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Comment from Cheryl:

One of Higgins’ posts received a ‘like’ from sexandtheshameless so I visited her site and read the first entry that popped up. Higgins had such a positive response that I wanted to share it with you.

Offering from Higgins:

There is not good, neither is there bad. Any choice a person makes is made because in some way it makes them feel better. That is all you are doing here, in physical, is continual movement toward that which makes you feel better.

Humans are designed with a sort of steering system based on emotions. You are designed to forever move towards those things that make you feel better.

When it comes to relationships you physicals are not designed to be faithful to one person your entire life experience. Someone sometime made up the rule that a person should choose one other person and then the two stay together until the end of their respective physical lives. Indeed, sometimes this works and it can be a wonderful creation for both. Mostly, though, two people get together for a while. They are compatible for a period of time and then they move on when the current relationship has created clarity about what is newly desired in a relationship.

Life, the living of life, by definition creates a continuing flow of new desires. You are programmed to always move towards the achievement of those desires.

So to sexandtheshameless: the life you are living is neither good nor bad. If you will gently examine what you like about your existence and also gently consider what is missing from your current experience that you do desire and then focus upon and think about that which you desire with positive expectation the Universe will in all cases provide you with that which you desire.

The life you are living is helping you gain clarity. That is all. We applaud you for living true to you. Remember that what is true to you will change from time to time. We encourage you to continue a gentle search for what the True You wants from the data you’ve gathered.

Received June 9, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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I Don’t Like Being Around My Husband but I Love Him

Note from Cheryl: a reader did a search for, “I don’t like being around my husband but I love him.” The following is Higgins’ offering regarding this topic.

Higgins: We are pleased that you understand that loving and liking are two different things.

Love is an emotion and love is what you are.

Like indicates preference and each of you is here enjoying a physical experience and your ‘job’ here is to determine what you prefer from the life experiences offered unto you. Once you’ve determined your personal preference your job becomes focusing your attention upon those things you prefer.

Life is designed to be fun and easy and if you will do those two things (determine your preference then focus upon that which you prefer) life will be fun and easy.

What this reader has done is focus upon the things about her husband that do not suit her preference. Her husband, flowing steadily along in the Universal Stream, unwittingly offers her those very things that she focuses upon. If she will begin to look once again at the things she likes about her husband he will (unwittingly) offer those traits instead.

Practice focusing on just the things that you like about him, Friend, and you will begin to see results very soon.

Received June 9, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Relax Where You Are In Life

Offering from Higgins:

Relax where you are in life. Struggling will only tighten the knots of an uncomfortable life. Stop struggling. Float instead. Once you are able to relax and float you will notice a direction that seems positive and desirable. Allow yourself to gently float along in the generally positive direction.

It’s easy to do. Accept where you are and all that entails. When choice arises choose the best feeling option. Sometimes that means choosing the least worst option. Look for the best in every situation remembering that the Universe always conspires towards your greatest good.

Received June 8, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Baseline Vibrational Level

Note: This question has previously been answered. The asker says she is still unclear and will Higgins rephrase or restate answers to the same questions.

Question:  You said that we have a base line vibratory level and that is the one we tend to fall back on when under stress (?) – did I get that correctly?  And, I can’t read my notes – and you can’t either probably ! but what I wrote was “the fall-back emotion is the easiest one to . . . . .   Then, once you have committed to making your life the best it can be, your broader self helps you meet your lower emotions head on so you can experience them fully.  Can you fill in that blank above??  or restate it in a different way that says the same thing.  Hope this makes sense.

Higgins: Each of you, and indeed all things, continually interact (or communicate or converse) with the Universe ( or God or Allah or Creator or All That Is or Source). This communication is in the form of vibration so each of you continually emits a vibration that the Universe responds to. The responses that you continually receive are experienced by you as the occurrences of daily life.

This vibration is felt by each of you as emotion so emotion equals vibration. One emotion can be experienced at a time and though one may swing very quickly up or down through the emotional range truly only one emotion may be felt and thus vibrationally offered to the Universe at any given moment in time.

Humans tend to carry what we call a baseline vibrational level. The general attitude one carries around is that baseline. For example, a person who responds to life’s situations angrily more often than not, is likely carrying a baseline emotional (vibrational) level of angry. This baseline emotion is the easiest to achieve because it is the closest.

If you will envision the emotional range as a piano keyboard, anger is in the middle range. To get to a higher emotion one would have to jump from the middle of the keyboard to the righthand end and jumps like that simply are not possible. (One slides through emotions much like a trombone slide slides in and out to reach notes.) This is why so many of you in physical respond the same way over and over again. Do you notice individuals that seem angry all the time, happy and positive all the time, or even those who seem to be victims all the time? The angry person responds in anger because anger is the closest vibration and easiest to achieve. Ditto for the generally positive person, ditto for the generally victimized person.

If you do not like how you feel then set your intent upon feeling better. Set your intent upon feeling good. As you commit to finding better emotions the Universe will offer situations to you. These situations will be experienced as life events and will bring up the deepest emotions you are needing to experience and cope with.

To ‘cope with’ an emotion simply acknowledge it. Whether it is sadness, anger or overwhelment acknowledge how you feel. It is not necessary to do anything at all about the situation itself, simply acknowledge that you feel bad. It is not even necessary to be able to name the emotion you experience. The goal is to acknowledge it. Once the emotion has been acknowledged it is possible to slip into better feeling emotions. Until the emotion is acknowledged and allowed to run its course it will fester inside you. The next higher vibration than that which you suppress will become your baseline emotion and you will be unable to move into better emotions until you do address the emotion.

You are not expected to like the negative emotion and certainly you do not want to dwell in that negativity. Simply acknowledge it and allow a better feeling emotion to surface.

