What are the motivating forces in your life? Do you know what you want? Are you sure that what you want is what you want and not what society has conditioned you to want?What would your life look like if happiness were the primary motivating force?
Just asking.
February 13, 2014 Lake Goodwin, Washington
This quote of Vince Lombardi’s gets to the heart of The Kindness Paradigm:
Individual commitment to a group effort – that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work. Vince Lombardi
It is wonderful when one person succeeds but to achieve world peace we must commit as a world group to helping everyone succeed. That is accomplished by providing education that supports the unique interests and talents of the individual and then by creating laws that support those same talents as they expand into sturdy, right-sized businesses. Why do I state such a thing? Because when a person pursues their unique interests they tend to be happy and happy people thrive. A world full of happy, thriving people is certainly a wonderful group effort to commit to.
Cheryl Jensen, February 6, 2014 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Some visions of what the Kindness Paradigm looks like–
Walkable sized neighborhoods, sidewalks, lots and lots of community parks for people to play in. And people do play. Exercise is part of everyone’s day.
Fresh, wholesome food is affordable and easily available. Produce grows in every yard.
Laws support and encourage the sole proprietor business.
School, work and the grocer are all within walking distance.
Homes are solid. Lots of people have their business right in their home. Landscaping is creative and beautiful, satisfying the need for privacy, wildlife habitat and human food source.
Pets are welcome.
People have the gift of time. They play and socialize. The standard work week is closer to 30 hours than to 40. Break rooms are spacious with comfortable chairs to rest the body.
People have free time to pursue their interests which are easily translated into work options as small business is highly supported.
People have time to rest, play and take care of the daily needs of living thus they are healthier and happier needing less in the way of healthcare and sick leave.
Living in a paradigm of kindness our heart’s come alive.
For those of you for whom life is already wonderful my hopes for this idea of living in a paradigm of kindness is simply to open your heart to those whose life is not already wonderful and that you will uplift and gently nurture even the lowliest into their wholeness.
In many ways, it seems we’ve lost our expression of compassion and kindness. Last summer, a visitor on our street spilled a goodly amount of gasoline and it ran downhill into a neighbors drive. It was witnessed and by the witness’ account the spill surprised the man who spilled it…apparently he was expecting water to pour out not gasoline. This man drove away and the witness told the neighbor in whose drive the gasoline was spilled.
Several weeks later the spiller returned and the neighbor, spotting the vehicle, went out to speak to him. The man was quite surprised and rather embarrassed and his comment was, “I just didn’t know what to do so I left it.” He then volunteered to come try to clean it up.
He did come and make a good attempt to clean it up and the homeowner was satisfied with his effort even though the spill mark was still quite clear. The homeowner, who spent his career paving things knew the spill mark wouldn’t clean entirely. What he wanted was some acknowledgement that something had gone wrong and an attempt to right it.
Our society, it seems, has become so blaming and damning that a person is sometimes a little fearful to attempt to right a wrong and would rather run away than make an attempt.
In the Kindness Paradigm when a person discovers they’ve done something wrong or disharmonious, or created disharmony, there is a comfort level, an allowance for that person to do their best to correct it. There is compassion held for the committer.
Question: This question refers to the following post from January 8, 2014
“Forget about money. Forget about health. Forget about age. Do whatever it is you came here to do with what resources and abilities you do have.”
So you would recommend forget about looking for a job and just do what I feel I am meant to do with the time I have even though there seems to be no source of income from which to pay bills and such? In other words get in to the flow of the creative process and let everything else take care of itself?
Higgins: No, Friend, that is not what we are saying.
We ask you to look at yourself– your talents, your interests, your resources whatever they may be– and do the best you possibly can to represent your True Being with what you already have. Possibly, money and time are not resources you have. If there is no money to pay the bills and you must eat and live somewhere then you must solve that. We recommend solving it by following the path of least resistance. By that we mean take whatever job comes easily to hand whether or not it is your heart’s desire. This way you can pay the bills and eat. After that, in what time and with what resources you do have, do whatever it is you came here to do.
The reason we suggest taking whatever job comes easily to hand is that life is designed to be easy and smooth. While you are waiting for the perfect job your vibrational emission about work and paying bills is uncertain thus creating a goodly amount of uncertainty in your future thus inhibiting your ability to get into the flow of the creative process.
