When People Are Rotten to Me I Want to Be Rotten Back

Posted on July 16, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question: Higgins, when people are so rotten sometimes I feel spiteful. I want to do something rotten back to them. Talk me out of that. Why wouldn’t I do something mean back?

Higgins: Marvelous question and the answer is: because you are not rotten. The end result of doing something mean in retaliation is that you’ve done something mean. Even though there is a sweet feeling of regaining some of your power in the thought of retaliation the act of retaliating is actually in opposition to the beauty that you are.

Retaliation feels good because it is a stronger vibration than that of victim but often leads you out of the bounds of your True Character which is goodness and decency and into expression of Not The Truth of You.

By letting someone else’s words and actions pull you out of balance with your own harmony you are doing exactly what you don’t want, you are allowing yourself to get out of balance with the expression of your Truth. You will find that no matter how good the feeling of revenge is the feeling of balanced expression of your Truth feels even better. So use the power surge that comes from thoughts of revenge to catapult you back towards alignment with feeling good and use the understanding you’ve developed regarding what is socially appropriate to keep your action within bounds.

Received July 14 and 16, 2011 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Play to Relax Both Mind and Body

Posted on July 10, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

Play. There is nothing quite like play to relax both mind and body. If you can’t remember how to play, look at the children. They will remind you how simple it is to enjoy sand and water, balls and bikes.

Play is refreshing to the mind and body. You will sleep better, feel better and enjoy life more when you establish a regular rhythm of play time.

Received July 10, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Worried About Leaving My Cat

Posted on July 8, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:  I am going on a trip for 10 days soon and am concerned about leaving my beloved cat.  He is sometimes needy for my attention, and I’m worried he’ll think I am abandoning him.  Is there any way I can communicate with him that I am returning? My roommate will be taking care of him in my absence.

Higgins: Cats are very attuned to the energetic environment in which they live. This means that your cat already knows something is afoot. If you worry the cat will pick up on that and worry, too. In this situation a very good option is to spend some time every day between now and your departure with your cat. Stroke your kitty in favorite places and all the while tell your kitty that you are leaving and will be back in 10 days. Explain the arrangements you have made with your roommate. Remind yourself and the cat to allow each your own energy to flow harmoniously through your respective selves. (Just reading the sentence accomplishes energetic harmony.) This prevents each of you from energetically drawing upon the other unhealthily.

Leave with confidence. Enjoy yourself while you are gone. The cat will make adjustments and likely grow spiritually because of the short separation.

Your return behavior is important. You must again cuddle your kitty every day, several times a day is better, until the two of you regain your balance.

Received July 8, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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I Don’t Know How to Have Fun

Posted on June 27, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question: I don’t know how to have fun and I associate having fun with being happy. Please respond.

Higgins: The ability to have fun is actually secondary to maintaining feelings of well-being, light-heartedness and happiness rather than the other way around. In other words, happiness provides an emotional environment that allows one to experience events as fun.

Well-being, light-heartedness and happiness are all emotions in what we will call the human Optimal Emotions Zone. These are optimal emotions because from these emotional points it is much easier (and more fun) for you physicals to create pleasing lives. If the emotions you tend to experience feel less good than these your creating will be muddied and life will be more difficult.

This must be the case for you, the asker, if you are unable to experience fun. Here is what you can do to bring your emotions into the Optimal Zone: daydream. We mean it. Dream and dream big. What is it that you want? There is no limit. As you dream practice forming thoughts in the positive. For example, if you want more time off from the work you do to simply enjoy life the real thing you want is to enjoy life. So state that to the Universe as, “I want to enjoy life.”

Stating something like, “I want to work less,” is not very effective because it focuses on the very thing you do not want–work. In this instance what you may want is, “I want to enjoy life more.”

It is a good idea, really, to begin an ongoing conversation with the Universe. Ask for help this way, “I want to enjoy life more and I want help with that. Inspire me, please.”

As you become more clear about what it is you do want you will begin to develop feelings of hope and well-being because the Universe will respond to you by providing better life experiences. It is much easier to feel good when life is good.

Hope is a Low Optimal emotion and when you feel hope then you are headed in the right direction. Keep practicing that conversation with the Universe and soon well-being will be an everyday feeling and fun will begin to spot your life. Moving up the emotional scale towards happiness will simply bring more fun things into your life and life will begin to be fun in and of itself.