A good example of this is crying. When one finally breaks down into tears over some overwhelming life situation and cries and cries the emotion is acknowledged and one soon stops crying and feels better.

In short, acknowledge how you feel then feel better or refuse to acknowledge how you feel and fester within it to the end of this life cycle.

Imagine this: you are laughing at something wonderfully funny and acknowledge your emotion saying, “I’m happy and I want to feel even better!”

Blessings upon you, Friends. You are loved.

Received June 2, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Sprituality and Anti-Anxiety Effects

Question: Does spirituality have a positive effect on anxiety?

Higgins: Yes.

All things, whether considered animate (like people or dogs) or inanimate (like rocks, dirt and  driftwood) or even those whose animate properties are questioned (like trees and flowers), are habited by a living essence that is refered to as spirit or Spirit.

The word spirituality has come to refer (in part) to those of you physicals who are intentionally seeking some connection or understanding of the spirit that inhabits all things.

Each seeker of spirit discovers their own understanding of life and as one seeks understanding one is led inexorably towards Truth. The Truth is: there is but one thing existing anywhere. That being so, one must begin to open to the idea that each one of you is not separate but the same, there is no beginning and no end to life and that the essence that is all life is supportive.

Understanding of the interconnection of life seeps into the seeker and with that understanding one tends to relax and enjoy life, flowing within The Essence That Is. When one flows within that Essence there is a calmness, a sureness that washes away anxiety. That same steadiness erases fear and anger and all kinds of negativity, surrounding the seeker instead with an inner centeredness. This is often refered to as one’s inner light so a seeker who has come to understand the connectedness of all things and learned to flow within the Essence exudes an inner light of peace and enjoyment of life: life as life is not life as it ‘should’ be.

In that there is no room for anxiety and dark thoughts, only for great comfort and surety.

Received May 28, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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It Is Impossible to Make a Mistake

Offering from Higgins:

Mistakes are not possible. The idea of mistakes, while not unique to Earth, is unique to physical environments and is a by-product of the opportunity physical environments offer to live either in or out of harmony with the Truth of your eternal being. A ‘mistake’ is simply a learning opportunity, another chance to determine what you want and don’t want. Mistakes are only mistakes because they don’t fit the True you.

To consider a mistake a bad thing is much like trying on clothes and believing you’ve done something wrong if an item doesn’t fit. When you shop for clothes and see something you like well enough to try on, if it is too small or large you simply get another item in a different size. There is no consideration of it being a mistake, the item is simply not your size.

We would like you to think of mistakes as something you’ve tried on and is not your size. Rather than judging a thing a mistake or failure try other options until you find that which feels right to you.

This is how you are designed to flow within the Universe.

Received May 22, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Let Go of Hard Feelings

Offering from Higgins:

Let go of hard feelings. Whatever has happened to cause you to emit hard feelings is unimportant relative to the importance of your feeling good. When you feel good and thus emit positive emotions/vibrations life sends back to you more things to feel positive about (and therefore fewer things to feel negative about).

Truly, the most important thing in physical life is that you feel good. Every move you make should feel good, or at least better and stronger than any of the alternatives. This will consistently lead you towards life experiences that are positive and fulfilling.

So let go of hard feelings.

It is easier to let go of hard feelings if  you will remember that your personal happiness is more important than any difficulty or frustration or fearful thing that can possibly ever arise AND there is a solution, a positive solution, to every situation that could possibly ever arise in your physical environment.

When you feel emotional hardness arising within you, take a moment to review what specifically is bothering you, that thing you don’t want. Then look for its opposite, the thing you do want. Focus on that instead. You will find you cannot focus positively on the thing you want and hold hard feelings at the same time. Focusing on the problem will never fix the problem. Focus instead upon relaxing within the situation so that thoughts for a solution may arise within you.

Received May 21, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Who Are You Saying You Are?

Offering from Higgins:

The eternal, real You wears your body in the same way you wear clothes. How are you presenting yourself?

Take care with your body; the way you clothe it, the way you feed it, the way you exercise it. This is part of your outward presentation of Self to the world. Who are you saying you are?

Received May 19, 2011 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Surviving 2012

Question: Will you comment on how best to survive 2012?

Higgins: ‘2012’ is not a date, it is a name you physicals have given to a time period. The time period is occurring now and will continue for a few more years.

The Earth is ever evolving just as you are and the Earth’s evolution has caused it to speed up its vibrational offering. The human body is closely connected to the Earth so your vibrational offering must remain harmonious with the Earth’s in order to remain physically focused here.

The body can experience a range of vibrations (think emotions when you think vibration–vibration and emotion are equal). The Earth is quickening so the lowest vibration you physicals can experience will shift to a higher point and the highest vibration you can experience will also shift to a higher point. Remember that vibration equals emotion: the highest, happiest, best emotion physicals can experience is getting higher! That’s good!

What this means, though, is that for those of you who live in emotions of depression, futility and unhappiness the Earth will not support you anymore. The Earth’s shift will force you to shift into quicker, better feeling states of being.

This is good for you because to shift like this emotionally you will have to follow your desires and in following your desires you will find happiness and enjoyment. Further, you will have to follow YOUR desires and not the desires of anyone else. You all will really like this once you get the hang of it.

In essence, to survive ‘2012’ you must follow your desires and pursue your dreams. Nice, yes?

Received May 12, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Treat Your Body Well

Offering from Higgins:

You are not your body. Your body is yours to use for this lifetime. Treat it well. Exercise. Eat food that is nourishing. Provide it with plenty of fresh water. Most importantly, always look for reasons to be happy. It is a lifetime of anger, frustration and unhappiness that lead to mental and physical health mis-adventures as you age.

Received May 11, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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