item is simply not your size.

We would like you to think of mistakes as something you’ve tried on and is not your size. Rather than judging a thing a mistake or failure try other options until you find that which feels right to you.

This is how you are designed to flow within the Universe.

Received May 22, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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