The key is clarity. What do you want? State it clearly. Relax. Await impulses towards action. Act. The happier you are about the Act-tion the more fun you have.

Received June 27, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Can We Really Create Anything We Want?

Posted on June 26, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question: My life is getting better and better by following your teachings the best I can. Is it really true, though, that we can create anything we want? The life I want seems impossible to achieve and I don’t know anyone who is doing what I want to do.

Higgins: Yes. You really can create the life you dream of.

If your dream is a common dream and many others are already living it, you’ve seen it and know it is possible. If you already believe a thing is possible then it is easier and quicker to achieve. In your case, you have a dream but your belief in your ability to bring it about is not strong so drawing that particular life into being will take a bit longer because you must develop that belief.

You will move forward one small step at a time. You may not even be clear how the step you take today will move you toward that end goal. That doesn’t matter at all just follow the impulses that arise. Over time you will take enough small steps that you will begin to see a direction forming that looks a little like what you thought you wanted.

When life begins to look even a little like what you wanted your confidence improves. Confidence and belief are two emotions that will move you quickly toward your goal.

Keep taking all the little steps that present themselves to you and soon enough life will be looking a whole lot like what you are hoping for.

Received June 26, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Why Does It Take So Long To Make Progress?

Posted on June 25, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Note from Cheryl:

This is a typed conversation with Higgins.

Cheryl: You have said there is nothing that cannot be achieved if we put our attention to it with desire and positive expectation.

Higgins: Yes, along with happy willingness to take action when necessary.

Cheryl: Why does it seem to take such a long time to make progress?

Higgins: Define progress.

Cheryl: Visible and significant movement towards the achievement of my desire.

Higgins: Your definition of progress is why it takes so long for you make progress.

Let’s say you desire a glass of milk so you open the refrigerator to discover there is no milk in it. Your desire in this moment has changed from one glass of milk to one half-gallon of milk. There are several options now; skip the milk altogether or walk, bike or drive to the nearest grocer for one half-gallon of milk. You want the milk and let’s say it’s raining so you get in the car. You arrive home shortly with one half-gallon of milk from the convenience store and pour yourself the desired glass and enjoy it.

In this scenario you achieved your desire within minutes. However, we want you to understand that in every step of that scenario progress was made toward the achievement of the desired glass of milk. Progress is not the final product. Progress is initiating then completing one step after another towards achievement of the final product.

Every step along the way you are gathering data so when the final product does arrive you will have already launched new desires. Thus the journey rather than the end product is the reward. When you begin to see the journey as a series of fun and interesting opportunities all the little steps from conception of an idea to fruition will be rewarding in and of themselves. This is what is missing from your creation. When each step becomes fun the end result will immediately seem less elusive.

Received June 23, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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My Wife Doesn’t Like Me

Posted on June 19, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question from Cheryl secondary to several searches from women who don’t like their husbands.

Question: Higgins, if a wife doesn’t like their husband yet the husband still wants to be in the marriage what can he do to make a happier situation?

Higgins: We are pleased that you’ve asked this question. Read this response slowly as some sentences are complex and the ideas and understandings they convey important.

There are no victims. That means both the husband and the wife played a part in getting into this difficult and unhappy place. One of the wonderful things about creating physical life though is that only oneself need change to change one’s situation.

A husband who continually tries to appease his wife to make her happy shall fail. She creates her own happiness as does he. Therefore, this situation is best remedied with thought. Very little action is actually required to solve this uncomfortable home situation. In fact, as a husband in this kind of relationship will discover, no matter what he does she is not satisfied.

The best solution is to spend a brief moment envisioning a household of harmony every time the unhappy wife does whatever it is she does that makes the husband feel unliked.

Let’s say once again she’s harping because he didn’t _____________ (fill in the blank with any of a zillion  offences). The husband wishing to draw a harmonious life situation towards him must now respond by envisioning a more pleasant encounter. This takes a little practice because of course the initial response will be to tense up in a self protective way to ward off the onslaught of negative energy the wife is throwing at him.

Note that there are many options for a more harmonious life experience. The husband could envision himself fishing with buddies with no wife around and though if he resonates well with this scenario he will indeed draw it to him readers should note that in this scenario the wife is missing and what he is wanting is a more harmonious life with the wife he still loves.

A very good option to help get started is to remember that this game of physical life is a complex and challenging game. Not one of you, male or female, is bad or somehow faulty in any way. You are each wonderful beings so any negative behavior is simply a reflection of a physical being who has become out of balance with their true beauty. (Think of a washing machine that gets unbalanced and whacks around in the spin cycle.)

