What is Emotional Hardness?

Posted on October 13, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     What is emotional hardness?

Higgins:     Emotional hardness is experienced when one holds themselves out of the Universal Flow.

There exists a flow of energy, like a river or a stream. This energetic flow is the thing that Is in the Universe. Each of you has complete freedom of choice here in this physical realm meaning you have the choice to flow with the stream or against the stream. All things that occur with the stream occur easily, naturally, without fuss or effort. All things that occur against the stream require effort and are uncomfortable.

A person who is emotionally hard is one who consistently holds themselves aloof from the Flow. Life for this person is generally hard and without much ease and pleasure. Further, for this person the future does not appear to be better than the now. That makes for a depressing outlook and a person who is emotionally hard has steeled themselves against the disappointment of the life they live.

We understand why and how a person becomes emotionally hard. We also know that unless that person relaxes emotionally life will not get easier.

It seems a little backwards to many. Seemingly, if life’s events caused a person to respond by developing emotional hardness then shouldn’t a change in life’s events towards easier and smoother allow a shift back towards emotional softness and flow?

It may seem that way however the Universe itself does not work this way. Instead, emotional relaxation causes a shift in the Universal Flow such that nicer more pleasant things come and the arrival of such makes further relaxation easier. In this way it is a positive feedback loop, always encouraging relaxation and (in a way) punishing emotional hardness.

The pummeling a human can take is quite astounding. You are resilient creatures, however eventually one who holds themselves in the emotionally hard place will cave in to anger and depression, developing negative health issues. While it takes a good long time, this road eventually leads to death.

Those of you who relax into your own well-being are happier. You thrive. Good health, longevity and prosperity are yours. So few of you do this fully that it is not much in your consciousness to do so. Nonetheless, this particular road leads to the sort of extended longevity the Bible talks about.

Received October 13, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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When Your Heart Is Happy

Posted on October 10, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     What does it mean when my heart is happy?

Higgins:     Imagine that you are in a comfortable raft floating along in a stream. As long as you choose to flow downstream in the raft life is easy. There is very little work to do because the flow of the stream pushes you along at a pleasant rate. From time to time a little steering is necessary but other than that all that is required of you is to enjoy the time spent floating on the water.

Should you decide to change direction and go upstream immediately the work involved becomes notable. Now paddling is required and that can be very strenuous. Additionally, you can never stop paddling or you will float back downstream.

That is a simple analogy of life in the physical realm. There is a flow of energy and you either flow with it or struggle against it.

When you feel happy it means you are flowing in harmony with the Universal Flow. When you feel in any way out of sorts you are, in some way, paddling against the Stream of Life.

That’s all there is to it. If you feel good you are flowing with Life Itself and if you do not feel good you are holding yourself out of the Universal Flow.

To respond specifically to the question, “What does it mean when my heart is happy?”, we must delve into the human body. The brain is much like a receiver and transmitter while the heart is the decoder or communications specialist. The heart translates information received by the brain into emotion and that is why it sometimes feels as though your heart itself is happy (or breaking).

Received October 10, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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When A Comment Makes People Turn Against You

Posted on October 8, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     Higgins, what happens when a comment I make causes people to turn against me?

Higgins:     Unseen forces steer the goings on of Planet Earth and all the Universe. Imagine a web of energy running every possible direction. This is what you exist within and everything occurs within this web. This web is sometimes called the matrix.

Let’s further envision this web as magnetic and each of you is drawn along magnetic lines. You cannot help being drawn along these lines for this is how the Universe works.

When something negative happens it means that you’ve been drawn magnetically into this negativity. Just as easily the matrix can draw positive experience. The difference between being drawn into positive versus negative experience is your personal energetic offering prior to the positive or negative experience.

Let’s say for example that you are headed to meet a few friends for coffee but you’re feeling just a little off today. The reason doesn’t matter but the energetic frequency  you emit does. When you are off kilter emotionally this energy is emitted to the Universe. The Universe responds by (magnetically) drawing you through the matrix towards experiences equal to the energy you are emitting.

Any number of negative things can occur depending upon the emotion you carry. For this example let’s say that the world seems heavy and unfriendly today. When you open your mouth to speak you simply cannot help but utter words that could be misconstrued or found by others to be somehow offensive. If they themselves are in a  good mood the Universal matrix will draw them towards hearing the best in what you had to say. Otherwise, it is likely they will take offense and you may feel that your comment caused people to turn against you.

This is easily solvable. Each morning spend a few minutes setting your intent for the day. Your thoughts may run like this:

I would like my day to flow smoothly and easily. I wish to speak my truth with kindness. I choose to engage in positive interaction with those I meet today and every day. I choose to remain centered in my personal Truth although the world may seem crazy around me.