Rather than do that, we suggest taking a job to pay the bills thus settling your vibration surrounding money. Then use the data you collect about the job and your creative ability to align vibrationally with something you like better.
Received February 4, 2014 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Question: Higgins, I am preparing your manual, Higgins’ Manual on Physical Existence, for publication. In the first chapter you state: Contrast is of great importance in your physical realm. In fact, your realm is all about contrast. It is in the contrast, it is in the bumping into experiences that you like and that you don’t like, that you define yourself. For you know most clearly who you are when you are certain who you are not.
What do you mean by who you are not? How do we know who we are not?
Higgins: Those things that feel bad to you and that you do not like are not you.
For example, if you look in the mirror and feel negative emotion about the extra weight you carry then the extra weight is not true about you and you will continue to feel negative about it until you change your habits to an extent that your body comes back into alignment with a weight and fitness level that feels more harmonious.
Another example, if you are having financial difficulty and are fearful about money then you know right away that financial difficulty is not the truth of you. It is an aberration and when you begin to think more positively about money, more positive emotions will follow. The Universe must provide for you a more positive, better feeling financial situation.
When you feel smug about your financial situation, or your weight or really anything, you are in your Truth. We do not encourage you to gloat, but smug is a great indicator of satisfaction and satisfaction is Truth and it is who you are.
Received January 29, 2014 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Question: I still don’t understand why you mostly say that things (our desires) come to us with no effort and then say it does take effort. Which is it?
Higgins: We have been watching (American) football through the entity. During a game a few weeks ago the Seahawks played the Saints. There was a particular play in which the Saints lost the ball. The ball bounced into the arms of a Seahawks team member.
That is the no effort we are talking about.
Effort must be extended to achieve the skills one needs to achieve their desired goals. The joy that one feels while extending that effort, the belief one has in one’s skills and the joy one has in presenting the skills (as during a game) are the emotional/vibrational cues that stimulate the Universe to provide opportunity.
That particular ball bounced the direction it did because the Universe aligned with that player, that team in that moment to offer them this magnificent opportunity. That player, that team was completely attuned in that moment with their desires and the Universe must respond.
It is that sort of opportunity that we mean when we say it takes no effort on your part. There is nothing that any of you can do physically, no amount of energy that can be exerted that will create that sort of opportunity. Only harmonious alignment with and joyful focus upon your desires will create that.
Received January 26, 2014 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Question: Yesterday, in the post on Yo-yo dieting, you talked about achieving goals and said, “…you will know when you’ve exerted enough effort on your part, both physical and mental, because the Universe will bend to your will.”
Will you talk more about achieving goals? It seems to take such a long time to make big change.
Higgins: We are well pleased that you quantified the word ‘change’ with ‘big’. This indicates to us that you may have found smaller changes easier to make.
Any one of you, literally any single one of you physicals, may have anything you can think up. The caveat being that you must be the vibrational and therefore emotional equivalent of whatever it is that you want.
The emotional scale is a little like a slide trombone in that in order to play any note on the trombone one must manipulate the slide in and out. One cannot play a note without moving that slide. This differs from a piano keyboard in which one can play any note by moving their finger to the note that is desired. With emotions, one must slide up and down the scale one ‘note’ at a time. Big change is generally too far away emotionally to be achieved quickly because one must shift one’s vibration through each note between the currently held emotion and the emotion needed to be equal to the desired goal.
And so, Friend, when little tidbits reminiscent of the desired goal begin slipping into your life you can be assured you are headed in the right direction. All that is needed is time before your goal is achieved.
Several things are needed to achieve goals: vibrational alignment with the desired goal, time, and continued positive expectation. However, there is another aspect that we haven’t talked about very often or in-depth and that is the aspect of human effort. We don’t speak much about the effort part because the Universe offers all things with no effort expended in much the way water runs downhill with no effort. What you physicals do seem to forget from time to time is that some physical energy must be exerted on your part to achieve many of your desires. Athletes must exert tremendous energy to achieve the physical fitness required to participate in their particular sport and they must practice the sport to achieve skill.
If you are not yet the recipient of your desired goals there are choices: give up, continue as you have been and give it more time, or take heart knowing that you’ve laid solid groundwork and then put your back into it. This third option requires more diligent attention and more directed effort.
Focus is really the key element for creating anything. Focus on what you want, depend upon your own infinite intelligence for inspiration, then take action. That is what life is all about and the more intent one is upon following these three steps the more rewarding and fun life is.