The importance of understanding that each of you is a beautiful being both inside and out but that each of you sometimes gets out of alignment with the expression of that beauty is that the compassion this understanding fosters helps the husband relax around his wife, regardless of her behavior. Then the relaxed energy that he now exudes will draw a more relaxed energetic offering from her. Thus in this way harmony will return to the relationship.

After the husband is able to relax and restore some harmony to the relationship the next step is to begin acknowledging the things he truly likes and admires about his wife. This will draw more of that positive behavior from her and, importantly, these positive thoughts will nurture positive emotions toward one another. (Meaning you’ll begin to like each other again.)

Received June 19, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Feeling Tired and Discouraged

Posted on June 17, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

When you are feeling tired and discouraged…rest.

‘Tired’ indicates one of two things; either your mind and body need rest and refreshment or you are not in harmony with the activity you are about in this moment or headed into in the near future.

Regardless the reason for your discomfort find a moment to rest. Allow your mind to rest as well as your body. When the mind relaxes wisdom floats to the surface. A next step will become clear. The next step may be as simple as ‘go to bed’ or as complex as ‘I need a significant life change’. Either way, do it.

Received June 17, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Making the Transition from Life As It Is to Life As You Want It To Be

Posted on June 13, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

Once you intentionally decide to make change in your life by making a positive shift in your emotional offering it is quite easy to expect to see immediate response from the world around you. And indeed you will.

However, it often takes quite a bit of time to make significant changes in your life. The desired changes will come if you will consistently offer better vibration over time. What we notice is that some of you get frustrated before the arrival of the things you desire.

The reason the shift into a better life experience takes some of you a long time is that the new improved vibration you offer is unsteady. As you develop skill in offering better vibration life improvements will come more rapidly.

The key to making the transition from life as it is to life as you want it to be is to enjoy where you are right now.

This is very important so we’re going to say it again. The key to making the transition from life as it is to life as you want it to be is to enjoy where you are right now.

Received June 13, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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When Another Person Just Won’t Be Nice

Posted on June 11, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Comment from Cheryl:

This question is a repeat. The answer is new. The asker needs clarity and requested that Higgins responds somehow differently to the same question.

Question:

Hi Higgins, on Wednesday evening last you all were talking about dealing with people who may not be treating you very kindly.  A statement you made was something like this:  “Removing yourself from the situation or person for now may be necessary, but that is a master’s last resort.”  If the other person just won’t be nice or kind and continues to be abusive, then how can that change?  Isn’t it best not to keep going back for more and more abuse and being a victim?  Why is this a last resort instead of a smart move to keep oneself out of that vibrational level?

Higgins:

Let’s remind you, Friend, that this comment was made while we were visiting with you in person. The importance of this is: we understand well your desire to masterfully manage your personal energy.

The master develops such compassion for man’s spiritually complex voyage on Earth that their very presence changes the atmosphere of a room for the positive. A master of personal energy rarely needs to leave the room because the love, compassion and certainty of the divinity within all mankind that radiates from within the master is so powerful that all those within the room come to align with them and their positivity.

Of course if the master’s inner guidance said clearly, “This is not the place for you right now,” the master would leave that place. Once the master was safely removed the master would review their own energetic offering, acknowledging their part in the play. By acknowledging their own part the master determines what energetic shifts need to be made within themselves. The master makes the needed shifts as they move forward in their life.

You physicals are never victims. That is an idea you’ve made up to explain why unpleasant things happen within your lives. It is completely incorrect. All interaction is two-way. Nothing is ever done to you. All things are done with you and are completely harmonious with your current vibration.

We suggest, Friend, that you remove yourself whenever you feel the need. Every time you feel the need we also suggest you review your part within the play honestly and without fear. Make alterations in your energetic offering where necessary. Use the gathered data to intentionally create anew. Create fresh new experiences that are in keeping with your ever evolving desires.

Why is removing yourself from difficult situations a last resort instead of a smart move to keep oneself out of that vibrational level? Because you physicals fail to do part two. You fail to review your own part in it and make the needed changes. Instead, you blame the bad behavior of others on them and run away without reviewing your own part in the encounter.

Once you come to understand fully that all things are for both and take responsibility for your own energetic emission life will take on a new and vibrant dimension.

Received June 10 and 11, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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