We encourage you to customize this for your own happiness and satisfaction. When you are able to remain stable and centered in your own Truth you will less often be drawn into uncomfortable situations. This takes some practice and undoubtedly there will be times when you feel you’ve done all the ‘right’ things to set up a pleasant day and still negativity pops in. We assure you that with practice and persistence life will smooth out and every day will be easier, brighter and more fulfilling.

Received October 8, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Wife Doesn’t Like Husband’s Friends

Posted on October 7, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins relative to an internet search for ‘wife doesn’t like husbands friends’ that brought a reader to our site.

Higgins:     This is a difficult response to make in writing for there are so many variables as to why the friends are not liked. If the friends are abusive, if they steal from you, these are sound reasons not to like someone. We usually say that every single one of you physicals is a kind and wonderful human and any negative expression is simply a signal that you’ve become out of synch with your Eternal Truth. While this is true, understanding this does not stop a person from abusing you and if this is the case then we would not stay in this situation even for a moment. This means that even if it meant leaving the spouse we would be gone for victimization is simply too low a vibration to tolerate.

If this is not the case then something happens that makes the wife feel uncomfortable. We encourage cooperation between husband and wife to determine what particularly is not liked. For example, if his friends come over and quite a lot of work on her part is required she may become resentful. Find a solution together such as allow the husband to clean afterwards or offer simpler food. Remember, husband, that if you agree to do some cleaning or some other chore  to make this easier on her make the cleaning or the chore you do high quality. A poor job on your part negates the goodwill of the arrangement.

Another possibility is that the wife is unwilling to participate in making this situation better. Again, sift through the possible reasons she may dislike your friends. If any of the possibilities are solvable, solve them quietly and conscienciously.

In addition, we recommend some pre-thought/pre-planning on the husband’s part relative to non-verbal, non-action creating. Spend a little time each day to truly admire one thing about your wife. No action whatsoever is required on your part other than the effort it takes to think up one nice thing about your wife. Yet a nice sort of harmony will begin to develop, unseen, between you that will help her feel secure in your relationship.

These are three possibilities to help when a wife doesn’t like her husband’s friends. There are many other possible situations that are not addressed here. Should any of you feel need for greater clarity please send us questions. We are always delighted to entertain questions for there is tremendous growth within a question.

Received October 7, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

 

 

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Comment Without Judgement

Posted on October 6, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

Whenever you judge something you are making a conscious determination that one thing is right (or better) and another wrong (or worse). The fact is, there is no Universal right or wrong. There is only what feels right or wrong for you. This is an important distinction because what is right for one may not be right for another and similarly, what is wrong for one may not be wrong for another.

Fortunately, each of you has a personal system in place for decision-making. This system assists each individual in making impeccable decisions that are in harmony with all things. The system works for every decision that could ever present itself and is 100% portable. It travels with you everywhere and is available at all times.

The system we are talking about is your heart. Every thought you have is considered by your Broader Being. Relative to the agreement you have with your Broader Self regarding your desires for this lifetime (which were made before you were born) this Broader Being offers emotions that register in your heart and body.

The information you need is offered regardless of whether you respond to it so all you have to do to use this heart based decision-making system is simply begin listening to your heart and body. For every decision you need to make there will be a slight upswing or downswing within the heart. Sometimes the decision comes down to a feeling that is least worst but nonetheless the right decision always feels somewhat better than the other options.

Since everyone has their own system designed specifically for them there is simply no value in judging them or their decisions for you cannot ever know better than they. It defies laws in place within the Universe to be able to make decisions for another and many a marvelous idea has been stifled by criticism.

So next time you feel that urge to comment on another’s decisions….stop. Remind yourself that you simply cannot know what the other’s path is. Instead, practice finding words that are uplifting and supportive. You will find that choosing words that are positive and non-judgemental will enhance your life experience in myriad unpredictable ways.

Received October 6, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Higgins’ Notion of Happiness

Posted on October 5, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     What is Higgins’ notion of happiness?

Higgins:     Happiness is an emotion that feels light, one that cannot be fully achieved when one is weighted by worries or generally angry and displeased with life. All of you from time to time have  break through moments of happiness when someone says something funny, for example. Or for others the birth of a child within the family can produce a sense of light-heartedness. Nonetheless, our description of happiness is a state of being rather than a moment in time. It is an emotional set-point.