Received January 26, 2014 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Question: What to do to get past constant yo-yo dieting to a stable, healthy and desirable weight? Food is not the enemy so what am I doing wrong?
Higgins: First, let us establish that you are not doing anything wrong. Humans respond to powerful Universal Laws. Yo-yo dieting is the Universe’s metaphorical reflection of one’s inconsistent application of the Laws.
Secondly, you are correct in understanding that food is not the enemy. In fact, food is a good friend to the human body.
To get to a stable, healthy, desirable weight one must gently and persistently apply the Universal Law so that one works with the Law rather than at odds with it.
Imagine if you will a massive hand crank. The handle is man-sized and is connected with an ever larger series of gears that eventually are universe sized. To initiate the turning of the crank is quite simple, remember that it is sized for the human. However, due to the sheer magnitude of the terminal gear (the Universe) the turning of the crank takes a bit of effort and is slow to start. If it is slow to start at the human end imagine how much time it takes to get the gear moving enough to effect the terminal end, the Universe.
With that picture in mind, begin imagining how life will be once your body has achieved a stable, healthy, desirable weight. Next, determine what small, achievable steps you might take on a regular basis so that you are living now, as much as is possible, the way you imagine you will live then, when your desirable weight is achieved.
For example, the body is designed to move a significant part of any day. It is designed to lift and bend and walk. Find some way to begin using your body as it was designed. This may look like walking to work or initiating a gentle yoga practice.
Clothing is another large aspect of feeling good about one’s body. Dress, to the best of your ability, in clothes that make you feel good. Regarding food, eat the way you imagine you will eat when you are the weight you wish to be.
Once the Universe is flowing in a desirable direction the crank is quite easy to keep turning but it does require some initial effort to get the crank started. This effort is never hard when broken down into simple steps but it may be hard from a mental aspect as it will require a shift in perspective. It takes determination to change. Determination is the effort required to start the crank. Action keeps the crank turning, action in joy keeps the Universe flowing positively.
Start somewhere, it doesn’t matter where, just start living as though you are already the weight you wish to be. You will know when you have turned the Universal crank enough to make a difference because you will begin to look and feel the way you wish to look and feel. If you do not look and feel the way you wish to look and feel then put a little more intentional effort into turning that crank.
Let’s say that one more time: if you have not achieved It, whatever It is, then you must put more effort into it (or possibly give it a little more time). The Universe always responds in the positive, you are the variable in the equation. The variable is the amount of belief a person has in their ability to achieve their goal and is reinforced each step of the way by their attitude. The more positive the attitude the more positive the response from the Universe.
Wanting is the first step that drives a person to move towards a goal. Action is required. Those actions produce results that either positively or negatively influence the amount of belief a person holds regarding their ability to achieve their goal. If the actions you are taking are not producing positive expectation for success then you must strengthen your resolve and take firmer (and happier, more expectant) steps towards your goal.
One more statement about ‘hard’. From a Universal standpoint achieving anything is simple. From a physical standpoint effort may need to be exerted. The Seahawks and Broncos are going to the Super Bowl. We maintain that while their desire was strong and their commitment to their goal steady, it did take a significant amount of effort on the part of each individual to achieve their common goal.
Again, you will know when you’ve exerted enough effort on your part, both physical and mental, because the Universe will bend to your will.
When this balance of physical and mental effort is perfected you will understand what Jesus preached. Mountains will get up and move for you.
Received January 25, 2014 at Lake Goodwin, Washington
Question: I have too much to do. I can’t get it done. It feels like I will never catch up to all the things I need to do.
Higgins: If there is nothing you can do to solve this today then relax about where you are. Where you are is feeling as though you will never catch up. Relax with that. Come to peace with that. Once you have relaxed in the realization that you cannot solve the problem today you are ready for solutions. Break the problem down into smaller parts. Don’t try to solve it entirely in one day. Instead, do today what must be done and what can easily be done. Then look for patterns in your own behavior that create too much to do. A little at a time let go those habits. At the same time, ask for solutions to the current tasks at hand. They will come. You will develop new good habits thus fewer tasks will be created for you to do.
A system for getting things done is to make a list of all the things you need to do. Do those that must be done. Allow the Universe to solve the rest. In this process, solutions will come to mind more easily and in some instances others will miraculously accomplish tasks for you.
Received January 14, 2014 at Chandler, Arizona USA
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