To better understand an emotional set-point think of a person who is habitually depressed or one who seemingly is angry about something most of the time. These are emotional set-points, fall-back emotions that rise to the surface quickly and easily. We often call these emotions baseline emotions because they are so easy and quick to bubble to the surface and usually surface first. After consideration these people often see the humor in a situation or change their attitude but depressed, woe is me sort of responses or angry responses show up first.

So when asked our notion of happiness, we consider a person to be happy when happiness is the set-point, the baseline emotion that shows up first. These people tend to be light of heart, pleasant of word, creative in thought, inclusive and uplifting. It is not that problems do not pop up in the lives of happy people. Happy people simply do not perceive problems as the same sort of hurdle or inconvenience that depressed or angry people do.

A life lived from the set-point of happiness is extremely satisfying. Each of you has the capacity to achieve happiness but it can be a long and bumpy road from depression or anger to happiness. We encourage you to start the journey now. It is a rewarding road to travel.

Received October 4, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Living Without Judgement

Posted on October 4, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Offering from Higgins:

All things that exist anywhere are aspects of that which many call God. Even Lucifer is a part of God. All that Lucifer assists into being here on Earth is therefore part of God.

Consider for a moment that there is no good or bad. If that is the case (and it is) then making judgement places a barrier between you and everything else that exists (God).

It is commonly believed that God judges you physicals as you die and condemns each of you either to heaven or hell. This is not the case. God does not judge. God participates in creation with you. God observes your highs and lows. God holds compassion for all and condemnation for none. God loves. But God does not judge.

God has created a Universe based on attraction. You are created in His image meaning that you also create by attraction. Life circumstances are created by you and are relative to the emotion you emit. Emotion is emitted continually and varies from despondence to rage to happiness. When the primary offering is one of happiness life circumstances are very sweet. When the primary offering is low such as despondence or anger life circumstances tend to be hard and bitter.

When you begin judging yourself or others a wedge is driven between you and your desires. If you will instead consider that all things are a continuum, neither good nor bad, you will remove the wedge.

From this less resistant position you then may ascertain which things feel better to you and which feel worse. Then, without  judgement, focus upon those things that feel better to you. Your emotions will feel more positive and you will then begin to draw correspondingly positive life experience.

Those things that tend to be judged as bad are simply markers or sign posts signaling to you to go the other way, to make a different choice. Friends, how can a sign post saying, “Do Not Enter/Wrong Way,” be judged as bad?

Live life without judgement for those things you judge as bad are often the most helpful experiences life offers.

Received October 3, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Where Is Mankind Heading? (Part Two)

Posted on October 3, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:    Where is mankind heading?

Note from Cheryl:     part one was published September 26, 2012

Higgins:     Understand that mankind is on a journey to reconnect with their personal source of eternal wisdom. The Earth itself and all things upon it, whether rocks or bees, are sentient beings. The Earth is on a journey of self-unfolding just as you are and in its process of self-discovery and self-actualization the Earth is speeding up. It is not zooming along faster in its orbit, instead the body of the Earth is vibrating faster.

Think of a single molecule. Each molecule vibrates its own rate. The Earth vibrates, too. In what is being called The Shift of The Ages all that is happening is that the Earth’s vibration is increasing.

What this means for mankind is that mankind (and all other beings upon the planet) must increase the speed of their vibration to match the Earth’s new vibration. Any beings not matching the Earth’s new vibration will be figuratively thrown off, like a cowboy tossed from the back of a bucking horse.

Humans are capable of vibrating within a range from slower to quicker. These vibrations are experienced as emotions. Slow emotions feel like depression and disabling fear, mid-range vibrations encompass rage/anger/frustration/impatience while quicker vibrations feel like hope, happiness and compassion.

With planet Earth’s increase in vibration mankind must improve their own vibration to stay upon the planet. What this means for mankind is that the lowest range of emotion  any of you will be able to carry will be higher than before and therefore the most negative of emotions will not be attainable.

Where is mankind heading? To answer that we ask you: what will mankind be able to envision, to create and to live when the slowest, most uncomfortable emotions no longer exist, when the midrange emotion is hope rather than anger and when the higher end emotions are beyond bliss?

Where is mankind heading? You tell us what you want to do, what you want to create and what sort of life you want to live….then we’ll all know…for you are creating what is to come right now.

Received October 2, 2102 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

From Cheryl:    Go to higginsandco.bandcamp.com. There is a 15 minute musical meditation called Earthbliss Relaxation. Meditate to this to experience the new Earth vibration that is coming soon!

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I Don’t Feel Compassion For My Husband

Posted on October 2, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Question:     I don’t feel compassion for my husband.

Higgins:     Compassion is a wonder-full emotion. A heart filled with this emotion is a happy heart. The development of compassion is all about you and you living life fully and in harmony with your True Being. We encourage its cultivation.

To begin, we want you to understand that nothing is wrong with your husband. He is perfect in every way. If he exhibits behavior other than loving, kind, generous, gently humorous, fun-loving and wise then he simply reflects a life out of balance with his True Being. All of you carry these fine characteristics. Each of you also carries not so fine characteristics.

The development of compassion is all about knowing in a deep and abiding way that all humans are pure, sincere, heart beings. It is knowing that life is a difficult game and that each of you gets off-track from time to time.

Most (but not all) physicals live their entire lives significantly out of synch with their own Eternal Truth. If one is to become disaligned the disalignment from one’s Eternal Being begins about 6 months of age, sometimes earlier, and is quite marked by about 10 years old. Further significant disalignment occurs through the remainder of school age years and 20’s when socialization is occurring. This is a general rule rather than a hard rule.

Knowing the beauty of your own soul, knowing the beauty of your husband’s soul and knowing that neither of you had any control over the powers that helped disconnect you from your personal sources of eternal wisdom allows compassion to surface within you. Remember that you yourself do not manufacture emotions. Emotions are offered by your source of eternal wisdom, your Broader Being, relative to the thoughts you think, the words you speak and the actions you commit.

So when your husband exhibits behavior that is unappealing your reaction needs to be to remind yourself that he is a beautiful, wise soul on such a difficult life journey that he has begun to express the not so beautiful part of himself which he would only do if he were really struggling. Get this part: another person only exhibits negative behavior if they are really struggling with the difficulty of the Earth experience.

Developing compassion is about you reconnecting to your source of eternal wisdom. When you know for sure that hardship often leads to behavior that is out of synch with the eternal beauty that each of you is, it is much easier to relax. When you relax about anything positive emotion swells to the surface of your conscious being.

This is how one develops compassion.

Received October 2, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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Elevating Self-Esteem

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Cheryl Jensen

Note from Cheryl:     Higgins is answering this question in parts. Read How to Help Self-Esteem published September 29, 2012 before proceeding with this response.

Question:     Hi Higgins. Do you have any advice on how to help self-esteem? Especially to attract a romantic partner?

Higgins:     The first step in elevating self-esteem is to regain energetic and emotional balance. We explained how to do that in a previous response. We encourage you to practice this. It will help you feel stronger and that is a desirable beginning.

The next step is to begin paying attention to thoughts and the way you feel with each thought.

Your Eternal Being constantly monitors thoughts, words and actions offering emotion relative to everything. This means that the moment thinking starts emotions start rolling and there goes the energetic balance you’ve only just regained.

Actively notice the emotion that each thought brings. If a thought brings negative emotion change the thought until the emotion that comes with it feels stronger. The stronger emotion produced by the new thought means the thought is true for you where negative emotion means the thought is not true for you.

For example, let’s say you’ve finished dressing and are standing in front of a mirror. Your outfit does not look as good as you thought it would and you do not like what you see. You say to yourself, “I am ugly.” A negative emotion will arise because your Broader Being does not support this thought. Search around in your mind for another thought such as, “This outfit doesn’t flatter me.” A more neutral or even slightly more positive emotion will arise because this thought is true. If you then follow-up with action and change into a more flattering outfit you will then look in the mirror and realize an uplifted heart.

Each time you are able to connect a thought to resultant negative emotion then change the thought to that which is Truth for you energetic balance is maintained.

At first almost constant attention is required to stay balanced. Each time you notice that your mind has slipped into negative thinking find energetic balance then search for the thought that is true. With practice you will discover that stopping to regain energetic balance in itself stops other thoughts thus producing a neutral mind. Searching for thoughts that are true will move your thoughts in a positive direction. If thoughts do not move positively then re-balance and begin again.

Thoughts that feel positive are true for you and thoughts that feel negative are untrue for you. You can count on this every thought, every word, every action, every time from now until then end of your days on Earth. No exceptions.

Keep in mind that stronger emotion produced by new thought means the thought is true for you. Each person has their own Truth and what is true for you may not be true for someone else. Only you knows what is right for you and you do not know what is right for anyone else (not even your children and we’ll talk about that in another segment).

Acting from this place of Truth will lead each of you on your respective journeys. You will become clear about who you are and at the same time realize that each has their own Truth that is equally beautiful, if different from yours. When you live life clearly like this you radiate an inner confidence that is very attractive. From this place of confidence friends and romantic partners will be easy to find for they will draw towards you like moths to light.

Received October 1, 2012 at Lake Goodwin, Washington

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